What kind of discipline is right for raising children?

Question

Also should spanking be considered child abuse? I believe a simple spanking shouldn't, how about you?

Answer 1

I think all children who get out of hand, needs a good butt whipping. These kids these days, knows that mommy and daddy cant whip them due to the courts will put the parents in jail, but the kids forget, the courts can take the kids out of a good stable home and put them in foster care. Not really understanding this, these kids continue to push these buttons of older adults, and half of them end up in jail themselves due to NO discipline. Spanking is not child abuse, a beating is child abuse and leaving bloody welts on the skin.20 years ago we did not have the problem of kids getting into so much trouble as now. Just like now in school, take away the paddle, and the kids bring in knives, guns and whatever they want. The USA needs to put discipline back into homes and schools. The world would be a better place.

Answer 2

This is a tricky subject. I understand where people are coming from who don't believe in spanking their children. I don't spank my daughter at all cause she rarely deserves it. I was spanked as a child and I'm fine. I didn't go to school and think it was okay to hit. If anything, I knew what it was like and didn't really want to inflict it on anyone else. Only when I got in big trouble where I did something that I knew was wrong at the time and I did it anyway (and I was at least 7 or 8 before I got serious whoopins) did I ever get a spanking. Most of the time I just got a slap on the hand. I think spanking should be a last resort to punishing your child. It's all relative really. It just depends on your child's spirit and how much of a trouble maker they are or aren't. My daughter is pretty placid whereas, you might have a son/daughter that likes to get into everything! Which is normally harder with boys because they tend to be a little more wild. Say your child does something wrong and you give them time out. They do it again so you take something away and it just keeps going. If they don't listen then I think they should get a little pop on the fanny, nothin that would hurt them, just a warning. It will probably scare them more than anything. And usually after you give them one or two spankings, you probably won't have to do it again. Just let them know if they don't calm down then they will get a spanking and they'll usually hush because they know you'll actually do it. (You'll notice that your kids will test you and push you. They're trying to figure out your limits. We don't normally see this because we think they're not old enough to think of such a concept but they are. My girl does it all the time and she's 4.) But you can't just let your kid not listen to you and be rude and spoiled just because you don't want to spank them. As long as you don't do it very often, then I don't believe there will be any emotional damage like they say. If your child is being spanked everyday, then that is another issue and you should stop. (I mean "you" in a general sense of course.) If your child is repeatedly bad after spanking them a few times then you should probably seek a doctor's help or some sort of child expert.

Answer 3

I have 6 teenage children and as a parent I feel that the biggest key to discipline is consistancy. I will give you these examples if the child does something they are not allowed to do then you must discipline every time i can not yell at my kids for fighting then ignore it another time it sends mixed messages . Also yelling isnt the answer dont set in your chair and holler people , get off your tush go to the child get thier undivided attention and explain what they did wrong, why it was wrong then give your punishment. I f i tell johnny to stop taking toys from jane and give hime a time out and he goes right back and repeats behavior i would ground him from the toy if he still repeats behavior then a firm swat on the hinny to enforce what i said is acceptable . never spank in anger and never more than 3 swats and only if trying other methods dosent work. I told my son once to write sentences because of his behavior he said no what are you going to do about it you cant force me to and you cant spank me the school said if you spank me it is child abuse. so I took him to the d.f.s. office where they explained to him it was not abuse, and when we got home i said write your sentences he said no and i spanked him now he kjnows i will do it and dosnot try to get in that situation again. Dont use a belt or paddle use your hand only on the hinny and never in anger or you could hurt the child. a spanking should never leave marks and should only hurt enough to get thier attention to let them know you are serious

Answer 4

Spanking is not a problem to me. I think its ok as long as its done properly. What I mean is... Don't spank for every little thing. I only spank if my daughter does something that will hurt herself or someone else. Like running away from me into the street... She got a spanking that day. But then I also explain very sternly why I gave her the spanking and what is the correct behavior.

People that say not to spank either don't have children or haven't come across a seriously stubborn or defiant toddler.

For other wayward or errant behaviour I use time outs, ignoring (I usually ignore tantrums) and re-directing.

Additionally, children should have some fear of their parents. It's not our job to "Best Buddies" to our kids. It's our job to direct them on the right path in life. To let them know we support them emotionally ('cause financially I am done after college graduation... unless its an emergency) and they can always count on us.

Answer 5

Have you ever seen the Nanny ? (smiles)
I used to believe in spankings, but realized that I usually think about spanking when I am at wits end.
My oldest child hates the time out chair and when he is in trouble he has to sit there for the same amount of minutes as his age, then I have him come sit with me and talk to me about why he was in trouble. Which works better because when he was getting spankings he would laugh or start to kick or try to hit me when he was mad thinking that it was okay.So I decided to no longer spank my child, because that is not what I wanted to teach him...
Spanking isn't considered child abuse unless it is leaving bruises, however what your child learns from the experience is a different story.. I am raising two boys and I do not want hitting to become something that they think is normal wither it is in a form of a spanking or otherwise. I want my boys to be respectful of all and know that they have choices in there actions.
Cause and Effect.
Its just that simple. Stressful at times but no one ever said this was going to be easy.

Answer 6

Spanking is not child abuse. The discipline that's right for raising my children is whatever works. I'm not against anything except child abuse.

Answer 7

Nothing is wrong with spanking. Use when needed. Taking toys away too works. There is no law against spanking. You can't beat kids. But, 1-2 spanks on the bottom never hurt a kid.

Answer 8

I would not spank your child at all because it will give then negative thoughts when they get older. Like my brother got spank so many times,even if he did not do anything wrong, he then turn out to be so negative and wrong just like my dad. If you do spank your child and overreact about it and spank him and you found out it was someone else,your child may not like you in the future if you keep repeating it. I would just give them the naughty chair that way he will see everybody having fun and he will think that he did something wrong that he should had not then ather the time is up you should Neel down to him/her and say"Now what did you do wrong". And he/she should say the right thing, if not just let him sit there until he/she gets it right.

Answer 9

WOULD YOU PEOPLE GET IT IN YOUR HEADS THAT SPANKING IS NOT ABUSE?!? Sorry, but these people these days are just sooo against spanking and it is driving me nuts because their kids are growing up to be out of control. People need to realize that you aren't supposed to do it so hard that it leaves a mark, just hard enough so it hurts for a second or two. Time outs are a joke and do not teach kids anything. They sit all day..what good is making them sit in the corner going to do? It's a sad excuse for punishment. Parents these days are trying to be friends instead of parents and the kids are paying for it.

Answer 10

I spanked my daughter once, when she was 7 when she was dead defiant and dad wasn't in th mood to negotiate with a 7 year old. YOu should have seen my 17 year old son clean his room... if dad spanked the princess I don't stand a chance!

Time outs were a big key in our disceplining actions. take toy away and go too time outs. worked for us but each child is different.