My 2 1/2 year old knows when she has to go, holds it for a long time, refuses to use the little potty, the toilet or the child's seat on the toilet. I've tried bribes, and praise, letting her run naked, bringing the potty to her and "big girl panties", she completly refuses! Help!!!!
2006-06-29 19:23:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know 2 1/2 seems late, but we've been at this for a while. I started at 18 months, she didn't quite get it, so I decided to give her a break then try again....
2006-06-29 19:40:26 · update #1
This is a natural reaction. Think about it from her point of view this is the very first thing that she is in control of and she likes the feeling also the poop is hers and manyt times toddlers do not want to give it up. sounds funny but it is how they look at it. also she might like the attention this potty training is getting her. don't fret just hold on and go with it It is a phase and she will soon out grow it. Just think how you will treasure these days when she is married and gone
2006-06-29 19:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by digimutt 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
While it's a bit late at 2 1/2 for toilet training, it isn't impossible. It sounds like she's pretty set in her ways. She could also be having some problem with not wanting to go because of pain (hard stools), fear of missing something while she is unavailable, or has trouble deciding when is the right moment. She could also be one of those little monsters who figure out how to use such things as a control technique. She may be using this to get attention.
Consider mandatory potty breaks. After each meal, or at certain times of each day declare that it is potty time for the next 20 minutes (or until success). Have her stay on the pot until she goes. The sooner the deed, the sooner the play afterwards. This also puts her into a regular pattern. It may take a few days until the message sinks in. It could take a while for it to sink in. Be consistent, firm, and kind.
2006-06-30 02:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a fear of growing up. I don't know much about toddlers, but as a step mom of a child who was not potty trained with any consistency I do have some advice from the distant future.
BE CONSISTENT!! Keep plugging away. Just keep in mind that consistency is the key. Meals at the same time (Or at least around the same time), bed time the same, potty words the same, etc. Try and keep everything as routine as possible. Perhaps it is a fear, or a battle of wills, whatever, but if you stay the course everything will be ok. The problems of an inconsistent potty training are lasting and difficult to deal with. My step kid is 13 and still having problems.
2006-06-30 02:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was also desperate (you can see from my first question on this site). My son, despite knowing what was expected of him, refuesd to be bribed or cajoled into even entering into a discussion about the toilet. My younger daughter waws also training at the time, and he didnt budge - even when we bought her a bike for being trained; something he really wanted. I went so far as to promise him a bike for the first wee! He was 3.5 years old, and entering kindergarden this coming year, so I was really feeling the pressure.
One night, I just had enough. My family was very stressed, and we had come to a situation where we were at war with each other.... That night, I had an epiphany - wait it out. You can only do this if you really and truly feel that YOU are ready to wait it out - it can be more stressful than training. I packed away the pants, the potty, the charts, and didnt mention it at all except to say that when he was ready to train like a big boy, he could come to me. Until then, he was welcome to be in diapers.
I prayed - boy did I pray - that I would have a miracle and that he would train before the Summer, since he would be going to a Summer camp prior to the new school.... One day, we got our miracle. He happenend to mention that he was ready to train, but would only do so if I bought him a seat like in the preschool. I went that day to get one, and we had a whole ceremony of placing it on the toilet. Then I said that everyone would be allowed to have one turn to sit on it - it was like a priveledge. He sat on it for a split second - like he had burned his bum. Nevertheless, I gave him his "sit on the toilet sticker" and his prize, which had been promised to him for sitting on the toilet.
The next morning, I said that they could all have a turn again. this time, he sat for a second - and got the sticker. Soon, he was sitting twice a day. Unfortunately, he was holding himself in and he also refused to drink. I let it go - he was sitting at least 3-4 times a day for a few weeks, when he spontaniouly weed! I gave him a treat and a "wee sticker" and we went to buy his bike. Now, he realised that it was fun to wee, and we have not looked back since! I feel that I had a personal miracle!
If your daughter is only 2.5, you have time to do this. Dont elt the older generation get to you - they trained their kids young so as to save on washing the cloth diapers. Think about it - in a 70-80 year span, what difference does it make if she trained 1/2 a year later? The peer pressure may get to you - but remember this: studies show that children who train later, train faster and have more general control. Training later can help rid the stress off the mom, the child and the family. The child will be more in control and have less accidents if he is older, and this will enhance his sense of well-being and self-confidence.
Lastly, dont forget: we all get there eentually. Some of us feel like we will be the only ones in the world with a kids who does not toilet train, but we all will succeed!
2006-06-30 02:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Leah S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about girls but the only way I could get my son to potty train was to turn him around backwards and make him say good bye to everything and he thought it was hilarious then the problem came of when we were in public and he was screaming bye bye Mr poopy to everything! I don't know why it works but it also helped my nephew! I haven't tried it on any little girls but maybe... It is an idea. I hope it helps
2006-06-30 02:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Moma!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a potty chart for my son - he gets to put a sticker on it every time he goes. He really likes this, and once the sheet is full he gets some candy. Now he really likes that!
2006-06-30 02:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jeannie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think 2 1/2 year is too late.
I think she simple is not yet ready for this.
Give her another break. Try to listen to your daugther.
2006-06-30 12:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by ilikesew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day she will figure it out on her own, seeing that you say she knows when she has to go...don't worry to much right now, she is young. Sometimes the more you push them the harder it is on you....the only person you are training right now is yourself. One day you will look back and say...it wasn't that bad. Good luck your doing everything right, just be patient : )
2006-06-30 02:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Susie x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋