Yesterday I broke up with my bf because I thought he was talking to other gurls. I don't know if he is for sure but that's how I felt so without thinking I broke up with him. I feel I did the right thing but yet i'm still crying.
2006-06-30 04:47:30 · 28 answers · asked by grantlilmama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
gurl sent me e-mail of what they were talking about and from the e-mails they aren't just friends
2006-06-30 04:57:14 · update #1
Well, take some time out alone or with an Adult whom you trust and decide the pros and cons of living with him.
Thats important, because at the moment, you are still reeling from the vacuum.
If you broke up with him because of what you said, it sounds bad, and looks like you didnt have a stable view of what a relationship is about.
Men always have a 'roving eye'. Cannot stop a man from looking. But if you do, then let us know. Its just like telling women not to look at a new shoe or at the next shirtless hunk!!
You should have broken up for a better reason. But then now that you have broken up with haste, dont go back to him. He would be feeling as bad you are. Just take the time that you have now, to think about what you have done.
But eventually, you will need to wake up and smell the truth. Men always look around. Believe it or not. Finding a guy that would look and speak only to you, would be like finding that elusive pot of gold at the end of the Rainbow.
2006-06-30 05:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 14⤊ 4⤋
Talking to other women isn't a crime in an of itself, unless you think he was trying to hook up with them. Did you have evidence of that, or did you jump the gun? You are crying because even if you felt you did the right thing, it is still a loss and takes time to get used to.
2006-06-30 11:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I've had breakups where I have cried for 2 straight weeks! I even had to take a day off from work. YOu probably did the right thing, but you are still grieving a loss... it's OK to cry!! Get it out of your system and don't deny it... but be ready to move on.
2006-06-30 11:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm I think it was the wrong thing to do.
You should never assume things and I guess in your situation you learn from your mistakes. Even so if he was talking to girls whats the big deal? In a relationship your supposed to trust the other person. Without that theres nothing. Hope it all works out for you.
2006-06-30 11:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by fluffy_bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're crying because it is the death of a relationship and you are mourning. However, in the future you may want to talk about your concerns and insecurities before calling it quits. Give yourself time to figure out what you are really looking for in a mate before jumping into the dating pool again. Hang in there.
2006-06-30 11:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to grow up a bit. Maybe the whole love and BF thing is a little too much for you to handle.
2006-06-30 11:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by jason m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cared about him, what you did was totally the Wrong thing! but if you had/have no feeling what so ever then i guess what you did was ok... But if your crying you probably do have feelings! You should have talked to him about it, what if he wasnt talking to other girls... what if you made a mistake...
thats most likely why your crying, because you left him, but your reason for it, wasnt solid. and you dont know if you were wrong or not!
Also when a girl likes a guy who has a girlfriend... they will do things to try and break you up! Girls do it to me and my boyfriend alot, but i talk to him about it, and then i "talk" to her!
Girls are horrible... you really cant trust em'
2006-06-30 11:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by Caitlin12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girrl I know how you feel. The worst thing to do is break up wit yo man over he say she say. Cause I remember the first and last time a girl was talking about how she was wit my man and really she just wanted us to break up cause she knew how much he liked me and she wanted him. Next thing I know as soon as we broke up she was all over him.
2006-06-30 12:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by tru_blkgoddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying go's, it's all over but the crying. Meaning you had feelings, and he steped on them.
You will get over him and go find a new guy, who's better for you, just life experiences.
2006-06-30 11:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thought of your loved one being with someone else will hurt you deeper than you could ever dream but be care full of loveing someone else too much. talking with other people is health you should be talking to others too... but when it starts to get into hugging and kissing then it is time to be scared and talk about you fealing with each other comunacation is key to any realationship with out talking there isn't one
2006-06-30 12:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by moretz28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋