I am 26 yr old feamle and I have a question for the guys about relationships. I don't have a job because I am disabled. I can drive and lead a somewhat normal life, but I have trouble meeting guys. They ask me about myself and when I tell them I am disabled, they actually look the other way. At first glance they think, "Oh she's hot," but then when they find out about my life, they run for the door. Are there any caring guys out there who understand that all girls aren't the same?
Please let me know your thoughts...thanks!
2006-06-29 18:52:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at that age guys are very much in their, "Hairy Man" stage. That is their primal urge to mate with a fit and wide hipped female is imbreded into them.... natural selection kind of thing and handicaps complicate that and the relationship. This is a primal instinct and can be overridden by someone looking for a stronger relationship. Don't give up hope, as these men mature they will pull their heads out and come up for air and see beauty and qualites they have never seen or looked for.
The revers is the, "Nice guy" problem, why can't a nice guy get the "Hot chick", cause the same thing is happening too the girls, they are looking for the alpha males, the strong bad boy traits which surely means the men will be there to protect them... years later who makes the best husbands and constant providers? Yea, the "Nice guys" like me that were passed over by them little hotties who wanted the bad boyz, so they got what they wanted and now are realizing.... I would have made a nice catch but I got snaged by a "Nice girl" with nice hips... still married 22 years later.
You sound smart, educated and as you say, "Hot"... don't let these dumb guys get you down and don't lower your standards, just kind of zone into where you might find the guy will look past the handycap and see the reall you... which kind of puts you back into the same situation but the guys are out there.... so good luck and chin up.
2006-06-29 19:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
At first let me tell u be practical n face the life. Its natural that guys will find u hot but knowing u r disability most of them will turn around.I dont want to give u any simpathitic view n also dont want to know ur disability but we can be good friend. For friendship only one need a pure heart. So the finish line is can we be friend mail me bosedebjoy@rediffmail.com
2006-06-29 19:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by joy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say what you disability is, so it's a little difficult to answer this question. but first of all, if the disability doesn't show, and is not something that will jump out at them, why bring it up in the beginning? if they ask what you do, you can say you are self-employed, independently wealthy, or an agent for the CIA.
but my question is........would you go out w/ a guy who has a disability?
2006-06-29 19:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sylvia H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how you are disabled and i know you are asking guys but let me tell you i am also disabled and i have a great well not great he is alot more than great very hot alot of girls want him but he is all mine and loves me for who i am he takes good care of me i also have a 8 and 10 year old that are not his but loves like they are keep looking yours is out there and when you find him you will know it and he will be all yours good luck
2006-06-29 19:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by tiffeny s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy won't bother with you because you are disabled, it isn't worth your time. The question you need to ask is where you are going to try to meet guys. I would suggest trying a different type of place.
2006-06-29 18:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your disability, but its doesnt seem like you have a problem attracting guys! You might just have to wait for the right person to come along with a lot of trial and error! Goodluck
2006-06-29 18:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, if you're asking this question, then you are implying that u both dont have time for this guy each from time to time or you dont like him as he likes u(u have not stated something about a courting yet i'm assuming u are in a unmarried). properly earlier I tell u if its significant I propose u to inform the guy if u dont him or dont imagine u have time 4 him. If u have time and u like him yet inspite of reason dont get to the phone even as he calls then u are unlucky cus men, as egoistic and uncaring as they'd look commence to pressure if u genuinely like them or no longer. it really is the message u will be sending them if u dont answer their calls. If i became a woman I wouldnt favor that to ensue so i imagine this is critical. good success
2016-11-30 00:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by burley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends what kind of disability... really it is harder to find someone while having a disability... personally i wouldnt care much its whats inside that counts... and if at first glance ure hot... thats also a plus
2006-06-29 18:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by XitachiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your disability, if a guys runs it means he probably cant take of himself let alone take care of you. Keep your head up
2006-06-29 19:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by army_powerlifter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My name is Quest and what i think of those guys is that they are DULL.For instance,i choose gals by the way they treat me,the way they care and so forth BUT i never look at how they look or how their life is or was.Iam very sorry for what they did and i want you to know that there is someone for you somewhere and all you have to do is wait and pray and he will come to you.
questina2006@yahoo.co.uk
yours
John D.Quest
2006-06-29 19:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by John D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋