What to do?

Question

My son is almost 2 1/2 and when I bring him around my 3 year old nephew...he bites him. Hard enough to leave marks and I am really upset by this.

My sister is in a chaoitic environment where her b/f and son wrestle with biting. We try to keep our son in a healthy environment but his cousin has bit him 3 times in the past week. We love our nephew but are considering keeping them apart.

What do you think? Do some parents actually let their kids bite to some point and at some point expect them to just stop? Is it normal?

I am mad! And don't want my son around him, his own cousin. I am torn between my son's normalities and time with his cousin.

What can I do?

Answer 1

WOW 9I REMEMBER THIS ONE WHEN MY LIL GIRL GOT BIT BY HER COUSIN ALL IT TOOK WAS FOR ME TO HEAR ABOUT IT ONCE! Sorry this may seem mean to say but have your son BITE BACK and i guarentee it will stop!

Answer 2

you need to talk to your sister - this is not behavior that should be allowed to continue. Some kids do bite as a way of dealing with emotions, etc - but since he is seeing this and having it happen at home, I am sure he is biting because it is what he knows. Either way, it should not be ignored. First, the home environment needs to model a better way to play - kids learn what they see. Secondly, when he does bite, he needs time out to learn that this is not an acceptable behavior. You can' t control what your sisiter does, so if she won't take your advice and at least try to stop her son from biting - then don't take your son there. I know you love your family, but you need to protect your child. If your sister gets mad, then tell her they can come to your house, but you will put him in time out if he bites, etc. Good luck!

Answer 3

i would talk to your sister about it and make her realize that she has pretty much taught her son that biting is a form of playing and that other parents will have the same reaction to it as you do.. also, when and if your son is around his cousin and he bites him, i would tell him no and try to explain that biting hurts your son. maybe he does it as playing so often he doesnt know that it hurts when he does it to others. i would also make that point to your sister. that adults know not to use force when biting and being playful, but for a 3 year old biting is biting.

Answer 4

well hunn i have had to deal with this on many ocasions to be frank i hated it too my boys are older one is 9 the other soon to be 6 resently my youngest started biteing again i got so mad at him it is a normal fase unfortianatly but to keep your son from doing if you see him do it bite him back but first talk to him about it he maybe younge but beyond dumb also mention it to your sister and see if she can try to deter this behavoir if she doesnt do anything about it or blows you offf take your stand the human moth is nasty and carries alot of bactiria and if his cousin breaks skin can set a nasty infection tell her that it isnt someting you want your son to learn and if she wont try to stop her son from biteing then you will just have to not allow them toghther anymore maybe the threat of her not seeing him and you will encourage her to but the breaks on this bad habbit and it doesnt stop on it's own it will continue.. good luck and best wishes i hope i could help.

Answer 5

It sounds as though you should have a serious talk with your sister. Her child and boyfriend should not be playing that way and you certainly don't want your child in that kind of environment.Tell her if this continues you won't be bringing your son over anymore.She might not realize that it is negative behavior her boyfriend is instilling in her child.Also have her and her son come to visit you and if he does it in your home put her son in timeout for 3min. maybe both her and her son can learn from that.Good luck!

Answer 6

if you are close to your sis then maybe you should talk to her about it...if not...
then let your son know that its wrong to do that and if his cousin try to bite him you just talk to your boy "come mummy here....dont play with him so rough..."
whenyour boy walks to you..you play with him in a fun way and make his cousin jealous and if his cousin wants to join in the play with u and ur son then tell him that he can join in but no biting allow....this way you can teach him as well....hope it helps...cos its very hurting to see child getting bitten

Answer 7

you need to talk to your sister and have her talk to her boyfriend....because when it gets time for him(nephew) to go to preschool he WILL be kicked out if not been taken care of...Also i would tell your sister that you can have your son around him for his own sake...you dont want him to start bitting also

Answer 8

I think that a light tap on the mouth and a firm no would work. I have seen this work on others.