If your children are being molested in toddlers age in school..
1) Would you let her know what happen when she grows up
or
2) Just keep quiet about the whole matter since she have forgotten
2006-06-29 17:12:38 · 11 answers · asked by flurry 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
what happen to the molester...his free roaming in the world living his home with his wife and daughter....the mentor; teachers; principle does not believe saying they new the guy for years....and his still doing sunday school.....
2006-06-29 18:15:48 · update #1
I am a mommy to three girls, and personally if they didn't remember, I dont think I'd tell them. Why burden them with something that could cause so much damage when it is something they can forget. And how would they deal with the knowledge that person, who they cant remember is still out there? I think it would do more harm than good to tell them the details. I would probably elude to something bad that happened, and only go in to detail when they are youn adults, and capable of handling that info, without confusing them.
2006-06-29 18:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody forgets being sexually molested. She may not specifically know that is what happened, but the long-term effects of childhood sexual abuse WILL show up in her life and she will be left wondering "what's wrong with me that I can't make my life work?" I can not imagine why a parent would not want to share that information when it is age-appropriate and help the child receive as much counseling and support as possible.
Please research childhood sexual abuse and find a way to address these issues.
2006-06-29 17:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER keep anything from a child, indefinitely. My "mother" died not revealing to me a VERY big family secret that involved my parentage, and I will never think about her in the same way. You should wait until you feel a child is ready to handle certain information, but a child should never be lied to, or information omitted about themselves, EVER.
2006-06-29 17:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by crazymomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perform the #2 option.
2006-06-29 17:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. It's possible that even if she doesn't have a complete memory of the events, she has a flash of memory or feeling that she can't place but disturbs her. And even if she doesn't, she has a right to know what happened to her.
2006-06-29 17:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by Crys H. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen how much dammage this can do to a child. I am so sorry this happend . very sad. Therapy is the best option.
2006-06-30 14:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok something like this will always be in ur child's mind.. i can still remember wot happened wen i was small..if u dont want to tell her ten wait till she brings it up and then tell her the truth.. she will really appreciate it if u tell her wot happened...
2006-06-29 17:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by beautysexychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be better to tell her because something good happen when she is older to spark a memory. and you would be suprise at the stuff kids remeber. I remeber stuff from when i was 2. so it would be best to tell her.
2006-06-29 17:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by broken hearted n confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably let them know, because they may not have forgotten.
2006-06-29 17:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by A.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her when she is 13 years old......she will be mature enogh to understand....but until then play it cool, and keep her protected..*
2006-06-29 17:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Quinntin P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋