My gf's kids are extremely attached to her. She never really disciplined them unless they did something really bad or got on her nerves. Then she would blow up. She doesn't do that now. Therefore they always slept with her. Now it seems as though we are trying too much and confusing her kids.
She realizes now that she thought she was taking the easy way out and her kids would be fine. But the youngest one has SERIOUS mommy issues. If i discipline the youngest to where she KNOWS she did something wrong...she immediately runs to Mommy. Sometimes I don't even have to say anything.
When I tell the older to sit on the couch when she misbehaves will put her head down and start crying alittle a of course the words mommy come out. I try to tell her that she is all right but she was a bad girl and shouldn't have acted that way.
Should my gf do most of the correcting? Also should i be the one to put them to bed or her? If my gf is not in sight i can get them to lay down.
2006-06-30 05:29:10 · 4 answers · asked by Chris B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all..if the children have thieir own room then they should sleep in it. I found that Parenting Magazine has many many MANY helpful hints for parents and significant others of the parents. You and your girlfriend need to sit down and decide what dicipline to use at what times.
If she doesn't get a handle on her kids now she never will. I learned with my daughter that when she cries or throws a tantrum that I DONT have to hear it and I WONT (Parenting Magazine). She knows that if she is going to cry..all I have to do is look at her and she runs to her room bawling. When she can come out and act like a human being then she comes out. And she's only two and a half!
My daughter shares my bed with me however that's because we just moved and we currently share a room. she has no bed yet...but they should not be sleeping with mom if they have a bed. She should be putting them to bed. However, if the relationship between you two is very serious then you can share the responsibilities of parenting if mutually decided. But that doesn't leave you in charge of everything. They are her kids and she can help you out.
Best of luck to ya!
2006-06-30 05:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by dakota_baby_469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriends kids are attached to her as most kids are at those ages.
I think you should probably ask the girlfriend how much disciplining you should do.
Do you plan to marry her or what?
They definately should be sleepin in there own room. If she refuses to make them sleep in their own room. Move on down the road.
Kids should not be sleeping with their parents.
2006-06-30 05:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you & your girlfriend need to sit down & work out the ways that you think the girls should be diciplined
you both have to agree on what should be done
if she does things one way & you do things a different
way then the girls will be confused on what they can & can not do
some great books to read are:
How to behave so your child will too by Sal Severe
& How to talk so your kids will listen & how to listen
so your kids will talk by Adele Faber & Elian Mazlish
Best of luck to the both of you
2006-06-30 05:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should MAKe them sleep in their room. It seems mean but if this continues, in there later years a man wont touch them with a 10 foot pole.
2006-06-30 05:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by Matthew A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋