my mum bullies me?

Question

my mum bullys me and makes me really really ill. she's punishing me even more for being ill. i have been ill since age 11 and not been much help round the house.i have had depression, OCD, PMS and urine incontinence because of my mum and her stupid, childish behaviuor. she acts like a 7 yr old and fights at every thing in life. shes bored and considers herself ill but she's only pretending and ask for sympathy frm all. shes made me cry all my life and still cant get enough of it. why she doing this. does she have a grudge against me? what have i done to deserve this? she said that she never wanted me. why the **** did she have me then. i would have been way better without even having a life the way it is. she's making me want to commit suicide and she doesnt care less. please help someone.
ps i take soooo many medications to get better and all she does is makes my life hell. why? she is a ***** and i dont call her mum no more. she doesnt deserve the name. i call her by focking b**ch.

Answer 1

You're in an extremely tough spot I can relate to from personal experience. They say patience is a virtue.

It's also armor. I had something like what you're going through as a kid, plus a rotten neighborhood to contend with, and had to go to schools where it was obvious they were just training up thugs to replenish the ranks of organized crime, you might say.

Not everyone is fit to be a parent, though they might've had children. Presently, I am estranged from my entire family. But, I came to the realization that it wasn't me.

It was them.

You build a life for yourself. You're probably too young and can't leave just yet. Associations are something you must treat nowadays, more than at any other time, as a potential threat. They say if at the end of your life you've made one friend, that's a lot.

At no other time is this more true. Right now, I do have great expectations and anticipate much. I know I won't be disappointed. I can't go into that. I don't have 'friends' and really trust no one. I'm also not bonkers, anti social, or some clever psychiatric appellation thereof.

Let the whole world be what it is. You be honorable. You be decent. You be forthright. You be honest.

You can't go wrong doing the right thing. No matter how bad your situation. The world pretends to admire and encourage these things but in fact hates them and militates against them. Feel free to contact me any time you feel like it.

Answer 2

I know exactly what you mean. I was bullied a lot by my mother and my former stepfather for most of my life, and after a particularly bad incident 2 years ago, I decided that I didn't need to have her in my life if I didn't want her there, and I haven't spoken to her since.

If you're an adult, you don't have to let her control you. You can make decisions for yourself, and if she doesn't like that, then tough s**t. Do yourself a favor and take control of your life, and you should definitely find yourself an inexpensive therapist to help you with your problems. There are places out there that use interns that are studying to become psychiatrists and psychologists instead of actual doctors to give them some real-life experience. Places like that are usually very affordable and can give you the help it sounds like you desperately need.

From someone who has been in a very similar situation, I hope that things work out for you and that you never decide to just give up completely.

Answer 3

Giggles,

You and your mother need some counseling and possibly some antidepressent medication.

None of your medical problems appear to be the kind that prevent you from leading a normal life.

You need to concentrate on things you can control, like going to school, making friends, getting good grades, finding a man, and moving on with your life. I don't know how old you are, but YOU need to get control over what you think and do.

If you are still very young, like 12, then you may need to enlist your mother's aid in getting help for both of you. If she won't listen, you need to see if there is any other adult you can count on to get you two some help.

Don't despair. Life is going to get better! But you are going to have to take some initiative.

Answer 4

sweetheart, calm down. i know that you may be frustrated. first of all no one is worth taking your life for!!! get that clear!!! i have similar problems with my mother and i have learnt over the years to make myself happy.

you sound as though you are young. hold on and put things in place to get away. concentrate on school so that upon graduation u can get a good job, a place to stay and start your own life.

that's what i did. and i have been happier for it. my mom told me the same things and up to today, i am almost 28 and about to have my first baby, some things that she says still rip my heart up. the thing is at least i don't have to face it everyday.

good luck. feel free to leave me your e-mail address and i will contact you. sometimes just talking it though can help a lot.

Answer 5

She is making your life hell because you are over 20 years old and can't write a simple paragraph.

Leave your Mom alone and take a class.

Answer 6

If 1984 is your birth year you are old enough to be out on your own Get help professionally and looking at you Mother as a sick person might help you heal.

Answer 7

You need to quit bi-tching about your mom and appreciate her. You seem like the type of person to deserve this treatment since you are talking crap about her to the world. Get over it. You sound like a crybaby. There are kids out there who are really abused and go through much worse treatment. YOU sound like the one pretending to be ill to get sympathy. Grow up.

Answer 8

sounds like boarder line child abuse....speak to a counselor at school or look in the phone book for family counseling and call

Answer 9

Call Child Protective SErvices...she is abusive, and she needs to get help!

Answer 10

you should call social services.