I cannot stand to be touched by my sweetie. I love him but I am constantly wondering what is wrong with me. I wonder if I can really live with him. He's always pushing me to think deeply about things before I act or speak. He is positive and supportive of anything I want to do. He teases me when I panic about things (and then he calms me down and comforts me.) But I am freaked about marrying him 3 weeks from now. I don't know how to get rid of the feeling that I should run away screaming! Help?
2006-06-29 18:09:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Is there a legitimate reason for you to feel this way? Has anything happened in your relationship recently to cause these feelings, ie: abuse? 1 of 2 things can be going on here, either A. your subconscious/gut/intuition is telling you that you're about to make a MAJOR mistake in marrying this guy or B. you're major league stressed out over the wedding. B becomes more probable the bigger your wedding is. With 3 more weeks to go, the stress will continue to accumulate. So I'd be more inclined to say this is nerves. Try to keep your stress level lower, and remember to do something for yourself that isn't wedding related every day.
Talk to someone you trust about your feelings, hopefully that would be your financee. But if it's not, then really think hard about marrying him. It's much better and easier all around to end an engagement than a marriage. Your husband should be your best friend, there should be nothing you cannot share with him.
2006-06-29 18:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a great guy, you are just freaking out and you feel overwhelmed about the wedding. Now everything irritates you, specially your fiance. Why? Because you are frustrated about the wedding details, you are overreacting because you think that he doesn't care and you are angru, yes angry because all he seem to do is tease you and laugh and downplay your desperation... It's not lack of love or consideration, the truth is dear, you have become BRIDEZILLA.
Relax a little and enjoy.
Good luck
2006-06-30 02:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK IF the only feeling is RUN and SCREAM do both very fast and DO NOT marry this man your sprit and heart are already telling you this is all wrong better to end it now than a year from now
2006-06-29 18:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by BRATS MOM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good day Girly! i comprehend precisely the way you experience! i'm getting married in six months and ever in view that we were given engaged each undesirable aspect that could want to ensue is going by my recommendations! that is genuinely standard and that i imagine you owe it to your self and him to study your thoughts and 2d guess! I genuinely adore my fiance and that i comprehend we would have a fantastic existence yet shall we face it, there'll be complications incredibly even as youngsters are in contact! you in straight forward words ought to carry close in heart that he has a minimum of ninety% of the features you want and enable the others pass. no individual contained in the finished international will be one hundred% desirable. purely have self assurance your heart and examine out now to not spotlight each of the undesirable that could want to ensue and concentrate on what's occurring. for sure he's a extra special guy or you'll not' have stated sure! good success and purely breathe! Oh and in case you have not already you would possibly want to pass to pre-marital counseling and get those thoughts out with someone at your church or someone who's qualified.
2016-11-30 00:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by compo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is permanent and you need to be totally certain before going through with it. it's understandable to be slightly nervous about the big day, but you shouldn't be doubting whether you can live with him or not. you have every right to be nervous or even panic about things. these are your feelings and he shouldn't dismiss them. explain that even though it might sound silly to him, your feelings are very real and he needs to be a bit more sensitive to it otherwise it will make you feel worse! it sounds like all things that can be sorted out with a bit of communication.
2006-06-29 18:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey don't worry about it, I am having the same problem with my sweetie and we are getting married tomorrow. Nothing is wrong you just have the jitters.
2006-06-30 02:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Cowgirl Up 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry it's perfectly normal. I just recently got married! Trust me -- those last few weeks your brain gets all crazy! I would suggest not running away but screaming may help! LOL -- It will be worth it -- it's just nerves
2006-06-29 18:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by bcrews21087 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear,
What you need most of all is self reassurance, self respect, self confidence and patience.
This is a big step towards your future, it sounds like he is - more to the thought - bulling you.
If you get married without having self confidence, he will treat you like this for the rest of your life...
2006-06-29 20:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most brides get scared befer da weddin........ i tried to talk myself out of gettin married glad i didn't
2006-07-06 14:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋