I am still in love with my child's father, even though he has never really been there for either of us. We are 500 miles apart now, but he wants me back. There are so many bad memories. The relationship was abusive and destructive. Where can I turn for answers and support?
2006-06-29 18:51:44 · 17 answers · asked by steffygotmail 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
hey steffy,
The part that jumps out at me are the words abusive and destructive! I really hope good things happen to you! I mean it!
If the relationship was that way, then it was also that way for your child.... even if he/she wasn't around to witness it. Kids pick up on our emotions and feelings... I'm no expert, but think long and hard before you put yourself and your child back into harms way!
Keep your head high and demand respect!
2006-06-29 19:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
light is created by God and i know where you are its hard to see any. Your in love with the man he could be if he chose but he lives a crueler choice. He wants you back for all the wrong reasons and no matter how good intentioned you would be getting back together would be bad.It sounded like your relationship only foster the worst in each other so if you say you love him then make the truly ultimate sacrifice and give him up forever. That way you won't be the cause of his doing bad. the support you seek is first in the true God. Then that you believe He loves and forgive you. Last I would recommend the Catholic church but that is a personal call between you and Him. May God Bless you and bring you peace , bringer of victory
2006-06-29 19:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bringer of Victory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember the effect the relationship had on you before, but always remember the future you'd like to have for yourself. Something that has always been hard for me is relationships. There are the ones you want to forget at all costs and those that you'd love to hold onto forever, no matter how good or bad. Just keep your head high, and crying IS a good thing. Don't bottle things up, remember the good times you had and make sure that you and your child come first.
2006-06-29 18:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stephanie,
If this is you back in upstate NY, this is me.
I am begging you to LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!! You are better off without " S" in your life. Think about what your granny would tell you to do. She would tell you LEAVE HIM ALONE!
You are a much better person than he is. He has caused you so much heartache. You spent an awful lot of time chasing him and in the end, he left you alone to support your son.
You are such a beautiful and sweet person. Do not listen to his sweet talk. Don't get back together with him. Stay strong. You and your son will get along without him just like you have for the past few years. He was not there for you before, why do you think he would be now?
love you and you are in my prayers,
your step mom
2006-06-29 22:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough espesially with a child as a constant reminder. I wish I could help. You're in love, and he wants you back, so it sounds good right? but what ever allowed him to be abusive won't change, you will need to move on. When you finally heal and find love again, you will thank yourself.
a counselor or social worker may help. Perhaps a single mom's support group in your area would help some.
2006-06-29 19:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by Truth be Told 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other people, communities or hobbies. If there's someone that can watch the kid once a week, get out and get involved with a group of people, kayaking, martial arts, or something you've always wanted to do. You'll meet some great people and probably a few guys who will make you realize how bad you had it and how good you CAN have it.
2006-06-29 19:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh hey,
Look, I could write a novel about this but for lack of time and space I'll just say this;
Please do your child and yourself a favor and realize your worth.
Decide what it is you need to be happy, this may not include abuse you know...and then do it. It sure takes alot of courage, but if you value and respect yourself you'll know what you want out of life and make the right decision. Be brave. My vote, stay apart.
Good luck.
2006-06-29 19:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by carlysweetlips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously need counselling. It is a good sign though that you are aware that there is a problem. Move forward in your life, do not turn around to live those memories into reality. Call a HOTLINE there are many ways to help yourself out of this. Do it for your own good and future.
2006-06-29 18:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by trykindness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An abusive relationship is a cycle of violence.
Figure out what exactly you miss and find it some place else because nothing has changed.
If you got back into a relationship with him it would just get worse and worse.
2006-06-29 18:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so here we go...once a relationishio is bassed on abuse and bad ways...there is no reason why you should go back...if he honestly cared he would of never really did anything to hurt u...you should try to find things to keep u busy its the best thing for u and ur baby....no going back to the past it never does anything but make u think what if blah blah ...the past is the past and if u r ment to be in the fure its going to happen in weird way but by itself... dont try to make something thats not really there....
2006-06-29 18:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by gueritaazteca@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋