I ended a relationship,which was the love of my life, 2 years ago.Till now I didn't have a serious boyfriend-only a few crushs.But a boy appeared and now we are together.I really like the new one,I feel so comfortable with him(he is the boy of every girls' dreams) and I have feelings.But he studies in other city and when he is not near me and suddenly I see my last boyfriend butterflies appear in my stomach.I really want to be with the new one(who is in love with me),but do I only use him for annoying the last one?
2006-06-30 07:51:48 · 15 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no! get through this on your own its called a..crutch...dont do it, get back into another relationship when your ready dont use one to get over one, it just dont work
2006-06-30 07:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't something you choose to do it just happens you can't control it. I have been hurt in my life also and never thought I'd love anyone again but it slipped up on me and it was the best thing that could have happened.Rebounds are a part of getting over a loss and that's what it sounds like with this guy.You may always have strong feelings for the ex and maybe you just haven't found the right one for you to replace those feelings with .Using this current guy is only hurting the poor guy that's being used it's not hurting your ex.Because if he really wanted you sweety he'd be with you.My advice is to move on try and find your Mr perfect he's out there somewhere you just gotta be patient.Good luck and from someone who has been there before it will get better.I am in love and married now and i never thought i would ever be able to give my love to another man.just hang in there
2006-06-30 08:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by blinkblinkme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I really want to be with the new one(who is in love with me),but do I only use him for annoying the last one?"
You really need to make up your mind and not mislead the new boyfriend.
Don't you feel like trash when saying I am "USING" someone? - Has it ever been right and correct to use someone?
If I was one of your boyfriends - I would run from you - so far away that you would never find me .... You do not seem to have a good self esteem and surely don't know what you want.
You might need to stop dating and make up your mind as to what you want in life! Find out who you are, and security where you are before trying to get married - or it could be desasterous!
PLEASE be honest with your new boyfriend! or back off from this relationship until you know who you want! Don't play with a man's heart and emotions!
2006-06-30 08:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by Yafa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about this new guy, don't use him. If he was to ever find out, he would be crushed. Besides, then you're playing him for the fool. Think if it was the other way around. If it was a little more casual, I would say go for it, but it sounds like this guy is getting serious with you. And it sounds like you still have some hard core feelings for the old guy. You need to decide who holds your heart, and go for it. Games are no good when it comes to the heart.
2006-06-30 07:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by AmandaHugandKiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu seem to really like the new guy but you still have lingering feelings for the old one. Think of the bad things that happened in your last relationship that caused it to end and that will probably make you see that it is not the old guy you want. the new guy could be so much better for you. i have my man who is far and my ex is here but it works because i know how bad my ex was!
2006-06-30 08:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say the best way to get over a old love is to find a new one. You will always love your exboyfriend but there was a reason you two broke up so move on and smoothly transition your feelings to your new guy.
2006-06-30 07:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that you are using the new boyfriend. It takes time to heal wounds and you'll forget about the old friend with time. You just need some time for yourself.
2006-06-30 07:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me you need to grow up. Using a boy to make the other jealous is just completely immature.
2006-06-30 07:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope when you read your question back you reflected on the type of selfish, self-absorbed person you are. maybe you should take it into consideration that you are thinking about "using" a human being. i know its hard to think about someones feelings other than yourself right now, but really really try.
2006-06-30 08:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by atrum_et_sapidus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dnt think u should because u never no it could come around and bite u rite in the butt..or worse it could end up hurting u again.if u really like him then sit and tlk w/ him about how much study time he does.
2006-06-30 07:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the time you need to get over the last. dont run out and find someone else to replace when you know yr still getting over him.dont want to use someone because of it. this wouldnt be fair on him
2006-06-30 07:56:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋