There is this guy that i was dating for a long time!!! we both loved each other!!! but all of a sudden evertime im with him i feel so nasty!! Its like he is a bug!!! That i just wanna step on and kill!!!But he on the other hand still loves me and the last thing i wanna do is hurt him!! Cause i know how that feels to get hurt by someone you love so much!!!! but if i saty with him i wont be happy!!! I have tried to find ways around this but it just wont work!!!i still dont find him attractive!! Any-more!!!! I dont know what to do!!! someone help me!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-30 07:58:58 · 33 answers · asked by ashley_mcfarland06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're going to hurt him one way or the other. Just be honest and tell him you're feelings have changed and you don't want to date him anymore. He'll get over it after a while (unless he's psycho).
2006-06-30 08:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Landslide 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way out. He's going to get his feelings hurt. Just let him know that you feel like a relationship won't work for you right now in your life. Tell him he's a wonderful person, and you appreciate the time you spent with him. Then cut off all contact. He might hate you, that's common and sometimes unavoidable. But look at it this way, the more he hates you the less it will hurt in the long run and the easier it will be for him to move on.
2006-06-30 08:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by AnswerBlaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not write a letter. But you do need to figure out why you feel this way. Do you really not like him anymore, or is there something else going on in your life? It could be as simple as you are just ready to move on. It's not fair to him or you that you stay with him out of pity, and if he wants a pity-relationship, then you shouldn't be with him anyway. Sit down and talk to him, privately (*never* make rejection a public matter), and explain how you feel. Start with saying how unsatisfied you've been recently, tell him that you don't want a pity relationship. "I still want to be friends" doesn't seem to go over well, so I would suggest not saying that. Let him suggest it, if it's something he's up to. Otherwise, he'll probably prefer to make a clean break, rather than see you go out with other guys.
2006-06-30 08:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by b30954 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, go buy yourself a big set of balls and use them to tell the guy how you feel, in a nice way. Don't leave any room for negotiation. Don't worry about hurting his feelings. "I need to tell you something and I know it's going to hurt you. I need to step away from this relationship. I cannot give back what you want me to give anymore. You're a great guy...for someone else".....none of that lets-b-friends crap either.
If you don't break it off, you're doing him and yourself a huge disservice. So, do him a favor and tell him the truth. Trust me, he'll get over it. You can't go through life pretending....so stop doing it now. This is one of those times you can chalk up to "maturity". Good Luck.
2006-06-30 08:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop using him for things. He is always there for you when no one else is giving you unconditional love. You are doing a little something that makes him continue to stay (not meaning sex). What ended the relationship in the first place? Start to distance yourself, don't return his calls and when he does call tell him you have plans. Tell him the truth, he will be fine with it. It will hurt but he will be fine with it, your the one that wont be!
2006-06-30 08:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by never_stepback 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him how you feel. I think that that would be the best solution. I know I wouldn't want my girlfriend to have a false relationship with me. I would much rather hear the outright truth no matter how much it hurts. There really is no way around it!
Life goes on, he will realize there are other girls to persue. You can at least offer your friendship to him, that should help things.
2006-06-30 08:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by draska02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you want to be with a guy you loved who COULDNT STAND YOU?? i sure wouldnt. id rather be with someone who loved me too. its not fair to him to keep talking to him. i would invent a new b/f even if youre not talkign to anyone. he calls to talk or hang out, you tell him, "oh ive got something going on today, can we talk later?" do this continuously. if he doesnt get the picture in a few weeks, tell him youve got a really busy life and you dont think you have time to chill with him. if he still doesnt get this avoid his calls, if he still calls you and wont leave you the **** alone, id call the cops or his mother. might be nutty.
2006-06-30 08:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by california gurlie poo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey... you gotta talk to him... you can't predict the sideaffects of course.... whether he's gonna cry or be angry or scream... but it's the least hurtful way you can finish this in my opinion. It's hard, I know... I've been there (well I've been the guy) but anyway--just do it and hope for the best. But if he doesn't stick off of you, just give up and ignore him... he'll stick off of you in the end. Lots of luck!
2006-06-30 08:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by brother from QG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's going to get hurt anyway. Get it over with. Tell him...Hey...what we had was great. Please note the words "had" and "was".
You're a nice guy but I don't love you and I've met someone else. Good luck and we can still say hello and be civil to one another.
If he can't take it then he was immature and too juvenile for you anyway.
2006-06-30 08:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with him. It´s hard, and miserable to hurt other people but you have to do it now. You can only do what´s right for you and this obviously isn't.
(My personal cowardly way around this was to change cities, but it shouldn't be that drastic)
2006-06-30 08:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by Alex G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋