Myself and my gf split.I feel she has attitude.I love her very much and she tool loves me a lot.I told her to get a job fast,and she replied that she would get it soon and she was not depending on my money,I got angry listeneing to this and broke the relation.She literally begged and said sorry for 4 days,but I couldn't console myself.Now she wants to move to another place,as she says she cant stay here anymore.What do i do now,Wher does the mistake lie??What do i do now??I love her a lot,but Iam very much upset to be with her.
2006-06-30 02:15:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is she depending on your money? If not, you had no business telling her to get a job. If she was, then you should tell her you can't afford to support her anymore. Just stop giving her the cash. Do you mean you're living together and she wants to move out? Sounds like a good idea. You can still keep your relationship, and once things get smoother you can try again. Sounds like a good way to figure out if she loves you, or your money. Or do you mean she wants to move to another city? She could be bluffing so you beg her to stay. She just wants to feel wanted, instead of like a burden. Just have a business like conversation. Tell her if she get's a job, even a parttime one, you'll continue to help supporting her, but you will keep a tab, and she has to sign a letter of agreement that she will pay you back. That's fair. That way you can be there for her when she needs you, without being taken advantage of. Attitude very rarely changes. So if you can't live with her attitude, move on.
2006-06-30 03:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by ungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems hard now, but give it a few weeks. Does it really matter who is at fault at this point?
Call up some friends and go out. Life is too short to wait around for someone who is not willing to change a little. And, you can't change someone unless they want to change. If you are unhappy in the relationship now, I promise it will only get worse. I stayed in an unhappy, unhealthy relationship for 13 years waiting for things to get better, and all I did was compomise everything for nothing in return. I have been happier in the 3 years since my divorce, than I have ever been in my whole life!!!!
Leave her behind, and gain a little self confidence, and if the relationship was meant to be, it will happen after you have both matured. Not to mean that you're immature, but age does grow wisdom. If you're 60 years old, there's still more to learn.
By showing that it upsets you when she talks about leaving, you're letting her win. Good luck!!
2006-06-30 09:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool down first and think carefully,if 2 person that love each other very much,u have to accept each other gd or bad attitudes..if u cannot accept something she had done,then y b 2gether?coz this problem might b ur reason 4 ur next fight again..try to talk to her n make her understand....that u r planning 4 both of ur future and this needs 2 persons to cooperate....it comes with a give and take,not just u giving and providing all the time...if she really love u and know how to think maturely,she will understand and support u...2gether building both ur future,all the best!
2006-06-30 09:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by j@NicE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of a good book that the both of you could read and it would help they way that both of you view your relationship. It has help my husband and I with many problems. It is called " The Secret to Family Happiness". You can get it for free. Go to www.watchtower.org I totally recommend this to anyone.
2006-06-30 09:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take her back! Get someone that's better to you than that. She was using you and that's why she wouldn't get a job in the first place. Good luck to you, I hope you find a nice girl. :-)
2006-06-30 09:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other that much, you need to forgive her and the two of you need to come to a middle ground. If not- you could loose her forever and that will be a lot harder to deal with than forgiving.
2006-06-30 09:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? Move on! There was no mistake! She is just not the one for you! Close this door, be greatful for your time together and move on.
2006-06-30 09:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tyger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to build her trust again slowly.
She'll come back when she's ready probably with a job
Good Luck
2006-06-30 09:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her "sorry"..."please don`t go, you know i can`t live without you".... bring her to a resto give her a bouquet of roses and tell her sorry....... it was your fault ok cause you broke the relation and also she begged you for sorry and you didn`t give it...
2006-06-30 09:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by PEM4U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough luck dude...you screwed up big time.
2006-06-30 09:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋