how can a guy..sleep next to you on his every day off..how can a guy fall asleep next to you..holding you..how can that same guy..know everything about you..how can he talk to you for hours and come to your house as thuogh it was his..how can you have soo many memories with eachther..how can you do things with smene you never did with anyone else before like going wayyy out of town alone..or just experiencing something like deep see diving together or skiing together knwing niehter of you have never done that..how can a guy go from doing all those things with you..then he could wake up a few moths later and say.."im done"...i am not understanding..how could you give up on everything we have? how could you just say you're done and you dont like relationships and so on..yeah we have our ups and downs and yeah things go wrong just like any other relationship..but that what its all about..working on it..making it work..making it stronger..i dont understand...
2006-06-29 19:53:35 · 16 answers · asked by Calendar_Model 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not to sound harsh, but he obviously wasn't happy with the relationship. Just because you spend alot of time together and do new things doesn't mean he was in love with you. It sounds like your feelings for him are alot stronger than his were for you. There are alot of people out there who are with somebody until the "next best thing" comes along and will toss you aside like garbage. I was with a guy for 2 years and had alot of the same things you describe, came home from work one day to find he moved all his stuff out and into another girls apartment. I had no clue there was a problem and was totally devastated! It took a year to get over and totally broke my heart. It's gonna hurt like hell for awhile, but the pain will go away. When that pain starts to subside and you are thinking clearer, you'll be able to think back and see little clues you missed. Alot of times the clues are there but we choose not to see them because we don't wanna. Chances are your better off without this guy, he isn't the one for you. But keep in mind..what comes around goes around and eventually he'll get what's coming to him!
2006-06-29 20:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly9k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.! Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
2006-06-30 02:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he feel trapped and simply need some space to grow?
Or maybe this has been whyding down for some time.
Your best move and the hardest is to know that humans want what they can't have. If you don't call, don't hold on don't react to his call. It is your best chance to "invite" him back....(making it him think it was his idea. ) And if it is not to be then you are well on your way to the next cool dude.
If you are an adventure kinda scuba girl it won't be long.
It is hard to be "can't have me" when you want someone so much. I don't know if I could follow my own advice in times of romantic distress. I know people and it is your best move.
Keeping busy helps. Exercise, clean out that old closet. Fix your stuff up before he gets back.
2006-06-30 03:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by harPOON capt uss TANG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is not happy. His needs are not getting met.
I completely agree with you though. A relationship will have its ups and downs and its all about making it through it together.
Some people don't think like us.
Remember the good times, let the bad slip into nothingness.
2006-06-30 02:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently having this done to me and it hurts like hell!! I have done a lot of research and one thing I learned is some guys (not me) are afraid of the commitment and will get out of a relationship because they are afraid. I'm with you on working on it and making it work and making it stronger. I am TOTALLY with you. Right now she does not want to do that with me and he doesn't want to do that with you. Email me if you want and we can IM on this. My thoughts are with you because I completely relate to this...it sucks!! Hope to hear from you!!
2006-06-30 03:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound harsh, but that's life.This happens millions of times a day the world over. Who knows what makes people do these things.
2006-06-30 02:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by Irish_bi_female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could give you some insite but sounds like someone needs to slap him around and open his eyes to what he just walked way from. Good luck and I am sorry I couldn't help.
2006-06-30 03:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by wicked jester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just wanted a good time and got it with you. Sounds like he's either not ready or just doesn't want a relationship. There's really nothing you can do, crying about it to him is just going to push him farther.
2006-06-30 02:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i know exactly how you are feeling. you can email me if you want. it takes time to heal from that. its been awhile since that happened to me, and i still have to deal with the pain every day. but don't worry. stay busy with friends and hobbies. it will all be okay.
2006-06-30 02:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most possible answer is, there's a third party involve in the scene
2006-06-30 02:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by Squall_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋