How can you manage to be courteous to hostile people everyday?

Question

Without it having devastating effects on your health?

Answer 1

Work in Law enforcement I have gone through three home punching bags.

You just have to keep reminding yourself that it's not personal.

Answer 2

You remember that they are really not hostile at YOU but at the situation or even a prior instance. Don't take it personally, as it is their perception about what they are going through, and being courteous sometimes defuses things and creates a way of making hostility vanish.

Answer 3

Years ago I use to work for a major phone company in credit management, we had a spiel to read which was abrupt and made people upset and angry. We would take 200 phone calls a day and be abused nearly everyone one of them. I would end up in tears as did everyone else.

I ended up rewording the spiel to be nice and show them that I was trying to help them but at the same time had to follow my employers rules. My employer called me in and began boring it up me. I explained what am I actually doing wrong?? Im advising the customers of the rules, and at the same time helping them (which was giving their business a good report and making them more money) and not actually being abused.

My employer ended up calling all my workmates in and gave them a copy of my spiel.

Or you could be over nice to them and having sweet revenge behind their backs lol

Who says you cant help Karma?

What they dont see/know wont hurt them!!! But it sure as hell makes you feel better inside and provides you with a laugh.

Good Luck

Answer 4

i'm wondering how be courteous to a hostile people everday would have devastate your health.

Buddhist say every living thing is buddha.

respect he/she as a Buddha, when you respect and accept that he/she is Buddha, definetely you wouldnt make yourself angry.

have you heard about Boddhisattva Never Disparaging?
he is the one who practice the 24 characters lotus Sutra. his philosophy is that: i respect to all of you. why am i do so? all of you have the Buddha nature in your life, all of you are the Buddha!

Boddhisattva Never Disparaging keep bowing to everyone he met although some teasing him, some even beat him, throw stones on him..

Answer 5

When people loose their temper reason flies out of the window. Hence they are idiots who have lost it and you are the one who by remaining calm and in control yourself, have mastery of the situation.

Arn't you clever? Don't it make you feel good?!!!!

Especially sweet when despite their hostility you can still help them. Don't you think they feel just a tad stupid when they have calmed down? I bet they do.

Answer 6

Understand them and put yourself in their shoes, and imagine whether u'd react the same or similar as them in the same situation? people do things out of a positive intent, it's jus whether it's out to satisfy themself, or towards others.

remember, arguing never helps, a drop of honey attracts more flies den a gall of gallon - abraham lincoln

- peace

Answer 7

Change their attitude by the way you act. If you are working,, take pride in being professional. It is also a spiritual matter. Forgive.

Answer 8

Just remember they are unhappy in their lives and that's the reason they act the way they do. Think of the good things in your life and smile! Good luck.

Answer 9

Ah work in telecom. You get good at it and most telecom businesses have great mental health insurance.

Answer 10

take comfort in that sad fact that they waste their time whining and pouting about stuff you can let go or not let bother you. i see it as a game, and if someone is aiming it at you, kill them with nice. it will enrage them to not get you fired up or mad back. if they do figure it out, they will be ever hotter!

Answer 11

True, you can't take it personnal. These people are sometimes so miserable, they are looking for an outlet. I know is hard to not get caught up. STAY STRONG