Some one help?

Question

if you were or are a parent and your kid told you that they were molested and they didnot wont to do any thing about it what would you do? please some one answer!

i was i have not told her yet. i dont see why tell he will just deni it i have no proof

Answer 1

A victim shouldn't be the one responsible for deciding if the crime is punished or not. If they were then abusive husbands and parents would never get punished as their victims often feel empathy and love for them and don't want to have the crime prosecuted. While your child may be embarrassed or feel afraid or guilty, it is your job to make sure they understand that it is not their fault , they are the victim , they have nothing to fear and no reason to be ashamed. They need to understand that they were probably not that persons first victim and unless the person is stopped they will not be the last person either. Depending on the age of your child some of this may be too much to understand but you are the adult and you need to seek justice for your child and hopefully prevent it from happening to some other innocent child. Also your child needs to speak to a professional. Even if they think they don't need it ... they do . If you want them to ever be able to move beyond this and have healthy relationships in the future it needs to be dealt with now It is a tragic and difficult situation but pretending it didn't happen just makes everything worse. The feelings just fester under the service until everything in his/her life is effected by what this sick person did to them.Once everything is done your child (if not know then when they are older) will be able to find some sense of peace and closure knowing that the peson who victimized them was held accountable for what they did and that you and the law stood up for them and said "NO!"

Answer 2

The molester needs to be stopped! If it is an adult, it has been proven since the 1930's that they will not stop! If it's another child, that child needs help now! But, your child needs counselling. Child molesters have a way of endearing themselves to the child. This causes long-lasting problems.They often feel conflicted. They know (or have heard) that what happened was wrong. In their mind they wonder if affection is then wrong? How should it be? What should the circumstances have been like? Is sex itself wrong? Etc., etc., etc.. Your child is demonstrating care, concern, and confusion about this person. Out of consideration for your child - he/she doesn't have to know the legal actions taken against this person until ready to know!

Answer 3

Do something! The child is traumatized by the abuse and may have been told by the abuser there would be consequences for reporting. Call the police, a psychiatrist or a Dr and get the kid some help. There is probably an abuse/rape hotline in your community. Check the phonebook or google.

Even if you don't report it, take the child to a trusted physician and get them treatment.

Answer 4

If one of my children would molested, but didn't want to do anything about it (like go to the police), I would explain to them that they did nothing wrong, but that they are a victim, and we need to tell the police. We want the police to catch the person who did this to them before he/she does it to another kid. I would also have to have the child examined by a doctor, who can collect evidence that would help the police. Long term, I would make sure that my child got the therapy he/she would need in order to put what happened behind them, and move on with life, and be happy.

Answer 5

Go to the police yourself first of all and report the person who did this to you. Your next step is to get away from your parents as soon as possible. You are supposed to be the most important thing in life to your parents, and they are supposed to safeguard you at all costs. Find a relative that you can stay with and ask for help from the child welfare system in your state. They will be able to help you get emancipation from your parents as well as help prosecute the person who did this to you.

Answer 6

well i am a parent and if my daughter came to me and said someone messing with her like that i would believe and i would not be a parent if i didnt /if you were i am so sorry for you but say it again and if they still dont listen tell someone who will .and ring childline they will aslo help you i now how it feel to be molested and it hard bit keep telling your parents and tell them you need there help if it someone close to you or your mum it can be hard on both of you and parents cant take that but they need to put there feeling aside and think of you hope you all the best if you want anyone to talk to feel free to talk to me anythime

Answer 7

FInd out from the kid who did it and promise them you won't do anything about it then call the police and have the person arrested anyway and explain to the kid that it has to be done.

Answer 8

tell someone dont keep that botttled on the inside the problem may just get worse and that child will have some serious issues when they get older is that what you want. whats done in the dark will come to the light.think about it

Answer 9

ok how old are u? i have a 15yr old daughter. if she came up to me and told me this and said she felt it was her word against his and didnt want to press charges and let all know. then i the parent would go to this preson and kick his butt. i mean every time i saw him i would kick his butt. u might want to see someone to talk about and go to a dr. get checked out. but its ur choice to do anything. ask ur self this question. would u want this person to do it again to u or anyone? good luck.

Answer 10

if you really want your kid to be safe then you would ask them who did it because if you dont ....who know? the next time they leave then they might now come back home and you'll regret it the rest of your life that you lost your child because of one thing that you didnt do for them....:(