For wise motherly women, sometimes I just feel sad and not like myself.?

Question

I feel disconnected from myself, other people and life. I'm 16, and I know it's normal but I just need a little support.

It's not constant. Usually I'm a very optimistic and life-imbracing person! Maybe that's why it upsetts me when I feel down, becuase it's not like me and I feel uncomfortable. I wish teens could have some of the life wisdom that comes with age and experiance. I know intelectually the things my adult friends have told me about life, but I don't have it internalized.

Answer 1

its fine honey u must be depressed from something or getting ready for your period, i do the same thing just go have fun dont get stuck in the house all the time, go to the movies, the mall, you will feeel better

Answer 2

You need to speak with someone who knows you. Not knowing you it's hard to give you advice. But I can tell you things will get better and one day you'll look on this time of your life and think how funny it is. That you made such a deal over things that don't really mean a thing in the big picture of things. You should be having the time of your life and not take things so serious. Only a few more years before you are an adult and will be expected to pull your own weight. If your having problems with your parents this too is normal. If you are being abused I advise you to talk to your school counselor or a teacher. Good luck and have fun.

Answer 3

They sometimes call this, "teenaged angst." It is normal if it doesn't happen all the time.

If you are a girl, it may be hormonal. Keep a record of your periods on a calendar along with your moods. Just a quick note every day like: happy, sad, etc. After a couple of months you may see a pattern that shows your symptoms of sadness occur a week or two weeks before your period. This would be PMS. You said SOMETIMES, so I am guessing this may be your answer.

HOWEVER, if you have a sense of hopelessness, deep sadness or depression that lasts for more than 2 weeks at any time, you may be experiencing a depression and need medical and psychiatric intervention. Start with a visit to your family doctor.

Don't be afraid to find out and take action. There are hundreds of medications and/or talk therapy options that can help you. You don't need to be ashamed about getting help. MILLIONS of people suffer depression, in our country alone.

If you are depressed, you are in good company: Abraham Lincoln was depressed most of his adult life. Ted Turner (TNT billionaire!) is a manic depressive. The list goes on and on. A good book to read is called, How to Fight Depression. It tells you what it is and gives you plenty of information about treatment options, fellow suffers past and present, and has a lot of wonderful quotes in it. The doctors who wrote it also suffered depressions themselves!

SEEK HELP. Don't be ashamed. If you do go to therapy and/or take medication don't worry about what other people might think about you. Besides, THEY WILL ONLY KNOW IF YOU TELL THEM!

Answer 4

I hope you know that you are not alone, life is sometimes over-welming even to me and I am a 28 year old mother of two.
However everyone goes threw little depressing moments in their lives.
Keeping yourself busy is a good thing to help you get threw this moment along with finding a hobby you enjoy, keep a journal, listen to music, possibly get a part time job if your parents agree. Look at how you are doing at school. Pay attention and possibly talk to your parents if there is something in your life that is really bothering you, and figure out a way to fix it., sometimes I get that way once a month and I don't want anyone around me, just needing some me time to find myself.
Sometimes everyone just needs a day of relaxing and enjoying what life has to offer, weither it be laying in the sun, reading a good book , baking, or other things you do to make yourself feel good.
I don't know if this helped, but I just want to say you are not alone and it will get better.

Answer 5

Hun you will feel this way on and off for a while your hormones are going crazy right now. You are also developing your personality so who you liked a lot a month ago might get on every nerve you have today. You just need to talk to your parents about whats bothering you and let them know how your feeling they are probably worrying about it just as much as you are i am sure they have realized you are distant to. As for what to do about it curl up in bed and read a book or watch a good movie. Do things that you know you like it should help snap you out of the funk a little.
Hope Ya Feel Better Soon.

Answer 6

It's not normal, it's depression, talk to your folks, your DR. or your school counselor, some one. Get some help from real people you know and trust. Do not buy into that's normal. At 16 you have the right to enjoy your life. Coping with crap comes later. You get help and you get it now. This is from a wise Grandmother type, as a Grandmother there is no one in the world more important than you and your happiness. Listen to Grandma.

Answer 7

First off, I think it's great you're looking for answers outside your family. Though they are very important, at your age (or any age)it's sometimes hard to take their advice. As a 33 year old mother of 4 I can tell you the one MAIN thing I've discovered over the years is, no matter how bad it gets, no matter how hopeless things seem, it will ALWAYS pass. My hardest times of feeling "why go on" always went away. I promise they will for you. Hang in there and keep communicating. p.s. my son wants you to know I'm using his screen name. lol

Answer 8

You may not feel like yourself, because at your age, you are still finding out who you are. That is normal, and you might discover some things about yourself that you did not know. Get together with some friends, and observe their behaviors, and your reaction to them may reveal who you want to be. Whatever you do, don't let others decide who you are.

Answer 9

You may want to talk to your family doctor. If you are having a lot of stress going on, it could be causing you to be depressed. I was on antidepressants when I was 16 because my parents were going through a divorce.

Answer 10

You could possibly be depressed. You need to talk to your parent or counselor. Some people don't know how to deal.