He tells me he loves me every day and I usually just say "I know" or "Yeah me too" and he seems to think that because I don't say it back it means I don't.Why is he being such a girl about this?Why does it matter if I say it back?
2006-06-29 19:47:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand what you are saying to an extent. I like to say, "I love you," but I don't want it to be an automatic response, either. I don't want to say I love you, just because he said it. When I say it, I want to say it because I mean it and it doesn't have to be prompted!
I don't know if that's your case or not.
If it is, just find ways of saying I love you first that are comfortable for you, such as writing notes, saying it when you wake up in the morning, or just before going to bed at night... Plan how you are going to say it, if that makes you comfortable (like the reasons you would give, if you want to say more than just I love you) or just make it spontaneous - say it before you lose the nerve!
If responding with "I love you, too," doesn't suit you - then what you need to do is find some way of saying "I love you" that makes you comfortable.
But, YES, it is important to say it, because it makes the other person feel good. If you really love him, isn't this important to you? Sure, I know what you're thinking: they should know it already, right? Consider this: if your boyfriend thought you were beautiful, intelligent, wonderful, whatever nice thing you can think of - wouldn't it feel better to hear it than to just assume he thinks that because you are dating?
Look, it's the *easiest* way in the world to make your partner happy, because it just requires you to say three little words... Think about making the effort for it.... It's not just important to him, but I think it's important to find a way of expressing your feelings, too. Maybe you could try keeping a private diary for a little while, so that you can get used to the idea of expressing your feelings? If you're just expressing it to a diary, then you can say whatever you wish - no judgments - and it's preparation for opening yourself up emotionally to a real person.
I hope you find something that works for you!
2006-06-29 19:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kestra SpiritNova 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously he's worried that you don't mean it. Maybe you should take a long hard look at yourself. If you really do love him, saying "I love you" it something that comes naturally without force. When exactly WAS the last time you said "I love you" first? If you don't say it at LEAST once every two or three days, there must be something wrong...
2006-06-29 19:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very insecure. Don't know what you should do to solve it though. Maybe do something special for him once a week that screams "I LOVE YOU", like a rose left in his car at work with lyrics to a love song(not all of them, just the key ones) tied to it. Surprise him with his favorite dessert. Out of the blue call (or text message) and say "Love Ya!" and hang up. Good luck.
2006-06-29 19:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to ask and for you to answer the "I Love You" question a lot. It sounds like he needs to say it and hear it from you, but you don't require the same. Nothing is wrong with either of you, but you both need to understand that the other person requires something different. He needs to know (I think) that you love him without needing to say it, and you need to know that he needs to say it and maybe, hear it from you more often.
2006-06-29 19:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he really loves you. I mean how would you feel if you really loved a guy, which I'm not sure if you really love this guy since you don't say it back, but how would you feel if you told a guy you loved him and he said, "I know." Kind of like, really that's great but don't expect me to say that to you. If you love this guy you should let him know before he finds a girl who does love and care about him. People need to know they are cared about or they won't stick around.
2006-06-29 20:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sniggly_Snew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well......do you love him? Maybe he's a little ahead of where you are in the relationship. Hopefully he's not dealing with insecurities. If he loves you, and you (at least) like him, maybe you should ask him to be more patient with the idea of exchanging affectionate words with each other. It can be a special thing and shouldn't be rushed. But, on the other hand, if you don't really love him, maybe you should let him move on. Don't string him along............no one likes a tease!
2006-06-29 20:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlike the first two jamokes I'll answer this from a true male perspective...we like to be told we are loved without having to say it first. Show me and tell me you love me and I'll feel better. Show me does not only mean sex. I will pour out my heart, soul, and life to you because I love you. You are more important to me than any baseball game, basketball game, football game, TV show...you get the idea.
Show me the same and our love will be awesome!!
2006-06-29 19:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he really feels something for you he wants yo know if you feel it back and his way of knowing is when you say "i love you too" after he says it!
2006-06-29 19:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because saying 'i love you' back to him will let him feel your love for him. it's so cold to respond him by saying 'i know' or 'yeah me too'. if you were him, would you feel good to hear your bf just saying 'i know' when you told him that you love him? if you can say 'yeah me too' then why don't you try to be a little bit more sweet and say 'i love you too'??
2006-06-29 20:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by yiub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to know that you love him. And normally when someone says "I know" or "You too" or anything else, it means that they really don't "LOVE" them.
2006-06-29 19:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋