my boyfriend of 1.5 yrs left here(Malawi) and went to the UK a couple of months ago. over the time we were dating i grew to really like him and yet...about 2 weeks ago i kissed another guy. i felt really guilty about it afterwards but then a week later i did it again. i really do like (maybe even love) my boyfriend, any adviceon how to stay faithful.
2006-06-30 03:34:01 · 5 answers · asked by Charley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i forgot to mention that he's also my first boyfriend and the first and only guy i hve kissed, so maybe the reason i kissed the other dude was curiosity. what's ur opinion
2006-06-30 03:56:30 · update #1
I hate to say this but, if you are kissing other guys, then you don't love your boyfriend.
I've been in 3 long distance relationships (including the one I'm in now)
The last two I found it VERY hard to be faithful....and I wasn't. I was for sure that I was very much in love with two guys or at least had deep, caring feelings for them....but I didn't.
I realize that now, because I am very faithful, I don't even want to cheat. So, the only way you can stay faithful.....is if you want to stay faithful. Well right now you don't, and you need to break it off. Because its extremely unfair to him.
And trying to exclude yourself from temptation only makes you want it more. Believe I know, I tried this, I became a complete hermit...and I STILL cheated on them.
Now, I go to clubs, I hang out....I have male friends. I do all kinds of stuff, and there is no temptation. Because I only want him.
2006-06-30 03:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're in the same boat darling. my boyfriend & i see each other only once a month because of his work schedule & the distance between his office & my hometown is amazing. Not to mention that his hometown is nearer to his office than mine. so it's more convenient for him to go home than to come to my place. worst, i can't go w/ him coz i'm studying. so we stay in touch thru the phone but i really get lonely most of the time. nah i am lonely all of the time. but i'm not interested w/ other guys so i'll just have to bear w/ the loneliness. sometimes life becomes sooo testy all you could do is cry.
2006-06-30 03:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by circe8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, but sometimes in long distant relationships, you need someone to hold or be there with you right then. I say from experience try to stay faithful, but you do need to do things that will help keep your mind off of him. You may also want to talk with him about feeling lonely and tell him that you are feeling very lonely right now and need to see him more. If he cares, he will try to do something about it. if it were me, I would have a friend that I could confide in, but that could be dangerous when your dealing with feelings. It happened to me...
2006-06-30 03:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by BigTyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you stay faithful? you can't stay faithful now that you have kissed another guy. do you really want to have that on your mind all the time now that you have cheated on him? just break it off.
2006-06-30 03:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by likeafatkidlovescake2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont
2006-06-30 03:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋