How do you clear your name in a church where all the members are turning against you?

Question

I have had alot of people come against me in a church and just this past week I got blamed for alot of junk that went on with a member of the church and their family but I am clear of all accusations. Alot of people have brought my family into this and that is my extended family. I just don't understand what to do. Alot of people don't like me because I am handicap and this certain person is getting alot of people that was once a friend of mine to try and turn against me. I just really need some answers on what I should do? Should I go to the preacher and all the deacons of the church and let them know what is going on?

Answer 1

Pray to God to help you through it cause this may be a test to see how much faith and trust you have in God

Answer 2

Church is no place for real life emo soap operas and has no place among Christians.

Since there is no mention of particulars its hard to tell you exactly what needs to be done.

Some have suggested talking with the pastor. Thats a start. Then there is the biblical means.

You talk to the person about the problems and try to resolve them even if it means you apologize if he or she feels you started it (even if you didn't - just do not admit to it if it isn't so - nor deny it).

If the problem is not resolved - get two or three witnesses and discuss the matter and do not entertain any or NO YELLING MATCHES!

if this fails - you and your witnesses need to address the Church and if this is not possible - Address the Pastor. He is in charge of the flock.

But be advised if he feels a soap opera is going on and you are in fact initiating it, you have to be prepared to accept it. He may even wish to talk to you and the other party.

A Pastor's job is to keep the church in order the best he can and that requires cooperation from the flock and to listen to him as if listening to Christ himself (falling short of doing something you know Jesus wouldnt ask of course).

Answer 3

Sounds like you need to do a lot of praying. I don't know what I would honestly do because I have never been in that type of situiation. I once left a church because I thought the pastor was phoney. Maybe it can be a good idea to talk to someone who is head of the church like a deacon or a pastor/preacher.

Answer 4

The Bible is actually very clear on this. First, Go to the person or persons who have commited the offense against you and talk to them. If nothing changes than get someone who is aware of the situation to go with you and talk to the offenders again. If nothing happens after that then you should go to the pastor and church board. If that fails to result in a change then find a new church.

Answer 5

The scriptures say to go to the source and seek reconciliation, if it is not granted, take two or three witnesses (usually a pastor and deacons) with you for reconciliation; if this does not resolve the issue, then take it before the church; if the resolution is still not reached, then you Will have to rely on what God places within your heart - you can remember that sometimes God teaches us to grow and rely on Him by the stumbling blocks in our path and sometimes we can know that he places us in others paths that they may grow. So lots of prayer and no gossiping is the only solution. If you find there is no choice but to leave this congregation, then find a new fellowship and ask they receive you by letter. If you do not feel the current fellowship would give you a favorable letter, then before you leave ask that your name be removed from their fellowship and as you join a new fellowship ask to be taken by statement of faith.

Answer 6

This would be a great time to pray and talk to God. This may also be a great time to explore other churches and see what other churches may have to offer. If this church is more focused on negative aspects of you rather than extending a warm hand to you and your family this may be the time to seek your spiritually in another place that may be more fit for you and your family. Just remember to look for signs from God and ask for guidance from close friends and family who have your interest in mind.

Answer 7

Talk to the preacher. He will set up a meeting with a the other party and you two can talk about it with the preacher being present. Guarenteed the other person's music will change when the preacher is involved. And deacons aren't there for this kind of thing, it's definately a preacher sort of deal. And, by-the-by, deacons are "elders". ;-)

Answer 8

Pray to God for strength and guidance. And definitely discuss the matter with your preacher. He may be inspired to do a sermon based on your experience (he wouldn't reveal your name) which might awaken more than a few members of the congregation.

Your handicap doesn't have anything to do with your soul. Those who make that an issue are narrow minded and need prayer.

Answer 9

Sounds like the devil is having a party at your church. Go to the pastor and if that doesn't help pray about it and leave the church. It is possible that God is trying to move you some where else.

Answer 10

I would talk to my deacon and get him to pray pray with me.
I would really pray for those that spitefully use you.The Lord said
to over come evil with Love.When you treat them with Love it will
heap coals of conviction on them.Just remember this verse 1Co 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. The Lord will make away.
In Christ in Love,
TJ57

Answer 11

Repent. Even if you have not sinned. Say you repent. The other members would feel a sense of superiority, a sense that they are closer to God than you are. They will feel nice and smug and accept you back into the fold.

I'd say go to the preacher.