What should I do?

Question

Ever since I turned 13, my parents have been total jerks. They always think that I'm gonna do something rebelious or stupid. And now they won't treat me like a normal teenager. And to top that off, my dad and I hardly even get along, and now my mom's getting hard to talk to. I just want to be able to feel like my parents love me for who I am. I mean, I don't even know why they treat me like this, I never get in trouble, and mt grades are descent enough. Sometimes it seems like everything would be better if I could just run away or even just end it all right here and now. What should I do? please help.

Answer 1

Get a job. Become independent. Quit school. Move out.

Answer 2

First consider that maybe your emotions have changed, making it difficult to deal with your parents. At 13 even though it may not seem like it, your hormones are changing all the time, and things that never bothered you before will bother you now. It is the time when parents and children don't understand each other and both are afraid of what is happening. A lot of what you are going through is fear. If your parents are restrictive which it sounds like because "they always think you are gonna do something rebelious or stupid" it is because they are afraid for you. They are afraid you will make the wrong decision and get hurt. They do love you if this is how they are acting. Trust me, running away or ending it are the worst solutions when you have parents who love you. Try being more open with your parents. Tell them all the stuff happening in your life, even the embarrasing stuff. Talk about clothes, friends, problems let them see what is happening with you. My guess is you have become more secretative (maybe by not trying to) and your parents are left out and just don't know you that well any more.
Most important stop thinking of ending it. I had a friend in high school who did that. I look back and am sad for all the things he will never do, go to college, have a baby, get married, have a job, go on vacation with someone he loves, own a home, buy what you want. Honestly I remember feeling like you do now. Life can change so much in just 6 months, so don't give up, it is worth it! My life now is so much better than the fantasy life I always hoped to have as an adult. Also these thoughts are a form of punishment for those who upset you right? Problem with that is you never get to experience them feeling bad or realizing how much they love you. A much better result is to tell them you love them, see what happens.
Hang in there, if things don't get better find an adult you trust and talk to them, never never give up though!

Answer 3

The only thing you can do is act grown up about the situation. Don't fight in the long run you will see that they are just trying to help. You might feel like they don't trust you but really I think parents don't trust the world they have to let you out in. There are people that might for some reason or another talk you into doing some thing stupid that right now you don't think you will do but you might later on. You are still young and you have a long road ahead of you if you act grown up they will treat you grown up. Try to keep that in mind. Good luck with everything.

Answer 4

Do you have anyone to talk to-in your life? An older friends or perhaps parents of one of your friends? Maybe they can give you some perspective. Instead of asking about the strangers for their opinions. You need to hear from someone who knows you and know your situation? Do you have any avenues for getting counseling through school? This doesn't sound like a very good situation. Try to think of someone you can talk to that you trust. The problems are experiencing may not be as permanent as you believe now. Are your parents getting along with each other? I hope you're able to get some help, you sound like you really use some. If nothing else there are help lines on TV for teenagers. I haven't tried any of them I heard something about it Boys Town hot line. You might try, if you can find someone else in your immediate environment to talk to. Its staff by other teenagers so they might be able to help you from your perspective. I would just go on the web and look up boys town hot line and see what you get. I know it's hard being a teenager, hang in there! The many things looked really bad now they can get better! I know I've been in a wheelchair my whole life!

Answer 5

Okay chickie....I have a 13 year old daughter and you just told me how she's feeling. You need to remind your parents of how your feeling, or atleast your mom. She may ignore you but, most likely....cant stand to be without you. Your 13....not 17.. You are still very vulnerable to the outside world. My 15 year old niece walked 6 blocks from my home to my job today. 3 different cars tried to pick her up. Just plain dangerous. My daughter bitches all the time that her brother (older) can do anything but not her. Well, she's immature. Does not pay attention to her surroundings well. Thank god I sent her thru TaiQuanDo when she was younger. She still knows how to drop like a rock if someone were to grab her. If you were to run away...guess what...the whole damn country would hear about it thru the amber alert system. YOu dont want that now, do you?

I suggest picking up some pepperage farms Sausalito cookies and a cold glass of milk. Offer mom some. She might just remember how much she loves you. I wish my girl would do that.

Answer 6

omg dont run away or go suicidal talk to them maybe see a family counselor and talk about everything u feel that must make u feel terrible no 1 should feel so unloved im so sorry to hear that just keep up the good work and they cant stay mad at u forever but also most parents are worried their kids will be rebellious through the teen yrs do u have an older sibling that was rebellious that makes them act like that? talk to them and tell them u try hard to impress them and u never get in trouble maybe they will realize they are hurting u emotionally and maybe sumthing good will come out of it i hope u can work it out :D

Answer 7

I am a parent and I know how you feel because my daughter gets upset with me. We talk things over after a cooling down period and things resolve somehow on there own course. You know that your parents were children too, and with the way that the world is today, they are only trying to do what is right for you. Are you and your family in church or do you go to church? The first thing that I might suggest is get involved in church if you aren't and turn your lives over to God and let him have first place in your lives and you will see what a positive response this can bring about.
With God all things are possible, and believe me, you do not want to kill yourself. Pray to God and ask him to come into your life and heart and save you where you are and if you pray this, find a Pastor or church member that can lead you on to the salvation through Jesus Christ. Amen to you and your family.

Answer 8

Hi Honey,

I'm 30 and it seems like yesterday that I was 13. First of all, do not run away. Second, although it doesn not seem like it--your parents love you. Especially your mother. She gave birth to you, bathed you, changed you, fed you--she wouldnt do this if she didnt love you. They love you. The best thing to do is: Talk With Your parents. Try writing your parents a letter telling them how you feel, and then in the letter, ask them if you can have a talk. Tell them that you love them, and you need to feel their love and support, as youre getting older now.... As far as them not trusting you--its because these days there are children doing all sorts of dangerous things--and they dont want you to get hurt. Dont run awy. If you want to be treated like a teenager, then start acting like one--and talk with your parents--face to face.

Answer 9

My daughter is 14 and I no for a fact she felt and sometimes feels this way because we sat down and talked.I am only 17 years older then her so its easy for me to remember what shes going through,maybe your mom is 25 or 30 years older then you,so shes a little out of touch. Maybe you can talk to a older cousin or a older teen that has their head on right.Try joining a church or get a babysitting job so you and mom have some space. Time heals everything. Reading might help too. STAY STRONG!

Answer 10

This is a hard time in your life.... Your changeing mentally and physically....DONT RUN AWAY and DONT END IT!! Talk to your parents...not yell...talk. listen to them...they know whats best for you i promise. One day you will see they are trying to help you. Let them know you understand they are scared of the way the world is today but they have to give you a chance to prove to them you are trustworthy and let them know you need room to make some of your own decisions....you are still very young. The world is not what it seems to you. you think you are grown enough to make the right choices but there is a lot of pressure to do things out there that could ruin your life. Respect the fact that your parents are only trying to help just let them know that you need to be trusted and you would never do anything to hurt yourself or them.

Answer 11

Maybe your parents are having problems between themselves and you are caught in the crossfire. Don't run away or do anything to hurt yourself.Sit tight,PRAY even though it may be hard for you at times and just keep telling yourself that things will get better,I'm sure your parents love you so keep doing the right things and getting good grades and sooner or later they will see you for the wonderful kid that you are.You are at an age where every kid thinks their parents are jerks.