I am SO SICK OF this!!!?

Question

So I will just let my frustration out here, and not subjec real people to my whining. : My f*n sister is SOO SO SO over the top gorgeous, its not even funny. She is like a barbie with those long legs, perfect skin, hair and face. SHe has everything! everything. Everyone loves her and she always gets the upper hand on pretty much EVERTHING (the sad thing is I am NOT exxagerating) I used to try to just ingore it and notpay attention when my parents give her preference and I just fade to nothingness, but it is beginning to annoy me more and more. I know it sounds like simple jealousy, but I really think its just a Frustration out of me being helpless and not able to do anything about it! I really dont care what she is and does IF my nose wasnt rubbed into it all the time !! It drives me nuts when I see her ( we dont live together) and I start feeling real sorry for myself... What the hell can I do about this??? Have you been in the same situation? Anyone !!!????

we are both in college, so we dont live in the same place, and pretty much avoid each other . unless we bump into one another at the parents' place

Answer 1

God- my sister was little miss everything in my family, too. I was the ugly duckling younger sister and just knew I would never be as pretty, popular or special as she was. Guess what? I've been happily married for a long time, have 4 great sons and a stable family life. She's a bar-hopping skank who can't even remember how many guys she's screwed in her lifetime. Her life went right down the tubes after she married and had 2 kids and suddenly her looks were shot and her husband turned out to be less than what she expected him to be. He couldn't support her the way she wanted him to - so she left him and left her daughters with me half the time while she went on the search for Mr. Right. Now she's old and alone and still hitting the bars- still searching. It's sad, but I feel that because she had so much attention at such an early age she felt entitled to it all the time. Whether she deserved it or not. I always felt second best and even though I was much smarter than she was, that wasn't valued in my family as much as good looks. Well, her looks are gone now- and she has nothing to fall back on. The same will happen to your sister and you can't do anything for her. Just be true to who you are and you'll find somebody out there who will value you for the special traits you have. Develop strong friendships with people who will respect you and stick by you and not just hang out with you because you look great. Her life is shallow and it'll start to unravel soon and you can just stand by and watch. Have a great life and remember it all will even out in the end.

Answer 2

OK, no matter what all the other answers say-i know you're not just jealous. I am in the same situation with my brother. It doesn't matter how much I try, my parents always make it out that he is better than me. What can you do about it--sadly, there is not much.
Have you tried talking to your parents about it? (i know that that option wasn't an option with my family, but it works for some people) If that doesn't work, try talking to a counselor or a close adult friend who can give you some advice on dealing with your parents.
And then there is always the 'sucess is the best revenge' option. Which, is true. If you find what you are wonderful at, and suceed at doing it, then you will sooner or later surpass your sister.

Just an after thought---do you know why your parents treat your sister that way? (has this been happening your entire life) I don't know your circumstances (you said she didn't live with you) but if there was a divorce, they might feel that she is going through a hard time so they try to make her feel better.

Good luck with your problem.

Answer 3

First of all, we are real people, second of all, you are entitled to the way that you feel towards your sister, and I can relate somewhat. My sister is not drop dead gorgeous ar anything. But, she has always been the center of attention in our family. Growing up she had an eating disorder, she ran away from home more than once, and she threatened suicide, just to get my parents and everyone else attention. So, I always, felt sort of like, "what about me, don't I count?" What I would suggest for you, is that you get together with other people who appreciate you. for who you are. Obviously, that is not going to be your family, and it is too bad, but it's just the way that it is. So, make some friends, and hang out with those people who make you feel good about yourself. Learn how to love yourself, and then others will love you also. Love your sister, love your family also, but just know that they are not going to be there for you the way that you would like. You may want to seek some counseling also. You'll be OK, and remember beauty always fades, so someday all those admirers for your sister's will be wondering why they even liked her so much, and why they never noticed you, for your internal beauty. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

well, that really sucks but u can use it to ur advantage. first of all though, ask ur parents to stop comparing u to her. u r u and she is her, no two people are the same. then, i bet ya if u think about it, there's stuff that u r better at than ur sister is. she might be pretty, but u r smart. u know u r better at math than her, u play an instrument, u r a better listener, u know what i'm talking about. use thouse things to stand out from ur sister. and also, be her friends. she is ur sister after all. also she might be able to help u in picking better clother or doing ur make up, so that when u compare urself to her u feel urself as beautiful.
good luck!

Answer 5

I'm not in the same situation, but beauty isn't everything. A good heart is. A person who treats others in a loving way is better than beauty. So what if she is pretty just treat her like you would anyone else and let others fall all over her. It's okay. You need to just be you. You can't change your looks but you can stand out for your attitude and if you have a bad one because of this....it will definitly show itself to others. Just have a good heart and show it to others.

Answer 6

Yes I was in ur situation. My older sis got everything and no matter what I did she was the angel in my mom's eyes. I would get so mad at myself and often blamed myself 4 it,but I have grown 2 love myself and know that GOD made me the way I am 4 a reason. Everything u are going through will only make u stronger in the long run. Believe in ur self , GOD does.

Answer 7

Wow, you need to stop focusing on what other people think about you OR your sister. You sound like a victim, when there really is no need to be one. You have to decide what your success looks like and go for it. There's enough for all of us. Change your thoughts and what you see around you will change too. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but you are doing this to yourself. No one can make you feel bad unless you let them.

Answer 8

mm sounds like a tuff situation to me. even if some ppl say ur jealous, i dont really believe u r. u should try to focus more on u tho and just make ur life happier, then u might not worry about ur sister so much. also if u think she is getting more attention then try to be more outgoing. you'll be surprised at how things can change for u.

Answer 9

do this that will improve yourself like get a new hair do pick your eyebrow and start wearing clothes that people compliment on you. i know you don't want to hear that. but i am like the kind of girl that doesn't care. and when i didn't care people said i had a nice personality. now that i do care they say i am a sexy momma and i get some of the things that i didn't have before. and about your parents they will start to notice you more in due time. don't do anything negetive or you will become the black sheep.

Answer 10

My God, do I ever feel your pain!!! There really isn't much you can do about it! The only thing you can do is start to focus on the GOOD things about yourself....Stop focusing on her!!! I was in the same situation until I started getting some dirt on her and finding more and more out about her and I realized she wasn't so perfect after all!!! That really helped boost my esteem and helped me focus more on me!!! Now I am my parents favorite and I LOVE it!!!!! Good luck! That's a tough one to get over!!!