She lives in Florida and I live in Illinois. We have two girls together. She left when My oldest was a little over a year old and my youngest was three months old. It's been over 8 years and she still refuses to pay. The state of Florida is trying to enforce my child support. They suspended her driving license and will take her taxes, if she ever files. Every time they locate her, to get money from her wages, she quits her job. I call them every week to find out what the status of my case is and they really don't seem to be doing all they could. I can't afford a lawyer on my own. I have tried to ask, beg and plead with her for help with our girls and she refuses. Her family don't seem to care about my situation either. I don't have family that can help me. I'm on a sinking ship. I moved to Illinois because of better employment opportunities, but my income is not enough. Public aid in Illinois tells me I make to much to help me, but that is a joke. Any ideas on what I can do?
2006-06-29 23:00:52 · 14 answers · asked by deleted 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If she gets visits take them from her. Sounds to me like she doesn't love her children any way. She will have to take you to court even if they are court ordered visits. At which time judge will hand her new orders. Sound like you've been working this for years so waiting another year for legal aid probable won't be that hard. But getting a part time job just long enough to pay decent lawyer would be a better solution. Most lawyers will take a down payment and payments on balance due. Whether you realize it or not Florida is really working with you. I've never heard of this kind (or any kind ) of thing happening to a deadbeat. It is my serious personal opinion that these children would be so much better in long run without this parent. My personal choice was to remove all of "bios" rights and stay away. The other parent knows where we are but is too embarrassed to show face. My child is much better off like this.
2006-06-30 01:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by CYNDIITA 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I live in FL and my ex-husband now lives in TN. He is about $93,000.00 behind in child support. I have been dealing with the CSE for the past 4 years. Keep in mind, he hasn't seen our two kids in 5 years. After FL tried to serve him with papers (in FL, keep in mind he's in TN) he never responded so that took another 1 1/2 years to process. I've told them over and over where he works, where he lives, all of his personal information and NOTHING has been done. I don't know if it's just the State of FL or if this happens everywhere. Oh...then after my ex-husband finally got served with papers for a hearing for child support in FL, he went and hired a lawyer to try and get me for being an un-fit parent because he hasn't seen his kids in 5 years. What kind of **** is that.....my kids are missing out on a lot of stuff because of him.
To make a logn story short, do what the governer's office told me to do, "You are going to have to sit back and see what happens" And the country has his brother as president. Yeah.....makes me feel better.
2006-06-30 06:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by anniepooh30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you are joining the club of MOTHERS AND FATHERS dealing with deadbeat parents! The law has pretty much has done all it really can at theis point, all i can say time will catch up to her! I ahve been waiting for 14 years for my daughters dead beat dad to pay! and he also lives in ILLINOIS , being that they live in another state that is were the prob is!
2006-06-29 23:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Melimel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try Illinois CHild Support Enforcement
http://www.ilchildsupport.com/
2006-06-29 23:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by ivehadit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if legal aid can help you. That is the only advice I can give, because I'm not familiar with Illinois. Good luck.
2006-06-29 23:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a company that will help people collect child support for those not on welfare. Just type in "collect child support" on yahoo and tons of sites will pop up.
2006-06-30 08:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is see what the courts can do. If she is not worried about helping her own kids then maybe you should just give up on her even caring about helping suppost her own kids. Later on she will wish she would have been there for her kids.
Good luck
2006-06-29 23:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have the child support go through illinois. my husbands daughter lives with her mom in wi and his child support case is through that state. i would see if you can transfer the case to the state you are in, they might have stricter laws.
2006-06-30 01:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by sex_c_tink21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of these URLs say "dad" but I searched on "Deadbeat parent" so they should apply to your situation.
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.angelfire.com/creep/deadbeatparentssuck/
http://members.aol.com/deadbeatcheck/moms.htm
http://www.delinquentdad.com/news.htm
Best regards
2006-06-29 23:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she can have her drivers license revoked and her wages garnished talk to your local law enforcement or better yet talk to a lawer one who specializes in family law
2006-06-29 23:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by tigermuffin03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋