Is appearance everything? (for girls only please)?

Question

Now i know appearance is always your first impression of someone, but my 18 yo brother is the nicest person in the world. I mean he's not ugly, just overweight (probably about 300lbs :S). Anyways, he's shy about his weight and stuff so doesn't really talk to new girls much. The ones who really know him know how sweet he is. So my question is if someone like him approached you and seemed like a nice guy, would you still probably blow him off or give him a chance. In all honesty, i know most people will say that its all about personality, but would still refuse to look past appearance.

well i'm not talking just some friend, i'm asking would you date him, he has never had a true girlfriend

Answer 1

if i got to know him better then he might be a buddy or a boyfriend. it all depends on what kind of person he is. and what kind of person hes tryin to attract.

Answer 2

I personally think that we should all get to know people before judging them, and I know a lot of really awesome guys. Also, the guy I like, the reason I like him is not because of his appearance. It is because I enjoy hanging around with him and enjoy him as a person. He makes my day brighter. The fact that he is better looking is just an added bonus.

If your brother is that upset over girls, maybe he should try to lose some weight and see if that helps. But his true friends will always stand by him, and the girls that he does know he should keep in close contact with, because they most likely think he's great. If they don't like him as a boyfriend, well, they might could find someone that did.

Answer 3

If he is interested in shallow people, yeah, he's going to get his feelings hurt a lot. Some girls want to look good beside the good-looking man they're with even though they may not be happy. Personally, I like big guys, I always have. That doesn't mean that I would turn down a skinny one, but I always look at bigger guys. It's a shame that girls don't really give nice guys a chance, because they might be missing out. Now , if he stinks or he don't bathe or has bad breath or something, maybe that's a reason for people not to like him. But if he takes pretty good care of himself, the right girl will come along.

Answer 4

I tend to prefer the beauty inside, becuase that's what really matters. I give everyone a chance.

However, I am a very athletic adn active person - my vacations are not spent lying on a beach, but climbing mountains and riding my bike across country, I am a competitive athlete. And someone who is very overweight - though they may be a wonderful person and a great friend... I had a hard time dating folks like that becuase they might not have as much in common with me - and they apparently aren't as athletic as me. It's also a BIG health concern, and sometimes being overweight is a sign that the person doens't even care very much about themselves. it seems shallow, but working out and running and cycling are a huge part of my life and someone who can do that with me is a better fit for me.

Answer 5

I dated a guy like that a couple years ago... he was really nice and i didn't care about his appearance. People can change their appearance at the drop of a hat... whatever... it doesn't matter if someone is a good person. We had a lot of fun together. We broke up after about 7 months because he was a little too clingy....guys like that are kind of cuddley though like a big teddy bear :o)

Answer 6

Appearance isn't everything yes like you said its your first Impression of someone but I'm not shallow I like to get to know people so no I wouldn't blow him off. If he has confidence issues about his weight maybe you could make him feel better by going to the gym with him or something like that he might appreciate it.

Answer 7

Appearance is not everything. I met my fiance on the internet, and got to know his personality first. When we met in person, I found he wasn't Brad Pitt or anything, but I couldn't forget the personality that shined through during our internet conversations. Eventually the personality aspect of him won me over.

Tell your brother that oftentimes, self-confidence can go a long way to make up for what he thinks he lacks in the looks department. Many women would rather have a man who is of average looks but self-assured and confident, instead of drop dead gorgeous but insecure, any day of the week.

Good luck :)

Answer 8

no i dont think apperence or weight is important. my boyfriend is 255 pouns im only 105 i dont mind. it just depends on the girl though some girls are shallow and dont want to be seen with anyone less than perfect. but those girls are not worth your time. if u dont believe me about my size and my dudes go look at my myspace. www.myspace.com/swytness its been 7 and a half months. but go look at it. cuz ur problely thinkin u can only be happy with some ugly girl. but no go look at it seriously. im far from ugly. gho find a girl like me. and yes i am his first real girlfriend.

Answer 9

Well my friend told me about that happening to her mother back when she was in high school was asked out by a fat nerd and she said no and then when she got married to another man she saw the man she said no to and the man didn't look like a nerd anymore!! And my friend saw them talking and said "Mama how come you didn't marry him?" And her mom said "Cause back then he was a nerd and plus I had already married your daddy and had your brother!!! So to some people would say it doesn't really matter what they look like or how much they weigh but to me it does!!!

Answer 10

That depends if it was a lot of muscle or flab. I'm not an 18 year old girl but I can speak for some females when I say it depends on how confident he is

Answer 11

Appearance isn't everything; we just naturally gravitate towards attractive people. Unfortunately, if he wants to stop getting rejected, he should really focus on his health and start losing the weight. It makes a big difference.