Do men really apreciate beauty?

Question

When I was young I just loved a song that's verse was.... "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life you have to make an ugly woman your wife, go for my personal point of view and get an ugly girl to marry you." I always considered myself an ugly girl until I put my picture on here and it seems men care nothing about my answers only my looks. I just wonder if men really want a pretty wife, or do they just enjoy looking? Thanks in advance

Answer 1

I personally know a lot of men who appreciate beauty. But men do like to look at things that catch their attention from time to time. Even women look at attractive things. Its just human nature.

Men do want pretty wives. Some men could have problems later on in their marital life. This problem stems from the insecurities that a man might have. I know of a few cases where the guy was so overly possessive because his wife's really good looking and he thinks that every other guy is ogling her. Personally speaking, I never judge a person by their looks. It's just plain wrong to do so and downright nasty.

And by the way, i do not think that you look ugly. I believe that no one has the moral right to belittle anyone because they do not look like models. What do looks prove anyway?? Absolutely nothing!! If i wanted to know a person, I'd be concentrating on their personality rather than on their looks.

Answer 2

Personally, I want a wife who is pretty to me...it doesn't matter what the general consensus is. Girls often have much less self-esteem than guys but however you do get those girls who think too much of themselves. Lucky for you, you are blessed with good looks and humility. Its typical of guys to air their opinions, especially when it involves beautiful women. But its not all men that are like this. Yes we do enjoy looking, and its not unusual for woman to do the same, though a little less often.

As for the song, yes I've heard it, but I think what it means is that a guy is better of marrying a "ugly" girl because then theres less trouble if he married a pretty one who always gets attention from other guys or gets her way with him...

I can say I want a wife who will have a good character and someone is nice on the inside, blah blah blah...but while that's all true I also want someone who I think is pretty, pretty to me...its a matter of attraction, isn't it for women too?

Not sure if that cleared it up, but just remember not all men are alike.

Answer 3

every body's beauty full in there own way and if you take the time to look,you might find someone that will make you day.but when it comes to finding a spouse to love and to hold beauty should be in the minds eye to preserve it even win you get old.as far as being happy for the rest of your life i would take the verse you can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes you'll get what you need! a little closer to par in to days social world.everybody is always looking but only for what they have not found. so take the time and find Mr right.you seem be on the right track, but a lot of times you might see that what has always been there is what no one else has ever saw yet. have fun and enjoy.

Answer 4

that's my fav song. most guys are dumb and just want a pretty wife. or they are noble liars or just plain ugly and talk about inner beauty. I however understand what a less attractive girl will do for you and i would prefer an average girl so that i can have more of the power in the relationship. I actually fell for a beautiful girl now and it kind of sucks but she is very good to me. Won't last and it's kind of special circumstances though.

Answer 5

I cant lie, I want my wife to be beautiful. The key to the whole beauty thing are feelings. I've dates girls in the past that I didnt really think was that pretty when first meeting them, but after I got to know them I was hooked. i would look at them and think she was the most beautiful girl in the world. I think a person's feeling will determine how prety they percieve a woman to be. I've dated pretty girls that were B******es and they became ugly because of their bad attitudes. I believe beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder.........If you truly love a woman enough to make her your wife....she will be the most beautiful woman on earth...whether she really is or not. Good luck. ................you know, I don't think you're being honest with us,, why would a girl that percieve herself to be "UGLY" put a full body pic of herself online to be ridiculed by the world?...unlikely!!! you are indeed very pretty....Be confident....Be positive...Keep it real..if you have a good attitude, whatever guy you marry will be lucky and happy as H**L! Good Luck!

Answer 6

Younger men prefer beauty first because it is easier to recognize and they are horny and lazy. Looking for looks gets the job done and the girls, themselves, go along with it. Everyone tries to look pretty for everyone and they're all happy.


Until the first couple of kids and the first couple of bad marriages....then the search is on for someone who truly understands you and can help you grow and find the real meaning in life.

The problem is that by the time we wake up and realize what true beauty IS and SHOULD BE we have damaged ourselves, our hearts and our spirit to the point of not being available to consummate the dream.... the longing remains.

The song is prophetic .......absolutely....... even if written and sung in "jest".




PS.....I have read a lot of your questions and several of your answers........ VERY interesting !!!!

Answer 7

I love that song too but I didn't follow it's advice. The point he was trying to make is that an ugly woman will appreciate you more and will try harder to make you happy.

I want a woman to come home to that is pleasing to the eye and is nice to me too. So if I had found someone like you who was attractive but didn't feel they were it would have been the best combination.

have a great life
kj

Answer 8

well sometimes it depends on the guy...some men care..some men don't. If he cares...then he just doesn't care for nothing else...but i am pretty sure they don't want someone who is really ugly. But your not ugly, your pretty. They need to stop leaving comments about your looks cuz you never asked what they think on their opinions... but your beautiful and don't care what they think or say none of that is worth your time and besides they never meet you and they don't know you...

Answer 9

Exterior beauty is enticing to look at but soon can get very boring without anything behind it to keep your attention.
What a person looks like is not a basis for finding a wife or husband. Unfortunatley many people are shallow this way.

Answer 10

Men want happiness, just like women. If they find a woman they think is beautiful, that adds to the equation. I think what you'll find it that men, like women, have a wide range of what they consider beautiful. Not every guy likes a beanpole supermodel type. My wife has curves, and I love them.