Ok well, i'm a rather shy person. But me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year and we love each other very much. (hes 21 and i'm 20) We started having sex a little while ago, i was his first girlfriend ever and i have had little sexual activity with any of my other boyfriends. I enjoy sex with him because its sweet and i can feel that we love each other during it but.
i cannot orgasm, i can't do it by my self and i can't do it with him, sometimes the fore play lasts too long, i get worked up, and then i start to get unturned on. I know hes just doing it to please me.
I've tried to kinda start things up, but i don't really want to have to pounce on him when ever i want to play.
How exactly do you tell someone you'd like them to... get to it faster without sounding like all you want is sex.
keep in mind we have a great time doing unsexual things too. but if we are going to do sexual thing i'd like to get some pleasure from it too.
2006-06-29 18:50:02 · 20 answers · asked by FireKittenofdoom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well relax and take charge when you get all worked up just kinda you know herd him to what you want him to do don't just lay there kinda guide him to what you want eventually he will learn and you wont have to any more he is just doing what he thinks you want
2006-06-29 19:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by icenhour76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it said it all very well right here and made a good point to your situation Id would suggest you print this or just show it to him let him read it and that will get an open discussion going I do not feel in any way this will hurt his feelings he seems to care alot about you and what you want so just tell him
good luck Hun!!
2006-06-29 18:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by BRATS MOM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the relationship is strong between you both there should be no problems telling him how you feel and letting him know exactly what you want is known as comunicating, its of great importance in any relationship, just tell him and orgasm as often as you want, it is the best thing you can give yourself, but if you still cant, see a doctor, there are medical reasons why it also happens.
2006-06-29 18:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to "get to it faster" ask him by saying "let's try....."
that way it seems less like all you want is sex. As for the orgasm part, you need to relax and he needs to go down on you! No really, have him go down on you and you just lay back and enjoy it.
2006-06-29 18:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Some guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the "thing" about relationships is negotiation these situations.
Talk about this before you are "in the moment".... If he wants to please you he will want you to orgasm as well. Experiment until you find something that works... even if you have to improvise. Then make that part of the experience.
My partner and I have a few varieties of things... she has to do, to really "get it done".
Good luck.
2006-06-29 18:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should buy you a vibrator and use it to stimulate your clit while he is giving you foreplay with that you will have multiple orgasms..I went through the same thing and the vibrator worked really good after a while I did not have to use it anymore good luck
2006-06-29 18:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by manita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK as u r in a relationship i think eyes would say the most silence speak better than words doesn't it
try using eye language
2006-06-29 19:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Hardik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... first of all wat makes u think dat its bad for him 2 think dat all u want is sex i mean its da most normal thing between a guy and a girl we both luv sex theres nothing wrong with luving it and move around him and help along theres a posithin where u can take control put him on da bed then u get on top then u can go faster urself then idk give him signs dat u like it fast hes gotta catch up 2 those signs if he doesnt idk then he just not gud at having sex and u'll just hav 2 teach him i guess LOL sowy :(
2006-06-29 18:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when he starts doing that start moaning and tell him faster faster and he will hopefully it helps to tell him what you want when your in the middle of doing this i no when i tell my man something like that it turns him on hearing me tell him what i want for him to do try this and see if it works
2006-06-29 19:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by samm5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like that...tell him, "OK, now get to humpin"
Honesty is best. Don't pretend you like it if you don't. Don't be afraid to tell him what you like. It'll make it better for both of you.
2006-06-29 18:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by 4kidsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋