2006-06-29 15:43:01 · 28 answers · asked by marshmallow 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
depends on child's age, if you make a big deal about it then they will be more curious and ask more questions
the rule is to tell a child as much as they can understand if they do ask questions (mommy and daddy were cuddling because we love each other, etc) but most little kids are really pretty oblivious and probably wont think much of what is going on if the parent's dont freak out when they are 'caught'
if the child thinks dad is hurting mom, they should be reassured that is not true
2006-06-29 15:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me start by saying that it is not at all uncommon for this to happen. the more children you have the greater the chances. I have a policy of being honest with my children. Yes, you heard me right, HONEST. I know it's a hard concept to grasp, that children can understand a heck of a lot more than we give them credit for but it's true, they can. Start by asking your child if they know what sex is. Let's face it, we live in the age of television. Of course you need to explain to them that this is something that can only happen when two people are in love and are old enough. I also use this opportunity to remind them of all the scary people that are out there and might want them to do something like this with them . Turn the conversation into something constructive, by switching the focus of the conversation but still answering their questions, things will flow a little more smoothly and you will be able to educate them about telling you if something were to happen to them. It is always hard to try to explain sex when you are not sure a child understands what good touch and bad touch are. Use this as a learning experience.
2006-07-06 11:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mother of 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the age of the child. A 2-3 year old, I'd probably tell my son, "Mommy and Daddy were playing a game that people play when they love each other and are married." Any older than that, I'd probably remind him to knock on our door before he comes in, and then ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" Then I'd use the good ole standby, "When two people love each other.... " I wouldn't go too in to detail, unless he asked specifics. But if he was 12 or older, I think I'd get him a human sexuality book.
2006-06-29 23:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Susan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is the child? 5 year old, tell him mommy and daddy love each other very much and thats what adults do when they are in love. And let it go. Dont go into much detail. If 10, time for the birds and bees talk. Dont be embarrased, I think its great if kids can see their parents being loving, not having sex, but kissing and huggin in front of them is good for them.
2006-07-04 13:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by susan b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me--my daughter was 12 yrs old...I avoided the discussion for several hours I think I thought it would go away.-I finally apologized and explained we didn't know she was in the room. I asked if she had any questions about she saw. She said no--however asked why we didn't stop. I did explain that sex is expected and accepted among married people. she seems okay with that.
2006-06-30 12:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old the child is...under 5 its mommy and daddys special time and give an example of special time you spend with your child....5-10 depends on the maturity of the child as to how much you tell them but emphasize its not right to walk in when the door is shut...knock first...unless the house is on fire...even up to eight ...its just mommy and daddy time....10 and older is time for the talk
2006-06-29 22:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and Daddy playing a game only big people can play. Ha! Dang, I not really sure, it a bad situation. IF, the child young enough he may forget it in time.
2006-06-29 22:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did the child take it? I got a cartoon video that was at my child's level. He was very interested and had good questions that were not difficult to answer. Keep answers simple and not complex.
2006-06-30 01:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all my child has never seen me and my husband having sex when we do have sex its when the kids are sleeping and we LOCK the bedroom door so they cant walk it
if you have to they make dead bolts
2006-06-30 09:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he is old enough or if he is too young tell him that you guys were playing a game.
And to prevent this from happening again LOCK the door.
2006-07-01 12:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋