He put his hands on you in the wrong way. But you have a child w/ him & not enough $$ to move out. W/ zero family to help.
2006-06-30 04:15:14 · 33 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This was the 1st time it happened. But he knew my ex was like that and he swore that he would never be.
2006-06-30 04:21:45 · update #1
I agree with the previous answers. Go to a women's shelter if you can. If you are isolated, you can also call your state's child and family protective services and they can assist you. It is not good for you or your child to stay in a situation that is dangerous.
Good luck- I hope that this helps:)
2006-06-30 04:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation for you but not impossible. There are places that will assist you as a single mom. They will help you with schooling to better yourself, a nice place to live and even pay for childcare. You can apply for this by looking in the front of the phone book and look for women's services. Your city will have some form of assistance.
If you are talking abuse....that he is hitting you, you need to get into a womens' shelter. You and your child deserve to feel safe. He will eventually hurt the child as well or there is potential there.
If all of this is too hard on you, go to a local church. A good Baptist church or Calvary Chapel is usually a safe bet but there are so many that are willing to help. They should help you with contact numbers and should even find a way to move you out and move you into a shelter. Find a way out today if there is violence in your home. Let us all know how you are and what you did to get help. It may help someone else. God bless you.
2006-06-30 04:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times has he put his hands on you? Was it a one time "accident" or is this a regular thing? If it is a regular thing, you need to leave regardless of the $ issue...you have a child together and if you stay with a man who hits you you are teaching your child that it's ok to hit women (or anyone for that matter.)
If it was a one time thing, I think I would probably try to talk to him and tell him that if anything remotely like it ever happens again, you will leave and press charges.
Good luck, be strong.
2006-06-30 04:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! Do not try to rationalize it. People make mistakes yeah but some of them are not forgivable and that is one of them. You will find a way. There is government assistance and you can tell them that you have been ABUSED and that you are scared that it will happen again. They will help you. Do not take that defeated attitude because he is going to continue to take advantage of you. Part of the reason why he is acting like that might be because he knows that you do not have the same support that most people have. But when you stay you leave room for more "mistakes." I hope that you called the cops! Get out of there!!!
2006-06-30 04:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. NO. I am tough like that though.
You will live if you get away. It might be difficult but you won't let your family starve. He can't think he can do that and he can't take it back and you can't trust him so please, get out. Take your kids and show him a lesson. Please.
You can call the police and they will take him long enough to give you time to get out. Ask a friend at work if they know where you can go. Maybe you can stay with one of them. You'd be surprised how many people would want you to get out of there!
It makes me mad and I don't even know you. You would be welcome to stay with us if I knew you.
You will be fine and much better without him. I would leave today and go tell people and get a place to stay. Nobody wants to see you beat or hurt in any way (except apparently him) and nobody wants to see your kids go hungry. My family isn't even close enough to be able to help and I never get anything from my family yet I would NOT NOT NOT stay with that man. I wouldn't even worry about what would happen to me, just get away from him. You were single once. You can be again.
God will take care of you and you need to get out SOON!
2006-06-30 04:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no excuse to stay with a man that puts his hands on you in the wrong way. You should leave and leave ASAP! So what if you have a child with him. That's the problem with some people, excuses and more excuses! What if he really hurts you, do you want your child to witness that? You need to go to a shelter or something, but it'll be bad for you to stay. Find a place to stay.
2006-06-30 04:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I was in a relationship like that, and had 2 kids, best thing I ever did was leave and no it wasn't easy but you would be amazed at how strong you can be when you need to. Remember if he is putting his hands on you wrong the next thing will probably be the children. Get out while you can - look for agencies in your area that will help you get on your feet.
2006-06-30 04:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by trahub66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find somewhere to go. A friend, womens shelter, or anywhere you can think of. You are in a bad situation and need to get out. I was there once myself a long time ago. Try going to the welfare office to see if they would help you get a place or the trustee. Don't give up and Good Luck.
2006-06-30 04:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by lostinlove 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you can! There is no guarantee that he won't do it to you again or even worse, to your child. There are plenty of places that can help in a situation like this. Shelters that house women and their children, and even help you find a job so that you CAN do it on your own. It's possible, don't even think twice. Just leave...
2006-06-30 04:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by dreamofme0202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation but with no child. I have no money and no family. I'm scared but was told that the domestic abuse shelters can help. I haven't called for my own egoistical reasons. Plus we love each other. Ask yourself does love really have to have to hurt ?
2006-06-30 04:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋