I am a nanny for my best friend who is a single mum. Lately, I think that she has begun to get jealous that me and her child spend so much time together. I am more patient than her and I think her child notices. How can I space myself from the child and keep this friendship? Or is it possible that I am seeing too much into this?
2006-06-30 00:21:31 · 9 answers · asked by cialear 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
OH, baby; you're talking about strong forces. Um, only focus on what you have in common with the mum. Or mainly. Certainly don't point out the differences. And don't make a point of showing that you're a superwoman in front of the mum. You too, like me as well, are moved by strong urges. You're trying to show that you would be a wonderful prospective mum- very natural and I've done the same. But. don't. do. it. in. front. of. mummy.. See....
2006-06-30 00:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by welcome_to_how_things_will_be 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
If your the nanny he will grow close to you. It would be more of a worry if you didn't. Try to spend some time out with your friend without the child. Get a babysitter or drop over when the child is in bed for the night. Have some time just with the friend so she doesn't see her child with you. She should be glad though that the child loves you so much it shows you care for him
2006-06-30 14:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk with her about it and let her know that what you are doing is for the best of the child. Since your friend has no husband, your presence, in a way, compensates for this lack in their family. Let her know that you care and you are just there to help her through. If she is a level-headed person, then Im sure she will understand and find your ways a good motivation for her to follow when it comes to rearing her own child. Communication is the key.
2006-06-30 00:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Joy RP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are possible. As a mother of 4 never thought I would feel like that but the other day my friend was holding my baby (new and only daughter) and I don't know just got jealous. Its like I don't want anyone to hold her. Its just a motherly instinct I think and nothing personal. But could become personal real quick if you don't respect the boundaries.
2006-06-30 00:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by CYNDIITA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost in this-if you did distance yourself from the child-it would harm the child significantly !how could one so young ever trust their feeling's again when you confuse them about their feeling's so young? The answer is clearer,taking into consideration her natural 'mother's instinct' consciously begin to over-ride those instict's by saying thing's like "wow,i love being your nanny"but i admire the way you cope 24/7,she/he alway's seem's to know when you leave the room;you get the idea! it will help her to adjust and it will pass and you'll be closer still;just don't over do it,once or twice will help her to see and come to terms with it,so carry on and the child won't be confused about trusting their feeling's-happy ending and all.xgood luck, and be, subtle!x
2006-06-30 03:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tommy D. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have ever watched THE NANNY then you will have noticed that the tar plans events with the single father and kids without the nanny(her) Hope That Helps
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2006-07-01 03:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Santa's Personal Shopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless your friend says something i wouldnt space from the child the mom needs as much help as she can get she loves the kids and being single makes it hard for her
try talking with her to see if she is ok with you being close to the kids
2006-06-30 02:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to the mother about her feelings.
She did hire you to care for her child, she should be happy that her child is attached to you & that the child trusts you.
2006-06-30 00:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her
2006-06-30 03:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋