Can my relationship still work out even if I'm not that smart?

Question

My boyfriend is one of the smartest guys I have ever met. He can talk about anything because he's always reading up on different subjects. Sometimes he likes to have intellectual conversations about life or current events, etc. I tell him whatever I'm thinking, but sometimes I feel like it's not enough...sometimes I dont have much to say because I'm not familiar with the topic of discussion...and then I just feel stupid. I feel like he isnt going to want to discuss anything with me because I never have anything "smart" to say. Everything else is fine with our relationship..we laugh at all of the same things, we both love music, we both love our families and share a lot of the same values..but I know to a lot of guys having a smart girlfriend is important. I dont know if this is something that could affect our relationship. I want to think that it wont because even though i'm not very smart I still have other good qualities..but I'm not sure about that. So what do you guys think?

Answer 1

if he's so smart he should keep up with you he should be able to keep you in conversations without talking over your head. Or get involved with what he is reading ask him for help if your not sure exactly what he's talking about if you show intrest he'll like that and should try to expalin things so you can understand

Answer 2

Smart is a relative thing. It is not the same thing as intelligence, nor is it the same as just being well informed.
If you perceive that it's a problem, than it IS a problem. Address it head on with your boyfriend and see what his perspective is on the matter.
It is a challenge to over come if you are both in it for the long haul. You may wish to discuss how it affects your current situation, and how it could affect long term issues. It is easier in several ways to be on a reasonably similar intellectual plane as your mate, but also very important to share the same values, life goals and ideals at any level.

Answer 3

Intelligence isn't a contributing factor to love and relationships...

You don't have to be up on current social subjects to show intelligence or have an opinion...

I'm sure you travel through life and are impacted upon by differenct subject... Cost of things, state of society, crime, whatever... Use them subjects to get your point across...

If he starts talking about a subject you know nothing about, just go upto him, kiss him and ask if he'd like some fun... You'll be amazed at how quickly the subject he was boring you with disappears... ;)

Answer 4

He is constantly digging stuff up to impress you with how smart he is. He thinks it is important to "fill you in" on things you are not familiar with.. Can the low self esteem, cause you are smart, few typ-o's clearly asked questions, real words. I'd bet you are pretty, or beautiful, and witty, and good with chatty conversation.. you know and remember things that just amaze him... but, don't strut your stuff too much because that will force him into having to really overstreatch himself to impress you..just be you, that is what he loves about you.. you don't need to be like him cause you can be sure that he irritates him, and he needs you to give balance..

Answer 5

my husband is very smart, clever etc and I have asked him if he would prefer to be with someone who could discuss things on his level physics and computers etc and he said no because then it would be boreing, you are smart in different way to him I think, don't worry enjoy your relationship

Answer 6

You need to be smart in your mind and heart dear and sure thw rorld shall follow you. Remember, bever loose heart cause "Life is so simple, we make it difficult"

Cheers to ya and all the best!

Answer 7

its over honey. He'll find someone that smarter when he grows tired of you. Like attracts like.

Answer 8

sure!