I feel really bad about this
2006-06-30 04:28:04 · 14 answers · asked by Aurora 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You can only be emotionally balckmailed it you let them. Don' tspeak to them, call their bluff. Don't say anything about wahts happening. Pretend like ti dosn't bother you. Thats where they get you, knowing that it bothers you. Take the high road and pretend like you don't care.
2006-06-30 04:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by heidinichole 4 · 20⤊ 4⤋
You need to be aware that the blackmail is going on. The trouble is we are usually put into these situations by people we genuinely care about. Think before you speak or agree to do anything, especially when you have been used in the past. Love yourself first!
2006-06-30 11:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by badlass7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its like this if someone is trying to blackmail you over something that you Don't want people to know do this. Tell them you don't care what they say or who they tell because you are NOT goin to control meeee!! I don't give a rats azz what you say or do. Then say I am me and that's the way I am if you don't like it then get out of my life! Because i am NOT falling for it so Kiss off. Its all up to you weather you can be blackmailed or not. As for me their is NO WAY anyone can do it to me because i just don't give a rats azz what people think of me.
2006-06-30 11:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by dl200558 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in your values and beliefs. Look into the person who is emotionally blackmailing you and find out why they are doing it. Talk to them about your feelings and try to resolve the issue.
2006-06-30 11:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by maggiec7410 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You", it has excellent advice and I know for a fact it works!
Read excerpts from it here:
2006-06-30 11:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with it on both side - my dad when I was younger and my mother now.
The first thing is to realize that you can survive with out them and idon't let them see you get mad cause they will use it against you fro latter. If you don't want to do something just step away and make yourself like a wall - they will get the picture
2006-06-30 11:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by prettymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive yourself for whatever they are holding over you. Once you do that, they have lost the power. I used to drink and people would hold that over my head the stupid things I did when i was drunk, I got sober(3years ago) and I forgave myself for all the things I did wrong... they no longer try to use that against me.Remember you can not change the past only go on with your future...
2006-07-01 09:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by skybludeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. Don't let them in.
Sadly, people like to manipulate others. You can show you don't want to be one of them by not dealing with their BS. Avoid them if you have to. It might hurt to lose a potential friend, but trust me, they really aren't your friend to begin with.
They are users.
They are scum.
2006-06-30 11:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them., stop it! Or you will get someone to stop it period.... Some people know only one language, fight fire with fire.
2006-06-30 11:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by EL UNICO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break away from them, and make new friends.
2006-06-30 11:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let them. What they are doing is making you their slave. Its like mind control.
Who controls your mind? YOU DO. Dont fall for it.
2006-06-30 11:30:33 · answer #11 · answered by smitty031 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋