How do you know when it's time to give up on someone who stays in touch, but just doesnt seem that into you?

Question

I adore him, and he's a great friend. It doesnt seem to be progressing and he wouldn't be one to respond to me telling him to buck up or Im moving on. We have taken a weekend away...we get close and then drift. How do I know if he's worth sticking it out for?

Answer 1

Move on now!... date other guys and either two things will happen. 1. you find someone else who is great 2. he gets jealous and you and mr wonderful and you get together...

win win situation ;-)

Answer 2

It depends.. if you are looking for something more.. ie constant companionship or looking to settle down then this guy doesn't seem to be the one.

But if you are secure with yourself and don't feel you need a man to make you happy then it might be worth waiting for. I say this without knowing too many details.

But I hear you.. I have been with a guy for almost 2 years now (we lived together for a year) but now he is always so busy working we are not as close and it scares me to "death".
Now that the attachment is there it would be that much harder to let go.

However, at some point you just have to give it up and look elsewhere no matter how hard it is.

Answer 3

How long have you been "sticking it out"? How long are you willing to stick it out? By asking, it's clear you are starting to think nothing romantic is going to matierialize and it very well may not. But let me ask you this: is that such a bad thing? You obviously have a good friendship with this person. Perhaps that is all he is wanting. Perhaps that's all there is meant to be with this man. So he isn't "the one", you still have a great person for a friend, doesn't sound like a complete loss.

Answer 4

Maybe it's just not the right time. Back off, and see what he does. Sometimes, a guy takes a relationship for granted because a girl is too available.

People tend to want things they can't have. Explain to him that you think it would be a good idea for the both of you to spend more time with other people. If he agrees, it just isn't the right time for you. You might reconnect after some time has past.

Answer 5

If he stops calling or it seems like he's just calling to see if you are "ok" because he can't find the words to tell you he doesn't want more than a good friend.

Give it some space and see where it goes.

If your sleeping with him and its not going anywhere, then g/f you need to back it up and take another look at the situation.

Yes, sex and emotions do go together....well....most times...lol

Answer 6

If he just doesn't seem that into you then he probably isn't. If you adore him, and say he's a great friend then treat him as a good friend, and go on with your life. If he truly is interested in you, he will pursue it.

Answer 7

Depends on what you want from him and what other things are going on in your life. If you can afford to be patient ..then be like that..may be he will realize your importance. Else..he is not made for You, You deserve something different.

Answer 8

stop talking to him for 2 weeks.. only talk to him when he initiates conversation with you first. always be busy and always keep the conversations short (under 2 minutes).. if you DO have to call him, only call to say "hi" and try to get off the phone as quick as possible

Answer 9

if hes the stubborn type then its probably time to move on maybe he just doesnt want a true commitment just yet

Answer 10

well you have to find clues that he is moving on and not interested on the old stuff u use to do together.