I've been with a guy for 5 months and things have just ended up quite badly. He told me he was not ready to be in a relationship. We split up yesterterday and guess what!? I saw him today down the beach with one of his ex-girlfriends (whom he kept in touch with while he was still with me.) We had some explanation but obviously he denied everything.
How can men be such jerks? How can a guy sleep with someone else the day after you split up with him??
I got really angry and almost lost it. Never been treated like that, im the one who usually dumps the guys and moves on quickly.
I cant get over it! please help!
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2006-06-30 07:10:44 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank goodness you only wasted 5 months with this loser. you've found out that you don't want this one so get ready for your destiny. Get fit and healthy, go the gym, get your hair done, spend time with the girls and have a laugh. you are now free to find someone really great and only your ego got a bit bashed. it's ok you'll get over it. he obviously has so why let him have anymore of your headspace? He was seeing others when he was with you most likely. don't go to bed with someone until after 6 months and it won't happen like this again. if they won't wait you don't date!
2006-06-30 09:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by minerva 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You are just smarting because he dumped you and it's not a nice feeling.
Can you hand on heart say that you've never slept with someone soon after you dumped one of your old flames?
I am not having a go at you - I certainly found it hard the first time I was dumped (I was a serial dumper) and I thought the world had gone mad and was so bloody unreasonable, until someone pointed out to me that this is perhaps how I've made my ex's feel in the past when I dumped them.
By the time you dump someone, in your own mind they no longer count so why would you stop and consider if you should hang with someone else the next day? You are single and can do what you want, right? Except when the boot is on the other foot.
When you think about it, it will sober your thoughts.
2006-06-30 07:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bajan Deane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a time frame on how long a guy should wait to see someone else after a relationship has ended? I don't think so. At least he broke up with you, and didn't try and be a player and mess with the both of you. Get over it, seems like you just got what was coming anyway!!
2006-06-30 07:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your predicament is one of the reasons that we should all refrain from premarital sex. He didn't respect you from the start, and he never will you were just a piece of a** to him, and you allowed it to happen. He is a dog, and he is shameful. I am sorry that he treated you so poorly. Let it be a major learning experiance for you please, and stop with the premarital sex. Also you need to be fully aware that any guy that yo get involved with has little or no respect for you if he is willing to talk to other girls and acts secretly about them with you. If a guy wants to have other friends that are girls, but has a problem with yopu having friends that are guys, he is telling you from the beginning that he is a player, and is looking for someone else at the same time he is with you. You are getting involved with boys, and really need to look for a man. A man will be willing to respect you and wait for a wedding before having sex. He will also be willing to get engaged with you in a time period between 18-30 months. If he isn't willing, you have found someone who doesnt want a commitmnet.
2006-06-30 07:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a coincidence.
If he was with her the next day then it was most likely planned all along. He dumped you so that he could stray and be 'on a break'. I know lots of blokes who deliberately cause arguements in order to engineer this sort of split.
Don't accept being second best. Move on!
2006-06-30 07:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... you might be over-reacting. He was at the beach with her, not ******* her. You don't know that he's already sleeping with someone else... but I can tell you that I move very quickly out of an old relationship and into a new one... I suppose it's called a "rebound"... if you are used to having someone cuddling you and being with you, and then suddenly you don't have them anymore, you find someone to replace the body heat. It happens... Maybe this other girl is fun for him to be with and she doesn't stress about being in a relationship, so he thought he'd spend time with her now that you aren't really in the picture.
2006-06-30 07:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well his thoughts were on it before the split.
I'v never been the type of guy to do that but have had it done to me.
You are probably better off without him, so look at it as something that showed you his true colors. It's better to find out now than making up with him getting married and he cheats on you when you hit a rough patch.
2006-07-07 04:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by ColvinBri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be mad? He told you he was not ready to be in a relationship, at least he was honest. Apparently what he did desire is the freedom to be with whomever he chose, without ties to any particular individual...he didn't cheat on you, y'all had broken up when he slept with someone else...
Yeah, it's a bruise to the ego that he'd go from your bed (basically) straight into someone else's, but he was honest with you...you just don't like it (and that's understandable)...
Let go of your ego and move on...you said you usually dump guys and move on, which is kind of a power trip...you're not used to someone telling YOU that you're not "it" for them, and then discovering proof of that shortly thereafter...it's going to happen, you aren't always going to get to be the dumpER...sometimes you are the dumpEE...now you have a bit of a taste of what the guys go through when they're told they aren't the one for you...perhaps it'll make you more sensitive and sympathetic when you "dump" them in the future...
2006-06-30 07:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, just a jackass. It's kinda ur fault for choosing a loser. But then U can't help it. Pick a nice guy, it won't happen. A man is over 25 by the way, r u? And a man has respect, he's not a man. Guys that are any good are very very very rare. Yes, I agree w bh etc.
2006-06-30 07:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No disrespect but have you ever heard of the term what goes around comes around. If you say your usually the dumper and move on quickly your getting a bit of your own medicine back.
How do you move on, or get over it.....time. Have you ever thought of giving your self time....time to do what you want, to get to know you and what you want. Take a break from men, and once you do that you may just find the one you've been searching for.
2006-06-30 07:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by AR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋