I feel like I am the only parent who still believes in good old spankings, if you don't get out of hand and

Question

leave marks. Do you feel it is okay to spank kids.

Answer 1

Spanking is okay sometimes. However it should not be the first thing you try , it is not required for everything done wrong , it should not be done just to make you feel better because it helps you get your anger out. It should not be excessive or leave marks. It should not be done if the child is too young to really understand what they did wrong.
Finally you should always ask yourself prior to spanking " What lesson is my child going to learn from this? How is this going to deter future behavior?Is there a better way to teach this lesson?Am I spanking because I am angry or because I honestly feel it is the best way to discipline in this case?"
Discipline should teach not just punish.

Answer 2

Your not the only one, it's just that the true believers in spankings don't comment to much on these boards due to all the hate that is received. funny that all the hateful comments come from the parents who insist that spanking is so wrong. Spanking by it's self wont make good kids, but huge amounts of love and drawing a firm line is a must. And yes that does include a good old fashion spanking ( not just a tap ) from time to time

Answer 3

No, never. You need to be educated on this poor, lazy parenting method of discipline.
This is what spanking and hitting a child will do:
It leads to fear and avoidance. It gives children confusing messages and makes them think that using violence to solve problems is okay. It can introduce problems later on as they grow up for example bullying others, agressive behavior, criminal behaviors, stealing and domestic violence. Parents will spank out of their own anger and frustration because it makes them feel better. I believe it also makes the child become sneaky. It doesn't stop the unwanted behavior long term and children will do anything to avoid being hit. They aren't given a chance to learn from their mistakes, learn how to solve problems, use good judgement, control emotions, or feel confident and secure. Important factors needed as adults in life. You basically change who they are when you hit them. It is hard to justify the admonition "Don't hit!" while the parents are spanking the child for hitting. I get so tired of hearing "I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine." It is just a wimpy, uneducated, destructive way of parenting. Some people might believe that back in the old days, children were much better behaved because they were spanked and now kids are out of control these days because parents don't spank and let their kids run the show. Well, most kids who were spanked back then are the parents you see nowadays that have completely turned the opposite and show qualities of passive parenting. SPANKING ISN'T THE ONLY ALTERNATIVE. My children are never spanked and are happy, confident well behaved kids. I just educated myself on effective ways of discipline and it has payed off. They are not holy terrors. I have worked in 5 daycares and the children that were aggressive used hitting to get their way. They mostly appeared negative and unhappy. And that whole "Spare the rod." is mislead and interpreted the wrong way. It is proven with facts in the site below. I often notice that most people who are spankers cannot spell! It is a sign of lack of education.

Answer 4

well it all depends on what you think is right. i find that most parents when they are spanking there kids they are doing it out of there own anger and that's what i don't believe in. but you know it is against the law to spank your kids if your child went and told a teacher that you had spanked them CPS would be at your house in a quick minute. so be careful. but from my own opinion i don't believe in spanking. i find that there are other alternatives now a days taking toys away no watching T.V and other things like that.

Answer 5

Absolutely, when all else fails, and when it's not done in anger, although that isn't always easy. You're not the only one, there are still a lot of us out there. I was spanked, and it had no negative effect on me, I loved my mom more than life itself, and never felt like she didn't love me. We were best friends(she passed away when I was 17), and I had so much respect for her. So yes, I spank too, and make sure that my kids know I love them even when they're not at their best.

Answer 6

I seriously don't get why so many ppl nowadays think spanking is bad. I mean, which would you rather have? A well-behaved kid who was spanked, or a kid who never got spanked and turned out to be a holy terror?

(I don't have kids yet, but if I do someday I fully intend to spank them if needed.)

Answer 7

I was spanked when I was little if I was bad. I turned out fine. I think it is ok. Maybe I would try putting them on a chair first or taking something away, but sometimes they need to be spanked.

Answer 8

I believe in good ol' fashion spankings. Just by putting your child in time out does not work anymore. That is why there are so many kids these days that are so out of control.

Answer 9

Im not a parent but when i have children theyll be warned and then spanked if they dont listin. There is nothing wrong with spankings as long as you dont get out of hand.

Answer 10

My son gets a tap on the bottom when he has gone too far, not hard he doesn't even feel it but it works.
When kids were allowed to be spanked we didn't have yobs roaming the streets, vandalising and all the other problems we do now