I have been divorced for almost a year from my husband. He was physically abusive, he was sleeping around on me, and was constantly drunk. My pastor agreed that these were grounds for a divorce and that I was not sinning. He also discussed remarriage. I am only 25 and have two little kids.
Recently I began dating. I have met a WONDERFUL man and he is meshing well with my family. He is also divorced, he wife was sleeping around on him. He is 35.
We have talked about marriage, but we are working together to make sure that this is the best for both of us. We are very passionate towards each other, we love each other very much. Is it a sin to have sex out of marriage if you are getting RE-married? I was a virgin with my husband, but I am not sure what the rules are once your divorced. Any wisdom? Thank you so much. God Bless you all!
2006-06-30 03:16:29 · 25 answers · asked by bellacervantes 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2006-06-30 03:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would slow down a little.Too many people fall in love (they think) soon after a divorce and marry on the rebound. It is always a disaster. Less than a year I would think you would be still in mourning. Most probably not dating yet, and surly not even thinking of re-marriage. I think you have gone too far too fast. Sex outside marriage is a big sin for a Christian, it will cost you dearly, and intentions are worthless at the judgment bar.
If you are 25 you have plenty of time to wait it out and make sure he is the right one. He will not feel that way. Rightly so, he has 10 years less than you do. Just be careful-the last thing you want to do is to marry him and "then" find out you made yet another mistake. Take your time-BE CAREFUL dating. If you start having sex-you lose.
2006-06-30 10:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by Terrence J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rules still remain the same. Whether or not you have been married before, PRE-MARITAL sex is still a sin. That same passion and love that you have for each other now, (if not more) will still be there on your wedding night So how much more special would it be?
1 Corinthians 7:2 (KJV)
"Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband."
2006-06-30 10:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, any sex outside of marriage is a sin. I have been through a very similar situation. Hang in there. I know it's rough. If you really love each other you can wait until you are remarried to have sex. As far as other physical things, that is between you and God.
2006-06-30 10:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by kylierika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 2 are really serious about each other, it might be worth the wait till you are get married.
Do I think pre marriage is a sin? No sometimes you got wrapped up in the heat of the moment
But that's just me
God Bless you too
2006-06-30 10:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by mick987g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is no, it would not be a sin. The long answer deals with religion and the purpose behind Christ's sacrifice.
In science, as time goes on we gain a better understanding of Creation. From time to time we gain insight that changes our whole perspective. Men like Newton and Einstein revolutionized our understanding in ways that changed the world. Each one brought us a step closer to the truth, though none was exactly "quite right". Now, we have come to realize that the entire universe, in all its majesty and diversity, is made up of only one thing (we call it the ultimon). All the stars, all the planets, all the energy, everything, is just different aspects of the same, simple thing.
Creation gives us clues into the mind of the Creator. In all His infinite majesty, glory and diversity, at the core God is made of one, simple thing. You've heard it before. God is Love.
Read your Bible and pay attention to the history contained there. At first, men did whatever was right in their own eyes. Then came "the prophets", who ruled from time to time and gave what insight they could. After that came the Law with clear, distinct rules of behavior. Each step in this process brought us a little closer to the truth, though none was "quite right".
When Christ came he had a new message. He took all the Law and condensed it into one simple rule. Love. Love God, and love others as you love yourself. That's it. His death was meant to fufill the Law. Following the Law no longer brings righteousness. Breaking it no longer brings condemnation. That old rule is over. Finished. Complete.
God is love. You show respect, obedience and honor to God by Love. Not by following rules that no longer apply. You say very clearly that your reasons for being affectionate with this man are based entirely on your love for him and his for you. Having love is pretty pointless if you don't express it. You're not going to be screwing this guy. You're going to be making love to him. There's a difference. Not in the act, but in your heart... the motives and thoughts that fill you.
Think about it. Even in marriage sex can be used for reasons other than love. It can be used to manipulate and control, abuse, hurt, demean... That's not love and under Christ's rule it is not permitted. Even in marriage. If the act of marriage no longer sanctifies the act of sex in all respects, then the lack of marriage no longer condemns it in all respects. That Law is finshed. It no longer applies.
The truth is, if you don't make love to this man, you won't be acting out of love. The sin isn't in making love to him. It's in not doing so.
2006-06-30 10:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre marital sex is a sin no matter how many times you have been married or re married. Even though you are not a virgin save yourself for the new man. In God's eyes this is good.
2006-06-30 10:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by LuckyWife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe this is what is called adultery. But on the other hand telling a lie is a sin, using bad language is a sin, pride and vanity are a sin. There is no degree of sin. We are all sinners and no mater how hard you try you will sin today. Try to avoid sin but ask for forgiveness everyday. We are human and we are a product of what we are and our environment.
2006-06-30 10:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by n317537 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very much so. My husband and I waited even though we weren't virgins. There is such a blessing in it. If you don't wait it will make the first couple of years harder. I know this well. I've seen to many people make that mistake.
2006-06-30 10:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by abbasgirlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree....Your 1st marriage was bad, u needed 2 get out. As far as this other guy about having sex before marriage I really don't know...I guess all I can say is follow your heart!
2006-06-30 10:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by fly_away_amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biblically, yet it's a sin, but the Bible is just a collection of myths, legends, religio-political writings, and social rules of a tribe of ancient bedouin.
Are you really going to allow something like that to dictate how you live your life?
2006-06-30 10:23:33 · answer #11 · answered by lenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋