Let's say you are in love with a person who is as close as possible to your ideal in a partner, but they make you extremely nervous, they make it hard to breathe, they light the universe on fire basically when you are around them. But you are afraid that you would not be fully comfortable being yourself around them because you are so scared of losing them. Is it better to be with a person who makes you feel this wonderful, or to find someone you are comfortable with? Would it be better to be with someone you could totally be yourself around, disgusting etc, or someone who always made you want to be the best you can be because you want them always? I've dated people I could be around all the time, and I didn't care what I looked like, or what they thought of me, basically because I was very secure. But I didn't really care if they left me or not. Now I could date someone who is my one shining thing, but will I ever be able to relax and be myself? He makes it hard to breathe...
2006-06-30 04:21:38 · 13 answers · asked by lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will eventually stop being nervous around him if the two of you spend a lot of time together. Go for it.
2006-06-30 04:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had to choose I would choose being with someone I could be myself with over my ideal person. Because I would probably feel more comfortable around that person and also free. The ideal person is just the person that you think that you want to be with. Your ideal person could turn out to be anyone, but would you actually be able to be yourself around this person? what would you be like around them? What would you two talk about? I would choose to be with someone that I could be myself with.
2006-06-30 11:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather be with someone I could be myself around. I mean, even if I was with my ideal person, I'd be myself eventually, I'm not into living double lives, and also, if the relationship grows and goes somewhere, I don't want to be a facade until I die, and I don't want him going"who are u?" ur not the girl I fell for. then I'd go, yeah I am, I was just fake before. I'd rather be with a guy and say....this is me, I can make some improvements, but not much...take it or leave it.
2006-06-30 11:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your missing a point. Your IDEAL person should make you feel that everything is ok no matter what you do or say or look like. This person should not be one or the other. Or they would not be IDEAL for you. You need to find that one person who you can be yourself around and not have to worry about anything, thats IDEAL.
2006-06-30 11:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be so scared of losing someone. The ideal one for me is someone who is ideal and I can be myself around. The ideal one in your description is the one I would want to be with. They are better, and I would love them that much more. Be brave is what I say.
2006-06-30 11:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by cutiedudie2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should go for it. u will eventually relax when ur around him. Im like that with this totally awesome guy and we are good friends and when im with him (just me and him) i get nervous before i go to see him but once im with him its totally cool like cuz i know he care about me and knows what im like so he wouldnt care if i looked like crap . So i feel comfortable around him. just let things happen as they come dont plan how u want something (a date) to go cuz then u will be disappointed when it doesnt go that way just let things happen and go with it.
2006-06-30 11:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
while it may be very thrilling to be with the ideal person, I would much rather be with the person i can be myself around. i would not want to tiptoe around anyone. Just because someone is "ideal" doesn't make that person right for you.
2006-06-30 11:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by jenniferscott1974 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should someone who u feel comfortable around and who makes u wonderful , basically i'll rather be myself with anybody i'm with then try to someone i'm not.
2006-06-30 11:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by msfortier01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to be yourself...been there, done that. It's too bad you are afraid to be who you are. You live only once make the best out of it...
2006-06-30 11:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by grannypamrox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose the one who you feel more comfortable with.
2006-06-30 11:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋