I was meant to meet my b/f at the local pub after work they have a lovely garden and we were gona sit out with a few drinks and a bowl of chips just the two of us, i been looking forward to it all day.
Now he has phoned and said he is meeting mates up there to watch football on the big screen but i can still go along if i like, but if i dont wana can i still pick him up later and drive him home (yeah like thats gona happen)
Its not that he wants to meet mates and watch footy that i mind but that he chose them over me and has the hump coz i sound upset on the phone and wont say why.
So am i unreasanable or is he acting like a pain in the **** jerk
2006-06-30 04:03:07 · 20 answers · asked by sister 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's being a jerk.....because he made plans with you. That is extremely rude.
How long have you been dating. Maybe, he feels that you are guys are in that 'comfort zone' where he can do stuff like that. You need to tell him why you're mad though.
2006-06-30 04:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by shakia27 4 · 6⤊ 3⤋
The Footy World Cup happens once every four years. If you still want to be with this guy in 2010, perhaps you should consider that this is something he feels strongly about. It is part of him and his culture, and you could do well to consider that if he was in the garden, eating chips with you, he would resent missing the game and would never let you forget the time you made him miss a match to spend time together.
On the other hand, if he is always like this, why would you want to share chips with him in the first place?
If you are sounding upset on the phone, but won't tell him why, then what reason does he have to want to spend more time with you?
2006-06-30 11:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Chris M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's acting like a Jerk luv, but you should really tell him why you are upset. Be honest and see what he says. If footie is more imprtant to him then blow him off and have a girly night in with your mates and do pampering things. And defitnetly, defitnetly don't pick him up from the pub. Cause if he gets away with it once he will do it again and again.
2006-06-30 11:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like girls really get something out of being shown that they're more important than anything else, and I think I understand that.
But just as it's truly special when I cancel everything for her and she sees how important she is to me, it's also truly special when she's lets me go enjoy things she may not enjoy sometimes because then I see that she loves me and not just the affection she can get from me.
2006-06-30 11:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by antfaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us guys just don't get that we have to show you ladies that we care and want to be with you. He has not learned sacrifice just yet, but he will if he keeps that behavior up. I am sure you are a very special lady (as most are) and you are more than deserving of your personal time with the one you love. Tell you what, the next time he wants quality time, make a date with the girls and let him see how it feels.
2006-06-30 11:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Shyguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are insensitive. Id personaly rather stick to a plan if i aranged it.But not all are like that. an someone else said something about the fottie happenin ever 4yr... maybe u should just leave it be. but he shouldnt of done what he did.. sex starv him for a month lol that should get to him :P
2006-06-30 11:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by prince Tyseyh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being a tit. That's what blokes do when there's football on.
Why don't you arrange to go out with your mates and tell him you can't pick him up cos you're gonna get ****-faced yourself. He probably won't like it but what the hell. Why should you take second place.
2006-06-30 11:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when football+beer+mates = better time than with gf.
Politically he's out of line and you have every right to be annoyed
2006-06-30 11:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by ogenglishman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, if that doesn't work dump him. Not all men are like that. I've been told I am quite sensitive, and I don't like football much to be honest.
2006-07-01 07:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by Stuart M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just being a GUY. Men are like that... What you have to ask yourself is, "Am I getting what I need out of this relationship?" If this is just a one time thing... let it go... if this is a continual thing that he does constantly... you need to let this guy go... he won't change...
If you nag him... he won't change... you have to make the decision to stay or go
2006-06-30 11:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by lester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time he wants sex, tell to use tv, w/ soccer and his friends. Or make plans w/ him and go out w/ your friends instead at the last minute. Hopefully he gets the hint.
2006-06-30 11:07:58 · answer #11 · answered by Migity696 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋