I'm a nice guy and have had a couple of miserable relationships where I was screwed over pretty bad. I know there are good women out there but I just have absolutely no motivation to date or be in a relationship. This is the first time in my life I have felt this way..has something broken?
2006-06-30 01:02:52 · 11 answers · asked by Ben Jammin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in the same boat - I've given up completely. You, however, are a guy & there will always be some woman who will want you. You may not evince much of an interest at this time; that will probably draw in the chicks like crazy because they won't be able to stand your indifference to their "supposed" charms. Hang in there & someone who tickles your fancy will surely come along.
2006-06-30 01:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the reason that you lose interest is just because the high that we get in the beginning of a relationship is not there. At first a guy is so interested in us and can't do enough for us but after the relationship gets to a more comfortable level it just isn't enough for you. Maybe you need to give more of yourself to the relationship and not focus on what it is not giving to you. It is also possible that the guys your with really aren't right for you. If you don't see yourself in a long relationship when you first meet them perhaps that don't have the qualities which hold fast over time. If this is the case then don't waste your time as well as his. When you meet the right one you could imagine yourself married forever to this great guy. If you can't say that, then maybe it is just lust. That is unfullfilling after while and then you lose interest.
2016-03-26 22:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volumes have been written in books about this very thing. It's a natural human feeling and we all go through it, some more so than others as I suspect you may have done. But you are in good company. This just happens to be your time in life when the challenges are greater and the need to regroup is strongest. Don't fall victim of relationship failure for too long, and to the point of it overcoming you. Another failure may be in the future, but if you maybe readjust your perception of the whole subject matter, it will be bearable, and maybe even rewarding.
2006-06-30 01:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothings broke. I know a lot of guys who go through this. It passes. Guys seem to feel this way more often than women.They all met someone when they felt this way and it changes things for them. You usually find the best companion when you are not looking because you are a little choosier and not so desparate and lonely. Hang out with some good friends and have some fun being single.
2006-06-30 01:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club. It happened to me. Girlfriends dumped me, three different times, and it crushed me every time. It's conditioning, like sticking your hand into a fire three times, three times you get burned, then you don't want to do it anymore.
I tried counseling. The psychologists' only advice was to "start dating again, or you won't be able to, after awhile."
Consider the lack of interest a personality trait, or a character flaw, or a learned experience. Your feelings are something that may not change in the future.
Whatever you do, don't blame yourself. Stuff happens.
Have you ever dumped a girl, because you lost interest? Do you even know if she was hurt, felt bad, lost interest in dating, herself?
2006-06-30 01:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by regerugged 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had one bad relationship after another and I keep telling myself I'm going to be gay or cellibate, but can never do it because I keep reminding myself of the feeling you have when you first fall in love and everything is new and all you want is that person, the first thought on your mind when you wake up is when you will see him/her again, when you just want to tell yourself to shut up already because you are so giddy and happy that it's funny. I don't think I'd give that up after 1,000 breakups
2006-06-30 01:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by flowerchildofthecorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a female and I feel the same way. I think we have just lost our trust in people of the opposite sex. I was used ans abused and I will never let that happen again. Just be patient. I have been told there are some good people out there.
2006-06-30 01:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
no i am goin through a stage at the moment where i am not bothered with men so its kinda the same i suppose so i ve just been enjoying the single life and goin thru everyday as it passes nothing has broken its just a phase of life you are goin through so just give your self the time and all will be good
2006-06-30 01:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by ailbhe r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your already on the right track.Just keep believing in yourself,that the only thing that has happen is that you've just met the wrong people so far.Don't rush it every dog has it's day.
2006-06-30 01:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is broken. it just gets old. but don't let those who are no longer part of your life, the girls who have broken your heart in the past, keep you from new relationships.
2006-06-30 01:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by bluemonk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋