Is it too early???

Question

My daugther is 9 years old and I am wondering when is the best time to talk to about the periods and sex? I have read on here and heard people talk about 9 yr olds having their periods, having sex and having babies. My daugther isn't into boys like that (I know that for a fact) but I just wonder if I should talk to her about it. If so how do I start out? It just worries me even though she still plays with her baby dolls and stuff and she doen't go any where except to her dads on the weekends and to chruch and school. How big of percent do girls have their period at 9.

I want to thank everybody in advance for the help.

How would you talk to a 9 yr old about it?

Answer 1

Have the talk....check local hospitals to see if there is a program for girls and their moms to explain the physical changes a girl's body goes through during puberty. In my area, the program is called "Growing Up-Girls," and I have included a web link so you can see what I mean.

Answer 2

Most of my well rounded freinds and family all were introduced to these topics by great books. There are many out there that help give kids the info on thier time. I had wonderful teachers in school cover the topic with me starting around age 9-10. I think the earlier the better these days. Let her read and know and be open to any question.

Answer 3

Watch for the signs of puberty. Breast buds, armpit and genital hair are the main ones. Then usually with a year the period will start.

I talked to my daughter a bit about periods and growing up. She tends to be a little "ahhhhh, mom ....I know ...and rolls her eyes" .... but she started when she was 10.5 yrs old.

We found a wonderful book that I would recommend to any and all girls between the ages of 9 and 12. It's called "The Care and Keeping of Your Body" -- published by the American Girl Publishers. Best $10 I ever spent. I know she refers to it quite often (she's 11). It doesn't touch on sex, but deals with bras, changing of their bodies, how to deal with other people ..... important stuff for girls this age.

Websites such as Tampax, Kotex, etc have some great information on how to talk to your young lady about periods and growing up.

Good luck .... our babies are growing up !!!!

Answer 4

You should be talking to her about it already, because she will hear it from friends who know about it. Sometimes kids seem to get bad information. Mom should be a source of good information. YOu can show her pads & tampons in the store and the ones you use. I'm not saying she's into boys or anything. But good information will not be harmful. I have heard of girls that are shocked and think they are dying when they get their period. More likely friends will be talking about it. Ask her what she's heard and correct anything that is wrong. Kids need accurate information about everything, including sex & periods. For example if someone tries to molest her she should know what to do. You should talk to her about that; about how she is in contol of who touches her and where and she has a right to say no etc. Nine is not too early. No age is too early.

Answer 5

Iam not sure about the increasing % of kids getting periods at 9, but i have heard a caseb4....But let me tell u something, kids now-a-days are smarter than what their parents would think of them...They will start showing drastic changes both physically as well as in their attitude..one fine day u will start noticing the changes.....Always keep in mind that some kids dont bother what their parents would think of them, but some show a good and clean image in front of their parents and amongst their friends circle he/she will be a differennt person.

I had to tell the above stuffs to give u a picture as to how fast the kids grow up...

U have to tell ur daughter about periods and sex now....There is a lot of difference in her coming to know about it from u (being her mother) than her friends (i mean from school)...Give her the necesarry precautions about periods and how she is different when she becomes a LADY.
SO, U GO AHEAD AND TELL HER NOW.

Answer 6

No mom.. it's not too early, but you need to start slow and not overwhelm her with too much info. She will not comprehend it.

When Kate was 9 I explained to her that her body will soon start to change and it can start now or next month or next year.

Then I explained to her some other simple things and I did this once a week.

I started slow and by the time I was done explaining everything and she totally understood, she was 10

She is now 12 1/2 and not there yet, but I constantly remind her and I keep having this "girl" talk with her.

Good luck... it's not that bad....

Answer 7

Some girls start as early as 9 or 10 years old, so yes I would defintely have the talk with her. Just start out with "you are coming to an age when you are becoming a young woman and I want to prepare you for what is going to be going on with your body" It's better that she is prepared and know what's going on, than it to happen and her to panic.

Answer 8

My daughter is 11 now, we've talked about her period... she hasn't started yet. And I keep a pad in her back pack. As for sex, she hasn't asked, so I haven't told her. My son asked when he was 10, and I told him, everything, and he just looked confussed. I told him it would all make sense when he found someone he loved and married. I'm very open with my kids, they ask, I tell. They even tell there friends they can talk to me if they have a problem... I'm glad we are open, so hopefully we won't have any issues like teen age pregnancy, or drugs, or any thing like that. Good luck.

Answer 9

A very small percent start that early, but more and more are starting at 10, 11 and 12. You should explain the basics soon.

Answer 10

Hhhm well she's soon going to be at that age where she has a lot of questions about sexuality, but she's only 9. I think you should wait till she's 10 - double digits at least! Not many girl start getting their period at nine as far as I know.