So those of you who were lucku and blessed enough tho have your man cry at your child's birth...?

Question

When did they start the crying? When you were in labor pains, during crowning/incision(c-section), actual delivery, or a few momentas after, or all of the above. Just wanting to know so I can go ball my eyes out and be sad since I got none of the above from my man. I just know I sound insane, but you ladies are so very heavenly blessed. please know that. I'd give anything to have had what you did. And I had a complicated, hypertensive delivery, so both of us being A-ok was a miracle. My husband is unbeleiveable

Answer 1

I think you might need to see your doc for some PPD medicine. I got really depressed after the birth of my son and found I was focused on the wrong things ...things that didn't really matter. There is no reason for you to be so sad that your hubby didn't cry in front of you, each person shows their emotion differently.

I didn't cry when my son was born, and I'm a woman, does that mean my husband should be mad at me? Does it make me a bad parent. I don't believe so.

With some counseling and some medicine, you might be able to remove the fog of sadness and emotional dismay and begin to learn to love and enjoy what you have, a healthy baby after a hard pregnancy and a husband who is there in your life. Life is so very short, don't spend it focusing on negative things...please get some help and take care of yourself and your relationship. Your family needs you positive and focused.

Answer 2

Cheer up Sad mama....perhaps ur man is to manly, to cry in front of you! Maybe next time he will cry. You went through it and that is what is important. My husband cryed with me right after our kids were born. However, since then we have cryed a lot together. Okay so, I cry more then him, but you know these female hormones. Don't be sad, sometimes a good cry makes me feel better. I would just talk to ur husband, there must be a reason he is afraid to show that kind of emotion with you. Eventually, something will happen and he will have to let it come out, just talk to him that is what I would do! Good luck!! Cheer up!!! U should be happy to be a Mama!

Answer 3

Why is crying at the birth a requirement for a good husband and father? My husband nor I cried at the birth. You know when we cried? When we had to watch our tiny son be put through a ton of tests and have needles stuck in his arms and legs and in his nose and down his throat. You just said you have a miracle, be thankful for that and leave your husband alone. You don't sound insane, you sound obsessed with it.

Answer 4

I agree with camoprincess. PLEASE get off the computer and call your doctor now. I know what it's like to be depressed after birth - I had some issues after the birth of my second child. Please stop misplacing your feelings and blaming your husband - it sounds like he has really stepped up to the plate. You had a traumatic birth, and it can be hard to adjust to the fact that your birthing process did not go as planned. You need to talk to your doctor honestly about your feelings - he/she should be able to help. If not, find a new doctor. Best wishes, and kiss that baby, and your husband.

Answer 5

Most men are embarassed and humiliated to cry in public. I don't think you should worry, enjoy the new born baby and blessing that touched your home. Some men need a little bit more time to get used to the fact that they are fathers. But it will happen.

Answer 6

you shouldn't judge him for that, it doesn't mean he felt any less - my hubby cried because he couldn't stand to see me in so much pain, but not at the delivery, it was too exciting, too much going on to even think of crying. I never cried at all, at my own daughters birth, am I bad?
-you may be suffering post-partum depression, see a doctor, get some pills, you'll feel much better! Good luck!

Answer 7

Don't think that b/c he didn't cry that he does care. My husband didn't cry at the birthes of any of our 3. BUT when his brother's wife was preg and they were talking about the birth he was telling him how awesome and special it was. So hang in there, I didn't cry when my kids were born either and nobody thinks I don't love them or their dad. People just express themselves differently. Does he brag about the baby and want to hold him/her, take it places? Relax everything is gonna be fine.

Answer 8

My husband is a paramedic, so he convinced my Dr. to let him deliver..(with the Dr's supervision, of course). It was after. When they had Preston in the baby warmer and were cleaning him up. My friend and coach, snapped a picture of him looking at his son with tears in his eyes and such love, it floored me. He just had this proud look on his face. Preston is almost 4 now and my hubby still looks at him like that.

Answer 9

I didnt even cry! You need to not be on yahoo answers right now. take a nap and feed the baby and stop crying. the baby can feel your tension. take a deep breath. go kiss your husband lightly on the lips and go lay down.

Answer 10

Call your doctor NOW! This is like your 5th post on this topic. You need to talk to a professional immediately!!!

He didnt cry. GET OVER IT! As youve said in previous posts, he is there for your daughter, bathes her, plays with her sings to her. Count your blessings there and move on!!!!!