am 19 and am going out with a 32 year old man is that ok?

Question

we have been going out for six months

Answer 1

Sometimes age difference can create problems, but sometimes not! you haven't told us enough information, like are you guys happy with each other? any issues and concerns? so I don't see much a problem just by looking at the age difference.

My cousin is married to a girl 12 years younger than him, they are happily married for 4 years now

Answer 2

Technically it is ok because you are both adults but its also not ok. You guys are 13 years apart. How would you feel if you had a 12 year old daughter going out with a 25 year old. But it is your mind not mine so you do what you want but im just saying its not right.

Answer 3

I say that if you are mature and have things in common, age is irrelevent. The only concern I might have is that he may try to undermine your independence because you are younger and thus "inexperienced" or "know less about life, etc." If he is not that guy, great for you. Just make sure that he is not running your life or keeping you from things you want. Good Luck!!! (P.S. I am 22 and TRYING to date a 30s guy, so I think it's ok, ya know?)

Answer 4

Here is something you can read on.

Age Gap Relationships
by Jan Sawyer

What is an ‘age gap’ relationship? There is usually a five year age difference between the couple to be considered an age gap relationship. Five years really is not that uncommon. It’s when you get into a ten year and over age difference that it becomes more of an issue. Here is where society begins to question and place judgment based on preconceived ideas about the difference between a normal and an abnormal relationship.

For example, an older man with a younger woman is generally more acceptable than an older woman with a younger man, which again points to what is acceptable and what is not generally acceptable in our society, even in today’s seemingly liberal society. Everyone probably knows someone personally who is with a much younger or older partner. And there are a lot of famous people who are in age gap relationships that work just fine for them. If you’ve wondered about them, you’re not alone.

Age gap relationships are different when the parties are in their early 20s than they are when they are older. When we are older, age seems to be less important to us than it once was. What I have found is that younger men find older women attractive for several different reasons. Younger men find their mental stimulation challenging, their self confidence and maturity refreshing, and the fact that the older woman knows what she wants. They find women their own ages for the most part, immature, game playing, high-maintenance, unsatisfied, and hard to please. There is nothing wrong with these men. They just don´t see the sense in pursuing something that has too many pitfalls connected to it so they seek someone more mature.

This has not always been the case. A new generation has been brought up differently, therefore seeking different things in women than before. This generation has grown up with equality standards, knowing how to cook, clean, spend time with children, and how to take care of themselves. They are a very independent breed of men who don´t want to wait until their women mature in order to have a decent relationship. So when they look for their ideal mate they are looking for someone who can match what they are accustomed to and that will enhance what they have already chosen for themselves.

Despite the jokes regarding a younger man dating an older woman, these men have a genuine interest in pursuing them. Those who are bold enough to pursue what they need in a relationship usually are the most successful in their relationships. Younger men are more mature than many of us give them credit for. Given half a chance they can outshine most older men in the ways they make a woman feel. Because of their younger age, they bring more fun back into an older woman´s life, they share in the household responsibilities rather than place that burden on her shoulders completely with the attitude that it’s her job. They enjoy talking, they communicate well, they aren´t afraid to show their emotions, and love spending time with children.

For the older woman this is a dream come true. All the things she needs as a woman are found in the younger man. She finds herself feeling alive and has found her equal that just happens to be a man much younger than herself. She is loved for who she is not for what she looks like. She has found the perfect balance of give and take. For some it means feeling really loved for the first time in their lives by a man because so many older women were abused in one form or another in a previous relationship.

Those who don’t understand or find it strange feel that way because they have no idea the dynamics of such a relationship. Those people need to understand that those two people are attracted to each other for the same reasons any other couple is. Just because there happens to be an age difference of more than a few years doesn´t make it any different or any more abnormal. Most age gap couples never set out to date someone much younger or older than themselves initially. It just happens to work out that way.

Answer 5

Thirteen years is a big gap!
You have your whole life ahead of you.
the question is, "ARE you going to let a guy 13 years senior ruin the most important years of your life"?
Six months is not a great deal of time to get to know somebody!
Be extremely careful...

Answer 6

HEY. Good for you. I'm 22 going out with a 33 y old. The age difference suits both of us. We have been going out for a year and half. Wish you both the best. To answer your question, thats fine, peoples needs are different. No one should judge you.

Answer 7

Your an adult!! I'm 31 my fiancee is 21, and again let me stress your both adults there's nothing wrong with it, love is ageless if your both truly love each other enjoy each others company and both respect each others wishes and personal feeling then my friend quit looking at age and enjoy life, its to short to worry about little things like age and what people think, if your happy then that's all the matters in the long run!!!

Answer 8

cmon now...screw what other people say about it. ur the 1 in the realtionship with him so ultimately u will be the judge if its ok or not. i don't c a problem with it...ur over 18 so u must be responsible so i don't c what the big deal is.

Answer 9

i don't think its a good idea because i know it from my experience,at the first few years its ok but when you are older it will be different ,let put it this way when you reach 40 how old will he be? "OLD MAN " than you will be the care taker.

Answer 10

if it feels right to you then go ahead . this is your life and besides your legally an adult.
if u r absolutely sure that this guy is right for you then of course its ok.
as long as ur prepared to make some sacrifices along the way.