if you are suicidal do you need meds to make you better?

Question

since the begining of this year i have become suicidal. my parents dont know and i dont want to tell them. i also cut myself alot. all of my friends tell me to see a therapist but i cant pay for it without my parents finding out and i dont want to call a hotline... is there anything else i can do?

Answer 1

Some do, some don't. I took all kinds of meds. It wasn't until I learned how to think properly that I started to get better. See my "Antidepressant That Works" webpage for my story: http://www.geocities.com/seabulls69/AntidepressantThatWorks.html

Answer 2

Every area is different so I can not give you specific advice as to who to contact... firstly, there is usually some sort of free service available. A counsellor would help, as it would address the underlying issues. If you look in your local phone directory you should find some sort of support group... these are free and anonymous. You did not mention why you do not want to call a hotline.. you may not feel comfortable sharing your issues with a stranger over the phone, or maybe you are worried evidence of the call would be discovered... if you did get the confidence to do this, however, they would be invaluable in helping you contact the right people.. telling you what is free and available. In regards to meds... if it is related to depression or some degree of mental illness (the term sux.. not meaning any judgement), then it may be beneficial for you to be on some sort of medication to bring things into line. If you do decide on this route, make sure it is prescribed by a trusted or well recognised doctor.. do not self-prescribe. Drugs can have very different effects on different people. Your parents will have some idea that you are not feeling yourself but may not know how to communicate with you about it... if you feel at all able - they will be your greatest support. Best of luck. Our prayers are with you.

Answer 3

Your choices are limited. Why don't you want to tell your parents about it? Are you afraid what they might think of you? Do you have a good relationship with your parents or not so good? If you answered the last question as a not so good relationship, then I advise you to either a talk to a really good friend about your problems or confide in a pastor or priest. You need someone to support you and guide you thru your bad times you are having.

Cutting yourself is a coping mechanism you have created to "deal with" your problems.

Do some investigative work for your own self. Make a list of all the people and things you feel depressed or angry at. Then make a list of all the people and things you feel happy and good about. Compare the two. The lists are called pros and cons. Pros meaning the good and positive things and cons are the negative and bad things.

Let's take a look at your cons for instance. After you listed all the people and things that make you unhappy and angry at. Ask yourself if you can change any of this? If the answer is yes, then do it and feel good again! If the answer is no, then let it go. By harboring hateful feelings and hurtful feelings is not going to help you in the long run it will only make you feel worse.

Let's take a look at your pros. Acknowledge the people and things that make you the most happiest. Accept the many good points about yourself and all your accomplishments in life. Feel great about yourself and learn to love yourself and accept who you are!! This will boost your self-esteem tremendously!!!

By doing these exercises, you will be more aware of how you are truly feeling. Share your lists with your closest friend and perhaps your pastor or priest. You may even want to share your lists with your parents if you so chose too.

The decision is up to you. Only you can truly decide if you are ready to help yourself or not. Good luck to you and I hope you feel better soon.

You can contact me, if you want to talk. I used to do the very same thing, so I know all about what you are facing now.

I hope I was some what helpful!

Answer 4

Suicide is the biggest drama on the planet and basically a cry for love, basically what your saying is "look how wronged" i've been made and im going to show the world how upset about it for attention. Your just seriously upset that life or the world doesnt run your way. How can you be so arrogant that you think you know better than providence? Maybe the universe has other plans for you and your to attached to having your way.rather than learning to be ok with the way it is. Get a life and stop behaving like a spoilt brat thats had her toys taken away. Try making a contribution to somebody elses life instead of being a sad self obsessed victim of life. You have two choices, either be a creator of circumstances and live a life, or be a victim, it seems you are the latter, Isn't it amazing the lengths people will go to for attention? They will even walk under buses and blame the bus! and you know that voice? ( yes the one that says "what voice") stop listening to it "as the truth" and being "at effect" of it, as it loves to conceptualise and enrol you into it again "to be right", learn to observe it ,it screws you over every time! So give up being right with you,as your destroying relationship with yourself.

Answer 5

I suffer from depressive disorder. I can tell you from experience that even though I didn't want to tell anyone, including the fact that I stayed away from everyone and hid in my room for days, that when I finally realized that I had a problem the best thing that I did was talk to someone.

From what I can tell is that most likely you are still living with your parents. I know that you are most likely afraid that they will be horrified over the fact that their child is wanting to kill herself or the fact that you are physically hurting yourself. You really need to talk to your parents. Life is worth living.

It really sounds to me that you are suffering from depression. The only way that you will be able to get medication for it, believe me it took a few different kind till my doctor and I found the right one, is to seek medical help. But, since I have started taking my medication I am like my old self. Now I still have days when my depression still bothers me but no where near what it use to and my family and friends understand more of what I am going through. It makes me feel better to know that they do.

Depression is an illness. Millions of people suffer from it every day. Please talk to your parents about it. I can't stress that enough. Your parents love you and even though you feel that you can't talk to them- you can. I know this because of the fact that I am a parent myself. My daughters come to me when they have a problem and I know that your parents would want you to come and talk to them about it so they can help you. If you don't they may loose a child in the end and that is something that no parent would ever want to face.

Answer 6

Call your county's Mental Health office. A lot of counties have Crisis centers where you can just walk in.

If you're cutting you must be under a lot of stress. You need to get on meds and start counseling. If there are good reasons why you don't want your parents to know just tell the counselors about it.

You're doing the right thing by asking for help.

Answer 7

some people need meds but from the way you sound i don't think you do. i'm not a doctor and i haven't met you so i could be wrong, but i think it's just the hormonal changes your body is going through. i think the best thing for you is counseling.
you should talk to your parents, they care about you and they will want to help. you don't have to tell them everything, just tell them you've been feeling really depressed and you would like to see a counselor. and don't accept a doctor who is going to throw a prescription in the problem within the first couple of visits. he should really understand the problem if he's going to prescribe something.

Answer 8

Call a hotline! You can remain anonymous, and you can talk to someone who is qualified to help you. And besides, how would you be able to get the meds without your parents finding out? Wouldn't they ask questions?

Answer 9

your parents need to know what going on with you. if you are suicidal ,depressed, and are cuttig yourself you need to seek treatment today.this will not go away by its self and if your condition goes untreated you most likely at some point begin to self-medicate and become an addict.you also are setting yourself for a life of misery and son or later you might act on your suicidal thoughts. also you just posted you want to become a psychiatrist,what makes you think you can help others cope with their problems when you are not willing to help yourself ! get help today.

Answer 10

I have to argree suicide is a big call for attention. There is nothing in your life that can't be fixed. If you are suffering from depression you need to be on medication and speak with a shrink. I speak with one 2 times a week and boy has my life changed