Ok,there was this girl who I loved.I still do love her.But I allways thought we were meant to be forever.She was my girlfreind.We "loved" eachother.She called me some really bad names once.But she said she was just joking.And she said sorry.Well we were in "love".But the other day,she broke my heart.She left me because she thought we wouldnt work.But now she thinks she made a mistake.And she wants me back.Should I takeher back and ask her if she wants to be with me again?My heart literally feels like its torn in two.
2006-06-29 14:30:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You got to be kidding . . . look . . . you are both too young for this relationship . . .
How old are you . . . 18 . . . 19 . . . 20.
What are your goals and dreams . . . have you accomplished them?
What are your career goals . . . are you enroute to obtaining it?
If not . . . do not take her back . . . because right now she is a distraction . . . and with her in your life . . . you will suceed in nothing . . . and in the end you will asking people . . . paper or plastic.
There are more fish in the sea . . . and focus more on yourself.
2006-07-12 08:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she called you some really bad names and then told you she was joking, I personally would do a double-think. A sense of humor is not supposed to hurt or denigrate other people, especially the one you love. It's supposed to bring people together in joy and laughter.
Then she left you. Really confused girl. Sounds really manipulative. She's gonna crush you like a bug.
If you really want to have this girl in your life. You are going to have to make some rules. Don't spend a lot of time with her. Once, twice, at most three times a week. And don't give in to her. Have something else to do with the guys. Learn to rebuild a car. Or get into a sports club. In other words get a life.
She has treated you despicably, called you names to your face, (so . . .what has she said about you behind your back?) and walked out on you. Not a nice person.
If you want her back, you need to be able to trust her not to do this to you again. It's too much of an emotional investment. If she comes back with "What have I ever done to you?" Tell her she trashed the trust you had in her, by her actions. She may call you a wuss, but come back with, "No! a wuss would put up with this s**t! and I won't." She wants you back? Make her work for it, cuz if you don't, she won't respect you any more than she does now. Don't be mean, but be firm.
Get some self-respect there.
2006-07-13 14:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her why she's so confused about the relationship. You should tell her (if your feeling this) that you don't feel comfortable with her seesawing with your feelings and that she should make a commited decision on whether she really loves you or not instead of wasting your time if she really doesn't. This might seem blunt but it might just be the only way to clarify the situation.
2006-06-29 15:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by caitymercede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldnt you take her back if you love her so much? IF you do take her back--- tell her up front how she made you feel and tell her your not going to go thru that again. I personally, would NOT take her back bcuz I feel she may have broken it off with you for someone else, things didnt work out for them so now she dont want to be alone so she knows you'll take her back... but thats my opinion and thats what were here for right... only you can answer your question but use more than your heart... use your head also...
2006-06-29 14:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me before. My girlfriend left me because she had broken with her ex (who she had been dating for 2 years) and thought maybe she made a mistake in leaving him. Couple days later, she realized that I was more important to her and she didn't want to be without me. She was just scared of making a mistake and needed to sort-out how she actually felt. I took her back and it has been 6 happy months now. I think you should go for it.
2006-06-29 14:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by BillyBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably give her another chance, especially if I still loved her, but I would make it very clear to her that she hurt me pretty bad and I would not be able to overlook much more of this immature behavior.
2006-06-29 14:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...I would forgive her just this one time. If she leave you again than somethings up with her. It sounds like you really love her so try and forget about it. Let it be the past. Hope my answer helps. good luck ;)
2006-06-29 14:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by NK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better do some investigation on that one, she may have had feelings for someone else and it didn't work out so now she's coming back to you. ever been used before? something to think about..be careful and check it out..good luck
2006-07-08 07:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off i am sorry i knwo ho wit feels and second on this situation i know your heart is broken but u need to listen to it and decide if u love her enough to risk it no one can really tell u what to do on this situation because it really depends on how much you love her if you really
truly love her than you need to think if you want to risk it but if u loe her but not "true love" than i wouldnt risk it
2006-06-29 14:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by heartbreaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your heart decide if you really love her then go for it but dont let her do it again EVER dthats jsut mean
2006-06-29 14:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by foxy_goth_6156 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋