I have a 6and 7 year old daughter that has a 16 year old girl picking with my daughters. I have took the right steps by teling her mother but it keeps on happening. What is the next step?
2006-06-30 05:24:49 · 39 answers · asked by sister 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
To answer some of your questions the 16 year olds leaves down the street from me and her aunt wish is 16 also babysits my children until I get off work.I did try and talk to the girl but like the little girl she is she walks alway or hangs up on me.That is why I spoke with her mother.No the 16 year old don't put her hands on them it is how she talk about them and how she talks to them.No i,m at work when thia goes on.
2006-06-30 07:23:29 · update #1
picking ON?
i would recommend telling your children that their daughter is immature and acts as old as your children and not to pay attention to her or let whatever she says hurt their feelings.
it is a good lesson, as people will always have mean things to say about you, but you might rise above their immaturity.
2006-06-30 05:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you cannot avoid the 16 year old, am I right? What do you mean by "picking"? Are the young ones annoying the older one? I can't imagine a 16 year old having anything to do with 6 and 7 year olds. If the older girl is seeking out the younder ones and starting the trouble then you might have to take stronger tactics. YOU talk to the girl, don't rely on the girls mother. If you can get your girls involved in something together where the 16 year old is not involved that might help.
2006-06-30 05:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by dkrgrand 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reasonable way that a 16 year old can pick on 6- and 7-year old children unless they are alone together.
It is your responsibility to ensure that the 16-year old is not in the presence of your children - at child care, at school, or while visiting other people. In addition, make it very clear to the parent of this 16-year old that you will contact police if the girl so much as speaks to your children - end of discussion.
You are their parent and they need your protection - if that means a different child care provider, or school, so be it. If it eans time of work it must be done.
2006-06-30 06:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have already told the mother of the 16 year old what is going on and nothing has changed, it is time to go to the next level, which would be to go to the authorities and let them know that this 16 year old girl is picking on your daughters who are 6 and 7. You need to let the authorities know that you have already spoken to the girls mother and nothing has changed. It is time for this to stop, the 16 year old should know better than to pick on your daughters, they are only 6 and 7.
2006-06-30 05:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is she doing to your daughter? Has it gotten physical? If so contact the police. Obviously there is something wrong with her if she is 16 years old and cant keep herself from picking on someone half her age. Also, if the mother of the 16 year old has done nothing to stop this from happening let her know that you will be contacting the authorities. Please dont let it go too far. So many times people just chalk it up to normal bullying, but it would be awful if it got out of control and something happend to your daughter. Take care and good luck!
Sincerly,
Mother of two
2006-06-30 05:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Candycane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I find alot of stories like this. Total immaturity on the part of the 16 year old. A 16 year old should be worrying about friends, boyfriends and clothes.
Where is this happening? Relate to as many other adults around that may see this take place to be sure and speak up when they see it happen.
Tell your 6 and 7 year old how mature they are, and really reinforce your children on how NOT to act by this young lady's actions.
2006-06-30 05:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Punky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not be happening and you should do something about it. If talking to the parents has not worked, then go to the police, file a complaint and if necessary file a restraining order. Why is your kids being exposed to this teenager? are they neighbors? Teenagers at that age are confused and imature at times and can react differently to situations. if you spoke to the parents and have had no results, talking to the teen might not do any good either. You might want to try it, but get the parents permission first. Some Kids will listen better to others than their own parents. But like I said, There is always the legal choice of a restraining order. Good luck
2006-06-30 05:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by jessejamesthegreat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the girl off by herself and explain to her that if she keeps bothering you children, that you are going to show her how it feels to be intimidated. If she does not back off, show her. I am not suggesting that you physically harm her.
Also some teens are like small children. They want attention and they are going to get it, even if it is negative. If you feel this is the case, you should speak to her and solicit her help in making sure no one bothers your children. In doing so, you may solve the problem.
You are the one in this situation and can evaluate this teen best. I know it is hard when someone upsets your child. You just want to rip their head off. You need to look at this calmly and see if you can come up with a solution. Anything you try if you are very angry, is a wasted effort.
I worked with teens with a state agency. One 14 year old boy set my car on fire while we were traveling. He was in the back seat and both his mother and I were in the front. After I stopped and put out the fire, I was so angry, that I thought I might explode. I walked around the car once to give my self time to calm down...then again...then again. I had to walk around the car six times in order to handle the situation correctly. I hope this helps...
2006-06-30 05:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by arkyankeedonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be totally honest. I do not have any children of my own, however I think that the 16 year olds mother is failing her daughter by not teaching her child any manners. Regretfully our young people today DO NOT respect themselves or others and more than likely she has learned this behavior from her mother or someone that she knows that glorifies this lifestyle. I would call the police and report until they have a harrassment file on her. Tell my (your) children to stay far away from this truely disturbed person. THEN AFTER the POLICE DO TOTALLY NOTHING..... I would go to the mother and tell her ONE LAST TIME, to control her kid and if she doesnt I would whip her @$$ then whip her daughter.Because they are both disrespectful. if Ihave to whip u to whip ur kid to get the respect that i deserve. Not too mention, you are defending your children. You have shown them the dignified way to handle it, to no avail. Now because of their ignorance you have to defend what belongs to you. Now, of course i can fight a little bit, but if the mom wants to let her kid disrespect her FINE.. BUT she WONT disrespect me.
2006-06-30 14:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by steelababi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
March the 16 year old to her mothers steps and make the punk go get her mother, then tell her Mom to shag her butt out to the street and whip her good. Then the 16 year olds mom might get all over her daughter for causing her to get her a** beat.
2006-06-30 05:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with her mother again or her father or speak with the 16 year old. Is this happening at home or at school? If at home, you have more control. Tell the girl to stay away from your home. I'm a mother and I can't stand for teenagers who have no respect. I'd show that girl who's boss in a heart beat.
2006-06-30 05:37:00 · answer #11 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋