So I have this step mother who has been with my dad longer than I have known him and when I moved here to be with him everything was fine but more and more it started to turn into a "Cinderella" lifestyle if you will. She obviously dosent like me and doesnt want my dad and i to have a good relationship. Why does she hate me so? Is there anything I can try that I havent? I have tried a lot of things and nothings worked.
2006-06-29 20:17:27 · 13 answers · asked by Shell M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you ever talked to her openly about it? You could find out if she realizes how her actions are making you feel. One thing I can think of to try: be extremely, obviously nice to her even though she treats you like garbage and see how she reacts.
2006-06-29 20:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Nick Weglowski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honest truth is that there is nothing you can do. I've been in same situation all my life and I am 26. My dad and step-mom have been together since I was 5 and she has always pushed me and my brother away from our dad.(My dad and her raised us). I am always nice to her, and I try to be as nice as possible, but she has never liked me and I know she does not want me around. However, I don't let it affect me and I want to have a relationship with my dad. Therefore I have to put up with her. Growing up was horrible, but I have learned to deal with it as I've gotten older. Hopefully this helped, if not sorry. Good luck.
also, bringing your dad into it will not make it easier, but make it harder on you as she will know you were complaining. And he probably won't leave her, so it would just cause a lot of unnecessary drama.
2006-06-29 20:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend !
Your Stepmother do not hate you but she loves her security and
is insecure . You need patience and need to love her and her family if and inspite of how she behaves with you and she shall start loving You moemnt she is no more insecured about you
and convinced that your staying with them shall increase her happiness and not vice versa.
With all the best wishes and have a nice day !
2006-06-29 20:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Duttkumaar Desai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww that is too bad, I'm not sure that if my response is the best one being that I've never been in a situation exactly like yours...I know that when I was younger it felt like my family didn't like me. (yeah middle child syndrome *smile*) but the thing that helped me out was speaking up. Not yelling, but actually talking with my family. Telling them how I felt, It worked...So maybe you can give that a try...-Good luck
2006-06-29 20:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by Smile_itsanewday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to bring your dad into this. He is in the middle (wheather he wants to be or not) and he needs to know what's going on and try to smooth things out between you two.
2006-06-29 20:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion your step-mother wants to devote more time with your father and she may not get it because of u. Your father may devote much more time with u than your step mother. Thats why she may jelouse of u because she wants to spend as much time as she can with ur father.
2006-06-29 20:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mannu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be a number of things. She could hate your mother, be jealous of you or maybe she can't have children.
2006-06-29 20:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Pinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she hates u coz u r not her own child!! tell ur dad everything abt her and try being closer to him!! if ur mom hates u, u also start hating her.. there is no other way out.
take care...
2006-06-29 20:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by pissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's jealous of the relationship bw you and your dad. maybe try spending some time with her to get to know her.
2006-06-29 20:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by mjfluffypuff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF ANYTHING SHE SHOULD BE TREATING YOU WITH RESPECT SINCE YOU ARE YOUR FATHERS DAUGHTER! WOW... I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY JUST BE YOURSELF DONT LET HER PUT YOU DOWN IN ANYWAY ALWAYS HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH WITH A SMILE ON YOUR FACE ! SHE NEEDS TO GET TO KNOW YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE ! JUST SIT WITH HER TELL HER THAT BOTH YOU AND HER HAVE LOVE FOR YOUR FATHER AND YOU ALL NEED TO GET ALONG!
2006-06-29 20:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by misty b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋