2006-06-29 15:16:49 · 12 answers · asked by girly girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
someone said they wanted details so here they are. my dad was terribly verbally abusive. my whole life he told my mom and us kids how we were soo stupid and would never amount to anything. he spit in my face and told me he wished i weren't his child because i took a phone message wrong. he told me at the age of 12 that my parents haven't had sex in ten years and asked advice on his marriage and whether to divorce my mom or not. he threw dishes and glasses all the time at us and made us clean up his mess.... theses are just a few examples of my dad.
2006-06-29 23:32:32 · update #1
Tell him how you truely felt in the way he has treated you as a child, and now you are an adult that those kind of child hood memories you don't ever forget. Tell him that you feel that you can't have a close father/daughter relationship because he robbed you of having that special father/daughter relationship when you was a child. Tell him that you love him if you still do but things can't be the way he wishes them to be between you two. Tell him that you feel that if you ever see him around that he would be like an aquantence or like a stranger off the steet. Tell him that you don't want to hurt him but that's the way you feel if you do feel that way about your dad. And if you happen to see him ever around that it would be all small talk, cause you don't want to be close because of the way he has treated you when you were a child. It's like he has to admit that he was wrong for treating you bad and he would have to earn your respect to get respect. But your not gonna socialize with him unless he admitts he was wrong for hurting you and earns your respect. SIMPLE! It's trust would have to be built between the two of you before you can ever reconcile with each other if that would ever be in the picture years or months later.
2006-06-29 16:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by wildernessfox 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I grew-up in a dysfuntional family. My mom left when I was 5 and popped in and out of my life. I was raised by my father, was not molested, but was physcally and emotionally abused. I had many scars, I was angry for years. I started to take drugs and drink to take away my pain. At age 31 I found Jesus (became a christian). I was set free from drugs and alcohol. And my relationship with my father was healed and he died two years later. I was so grateful for the two good years and I have no regrets. Think about it.
2006-06-29 23:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by tamjz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know my mom was bad to me as a child and still is now I really can't stand her at times, but she's my mother and I would never write her out of my life as much as it sounds like a good idea I would only be hurting myself. I tried it once with my brother and it didn't work no matter how much of an idiot he is I'm going to love him and no matter how mad he made me I hurt because of the choice I made and now talk to him about once a year and that's that.
2006-06-29 22:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by MOVING 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel direct to the point. listen to what he would say. respond calmly and respectfully. remember he is still your dad come what may. nothing on earth can change that. just be prepared to whatever outcomes that this would lead at. blood is always thicker than water. but in the end, if this will make you happy, then its fine. after all life is a search for happiness.
2006-06-29 22:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by patric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried counseling for you and your dad?
If not maybe just being outright honest with him, he will maybe apologize and both of you can come to better terms. I hope you can fix this with your dad.
2006-06-29 22:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never deny the fact that he is still your father... after all that has been said and done he will always be your father, not an ideal one though. but don't lose hope that maybe someday he'll realized all that he has done to you and try to make it up to you.
2006-06-29 22:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by baby angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him. i don't talk to my "natural mother" don't like her at all. she knows it too. haven't seen or talked to her in years and she only lives about 5 miles away. just cause she spawned me doesn't mean i owe her anything. take away the title "father" and ask yourself would you like this person, would you want anything to do with him otherwise, then you'll have your answer.
2006-06-29 22:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you would e-mail this posting, he would get the message...
2006-06-29 22:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Bloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't. .. just go on
your merry way... obviously you've
grown up now, and it's likely he hasn't
good luck, and happy trails.
2006-06-29 22:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he molest you? What the heck. Explain yourself.
2006-06-29 22:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋