how will you handle a secret relationship? you wanna tell your parents but you knw that they will be mad??

Answer 1

There is no good way to handle a secret relationship. Are you old enough to move out? If not, end the relationship until you are old enough. By that time you will know if it is right or not. Good luck.

Answer 2

Actually, my boyfriend (first one too) is keeping our relation a secret from his parents, even though my parents know everything about us! We're both 19. I've seen too many of my friends become messed up after breaking up in a relationship and screwing up their life, which is why I delayed my love life a little bit and learned by observation. ;)

Let me just put it this way, the only reason why your parents would possibly get angry with you having a relationship with someone is because they LOVE you and want to protect you and want you to have the best life possible and so on and so forth, the list goes on! I personally think it would be WORSE if I find out that my parents DON'T CARE if I'm in a relationship.

Hmmmm, let's try thinking about this in another way...

What if the person you're in a relationship with dumps you? Will you be able to handle that kind of pain? (this is a possibility!). Maybe your parents are REALLY afraid that you will be unable to withstand the pain of heartbreak. Heartbreak can do a lot of hellish things to a person, including making a person so hopeless as to making them commit suicide (please don't do that!), or hopeless enough as to make them not want to pursue their hopes and dreams (which STINKS!).

If you really want to tell your parents, tell them! If they're going to be mad, let them be mad! BUT, if you cannot handle the pain of heartbreak, I think you should wait until you're strong enough.

Here's something from my parents who haven't fought ONCE since they got married:

"The moment you can stand alone all by yourself, the moment when you do not have to depend on others for your own happiness, the moment where you take responsibility for every cause you make and their effects afterwards, THAT is the exact moment when you are ready for a relationship."

In the end, it's all for what makes you happy, right? The decision is up to you. I hope this helped. Good luck! :)

Answer 3

FIRSTLY BE CAREFUL IN THIS RELATIONSHIP N DONT GO FAR .
But if u really love him so just dnt tell them n be careful no one sees u together too much n dnt talk about it with ur parents , just do that n they will never know

Note :no phone calls when u r at home too risky n if u wanna meet him only on ur way to do something n not to lie cz ecerything can be discovered if u lie .

Answer 4

i m sorry to say but u American girls are the most pathetic things on earth, you never think that u will get old and that u need to study and be a good woman respectable with dignity, get married and have children, all ur life is based in flirting and dating any guys all the time? for God sake u better focus on studying and doing something useful and as soon as ur parents allow u get married with a good respectable guy, worker and clean mind and forget about all that pathetic stuff of yours, if not u will end ur life alone, fat and with AIDS disease or with a baby and working as servant maid for some coins, maybe u will end in suicide or sleeping in a dirty street,You people don't know any morals or respect for yourselves even.

Answer 5

just tell them. If you know what you feel for your secret someone is real, just do it. Life is short. Go out and live it! If you just have a fascination with the "secret relationship" and don't really see it going anywhere, keep it to yourself if you know it will upset them.

Answer 6

you have to be open with your parent about it no matter if they getting mad of you. be patient...and try to make them understand about your feeling for him and tell them the truth about him..(if he is really good and right for you only---and only you know it).
No need hiding anything from them cause you're self who will involve in this relation,...and you only who will feel the good or bad someday.
Your parent just wants to protect you from any bad guy...sometimes they have instinct about that believe me.

But if they already misunderstanding and think your bf is bad guy who is not deserve to loved by you (actually he isn't. He is good man)....please be patient....and do not fade up to make your parents accept him, I believe somethey soon or latter they will let you merried him...this happened with my oldest sister who is has three children now and married 10 yrs now

Answer 7

My method is
a.not to tell parents at all since they'll get mad. I would rather seize any POSSIBLE opportunity to meet with my lover.
b.NEVER use pronouns if you were to mention your lover, otherwise people will know instantly what you have been hiding.
c.Keep yourself normal and cool when you talk about your lover.

Answer 8

for me,better u tell your parents before it's getting worst...sometimes we must try to keep it by a secret...don't worry about that...maybe your parent can hear what u want to say

Answer 9

ahaha...same case...well try ur best to keep a secret till ur 21 yrs old then they cannot object u!!

Answer 10

just keep it on the down low for awhile and then wait for the right time to tell them.