I am 37 years old, she is 45 years old. She told me she loves me as I was leaving her room in the morning on my way to work. I paused on my way to the door because I was surprised. I responded by turning back around while she was lying on the bed to give her a hug and a kiss. I felt awkward. I still like to see her but I don't think I am at the level she is just yet. What should I do?
2006-06-30 05:25:01 · 12 answers · asked by Johnny C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you care for this woman and enjoy her company? If so and you think you could love her in time, you need to tell her. Let her know that you're very happy with her and you'd certainly like to see the relationship progress and you're happy she's comfortable enough with you to tell you how she really feels, but at this time, you're not ready to say these words to her. Tell her you hope she understands that you have to be ready to say them back to her and when you are ready, or even if you are not, you will tell her. 6 weeks is really a short amount of time and I don't blame you for not being ready to say it. I wasn't ready to tell my boyfriend that after just 6 weeks. When it was close to a year though, I was about to burst to tell him, and apparently, so was he for me and it worked out for us. Only time reveals if what we feel is truly love. I hope this works out for you. Good luck.
2006-06-30 05:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure it really is to quickly, no remember in case you waited for a lengthy time period, what you feeel on the instantaneous i infetuation, no longer love because if that's your first courting and also you may met and all started going out, you'll somewhat do not comprehend eachother or have any concept in case you'll will also make it in a lengthy time period courting or have any concept of eachothers intentions. I did an same with my first 2 or 3 relationships and it did not take lengthy for me to get my haert damaged later on, in my modern-day courting it took me a 12 months and a 1/2 earlier i discussed it and when I did i knew it became the right time.
2016-10-14 00:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel. Its better to let her know and not lead her on or pretend something is there that isnt. I know you probaly dont want to hurt her, but you will hurt her more to pretend than to just tell her the truth, that you are just not there yet.
Older women tend to know exactly what they want and sometimes being a younger men you are still trying to play the field.
BE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!
Is she the one that you may want to be with?
Be honest with yourself, first!!!
Secondly, is the reason(s) that you still want to see her sexually related, or are you really feeling her enough to take it to another level at some point.
2006-07-04 07:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Old Red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you haven't reach the "I Love You" yet. It's the truth. Since you still like her and want to spend time with her, let her know that, too. You want to be able to spend more time and give the relationship a chance before you say those 3 little words. Let her know that in giving you the time to say "I Love You" it means you're serious and not just saying it because she said it first.
It took me a while to say it to my b/f and you know what? He appreciated it more because he knew I took the time to figure out my feelings and that I meant it.
2006-06-30 05:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you really care about her. Tell her that you want to get to know her more. Tell her that saying i love you is a big thing and that you appreciate that she loves you, and that hopefully you will develope that, you just need more time. It takes some people longer than others to fall in love. SHe'll understand, i used that line myself, and it worked. The guy asked me if i care about him and have feeling and i said yes, and he said thats all he cares about right now.
2006-06-30 05:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be totally honest and tell her that you do not know if you love her yet. And a good way to find out it to kiss and if you love her you'll know it.
P.S. i hope everything works out
2006-06-30 05:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you aren't ready for that yet. You want to date her, but aren't looking for marriage right now. Then let her decide if that is what she wants.
2006-06-30 05:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!! no seriously, talk to her about why she feels that way and explain where you are emotionally.
2006-06-30 05:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're not ready for that yet.
2006-06-30 05:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty.
respond by saying you can't understand your own feelings but you do feel happy being near her.
2006-06-30 05:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋