Is it cheating on a loved one when you chat on line with ppl who you have known on line longer then that loved one...
2006-06-29 14:48:31 · 19 answers · asked by passonfruits 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been chatting with most of these ppl for years ..
All are what i concider freinds and would like to see some day.
I talk about everyday stuff and i would not be bothered by him looking over my shoulder
how ever he is always saying that am off looking for a new man on line when he is at work, i have even gotten to the point where i now dont clean my history so he can see where i go ...
2006-07-04 17:18:32 · update #1
I think too many people are confusing loyalty with cheating. If you are loyal to your spouse and are not sleeping around with these other people, I would not call it cheating.
A lot of men get really pis*ed off when their spouses LOOK at another guy, let alone TALK to them. But it's OK for them to go to work and chat up the women there, 'cuz hey, the little woman doesn't see them doing it and if she asks they just deny it.
They see nothing wrong with going out with the guys after work for a beer and ooogling the girls at Hooters. They don't consider that cheating
So o o o if he considers it cheating to talk to people online that you've known since before you were married, he better realize that you chose him and not the guys on the internet.
"however, he is always saying that I am off looking for a new man on line when he is at work". Honey, if he is saying that, chances are he's done it himself, or has at least thought of it. Guys like to get the jump by accusing women of these things to get them on the defensive and wondering what they did wrong to upset him so she doesn't see what he's up to.
If he is so worried about you looking for another man, what is he doing to keep you around? Is he treating you better? Is he taking time to listen to you when he comes home from work? Has he taken you out to dinner and a movie? Has he brought you flowers? Perfume? Jewelry? Fine lingere? Does he cuddle you a lot? If he wants to keep you, he'd better be more caring and less accusing.
2006-07-13 14:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, this has happened to me. Once it felt like cheating and once it didn't.
I think it depends on how you feel about the person you chat with, how far you want it to go. Does this person know about your relationship and is cool with it, or are you keeping things from him/her?
I think you can mentally cheat on someone if you're into into this person, even if you don't actually do anything about it, cause you think about it, and you like it.
I have had a friend online for over 5 years and I have felt like a cheater in two of my relationships, because somehow knowing that person longer made me feel I had a deeper relationship with him. All in all, he was not really there with me so there was nothing I could do.
Ask yourself how you really feel and if you do feel like you're cheating then you probably are.
2006-06-29 14:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by hey_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its funny you asked this question because I am going through this right now. I know I'm not cheating but to my significant other, I could be. Most of the people I do chat with I knew already and some are new but the conversations can still be cool and enjoyable. Insecurities about one's own self can lead to this feeling.
2006-06-29 14:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by dirty_g@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no, cheating involves deception, are you deceiving your loved one or the people online? some people can be control freaks and some love creating mental anguish, which one applies here? you need your friends, he needs to be able to trust you, where do you draw the line in the sand that you don't cross. always turn it back on yourself and say how would I feel if the situation were reversed? would you tolerate his chatting up women online? act accordingly.
2006-06-29 14:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you chat about. I have friends that I know longer than my husband & we chat on line for hours. But we chat about mundane things, Our jobs, illnesses, special dates in our lives, family, other friends we have in common. Share our sorrows & our joys. This is not cheating. If however you are having cyber sex, that is cheating.
2006-06-29 14:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what kind of relationship you have with the person online....if its just conversation...no it's not cheating...but if you are doing other things...then yes. If you want to keep this online friend then you and your partner need to have a conversation about it. Explain that this friend is important to you.
2006-06-29 14:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would feel completely comfortable to let you "loved one" read what you are chatting about then it is probably ok. But if ANY of it is something you would rather they didn't read then maybe you better stop. You are cheating.
2006-06-29 14:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends...you know the difference between right and wrong. Also, do you take time away from him that should be given toward working on your relationship? If so, yes. Affairs of the heart are just as destructive and valid as physical affairs.
2006-06-29 14:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the emotional connection that you are making with the people you are chatting with.
You know in your heart exactly whether you are cheating or not.
Best wishes and God bless.
2006-06-29 14:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u subconsiously fulfilling a void from ppl something u cant talk to your significant other about? dig deep down do u feel guilty a little if so then u should stop r they worth u guys breaking up if so then get down how u live
2006-06-29 14:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by es 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋