How many other stay at home moms get????

Question

mad in the moment when the kids are acting up. My husband is hardly ever home so its just me and my 3 year old and 9 month old baby. Just in a moment I get mad. Is this normal?? I just yell....I never do anything other than that, but still feel its bad for a my children to see.

Answer 1

I am a stay at home mom with a 4 year old and a 1 year old. So yea i get you....sometimes i find myself getting mad, and when i do i just take a time out for my self, like go into my bedroom for a minute, or step out side really quik, even just take a deep breath i have found it very helpful...most people do not understand what stress it is to stay home all day and deal with 2 kids. Your not a bad parent, u just get stressed like everyone else...I will say to keep the yelling where your kids are not exposed to it, its not good for them to see or hear it.

Answer 2

Your yelling is the outcome of too much children and not enough adult time. You need to have a break from the kids. I know you love them dearly but you will be a better mom and feel better as a person and as a woman by taking a break from the children.

Are there any neighbors which children in the same age group that you could trade free time? Maybe a loving relative who lives near and would like an afternoon with the little ones. Depending on your finances maybe spring for an afternoon babysitter or an afternoon at childcare.

Get creative and allow yourself some adult time.

Answer 3

Its normal the you yell at the kids but you have to remember that its not really good to yell all the time because it not healthy for the children. Sometime when you feel that your getting ready to yell get the house quite by laying the kids down and getting a nice ice cold glass of water and that will help you because that really helps me so I know what you are going through I have a 1year old a 5 year old and 1 month so I do know what you are talking about

Answer 4

Yeah, it's hard when you're home raising kids. Since summer has started, I've had to deal with them more everyday. Sometimes I take it out on my husband. He says it comes out even because he works, but honestly, work is a break from the kids. But it's good that you realize this, because if you didn't, you couldn't chage it. Just ask your husband from time to time, if you can take a break after he gets home. Go to the room and read, and if your house gets to crazy, and you cant consentrate, go to the library, or take a drive. It helps a lot. Even if it's like 30 minutes. Take time alone. Every mother needs that, I don't care what anybody says.

Answer 5

I feel the exact same way... I am a stay at home mom of twin girls who are almost 2. The more I scream and yell the more they laugh, it's infuriating!! Afterwards I just take a deep breath and remind myself how much I would never do it in front of other people, meaning I shouldn't do it when I am alone but stuff happens. Maybe you just have a lot of other stressful situations at hand right now. Hang in there :)

Answer 6

I feel you girl , I Work 40-50 Hr a week, its just me & my 3 year old , i always yell ,,, then i feel so bad ,,We find our selfs taking our problems out on our kids, when your pissed off about anything or anyone it seems the first time you little one makes a mess right after you cleaned the house your a raggin lady...or when you look at the clock and say i still need to cook clean give the kids a bath etc etc put them to bed ,,,,it goes so fast and what helps me , is telling my self they are only this little for soo long , dont let it get the best of you ,,, KEEP YOUR HEAD UP< and look at their cuite little faces when they are smileing at you =)

Answer 7

sounds like you need some support. you need to reach out to someone, either your husband close friend family member or even a counselling service. raising kids is tough!!! especially if you dont get alot of help. maybe you could put the kids in child care one day a week? or have someone babysit for a couple hours a week just so you can catch your breath and relax. kids a blessing thats for sure but that doesn't mean we don't need a break from them now and then even just for our own sanity! you will feel better and the kids will love the new relaxed mum!

Answer 8

LOL welcome to the MOM club!!!

That's what I do. I yell. My 3 kids NEVER LISTEN!!!

Daughter is 14, Sons are 11 & 7 yrs.

WE are taking classes at Child & Family Services for Love & Limits. Learning how to discipline without yelling/hitting.

The thing of it is, WE as parents have to do the MOST CHANGING. That is DIFFICULT!

Instead of YELLING, we have to actually GET UP and remove them from the situation and TELL them quietly what they are doing wrong.

Easier said than done!!! LOL Hope it gets easier with time & practice.

Answer 9

Know exactly how you feel, I don't spank, timeouts rarely do anything and what really infuriates me is that my husband doesn't even have to raise his voice and they behave. I feel terrible, and I try talking to them, you know taking them into the other room away from the problem, getting down to their eye level, explaining what they did or said that was naughty or mean etc.., then you turn around and five minutes (if even) they are back at it.

Some days I feel like I have given myself more timeouts (so as not to lose my cool) then accomplished anything else.

Answer 10

It's normal.

It's probably when your trying to think of what you need to restock, and what you need to make for lunch, and the 3 year old is trying to tell you something that doesn't even make sence, and the baby is crying and then the tv is too loud and you notice that something else needs to be cleaned, then the baby throws up and your brain just flickers and you scream!

totally normal